Contracts (17)

Do you think there are more pro-dommes than people who practice BDSM with their partners? The numbers from IC (to take one factual source) would suggest not.

Do you think that the number of pro-domme sessions that involve D/s is more than the the D/s exchanges involving other BDSM practitioners? I suspect you'd have more an idea of the proportion of D/s practiced in sessions by pro-dommes than I would but figures for D/s we can get from IC profiles.

How frequently do we suspect both groups have D/s exchanges? Several times a week? Several times a day? We could compare just the members in couples with the numbers of pro-dommes as one factual figure.

Superfically at least I'd say the numbers were not even close and that your right arse cheek is at serious risk

(edited to add: I'd be somewhat interested though if you were right, and it doesn't effect my point really).

- Chris

This is my voice, my weapon of choice

Edited 11 Aug 09, 11:21 AM by Backdooruk

DO you realize what a lucky boy you'd be?

"People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton.

We don't have figures, and I think it;s impossible to undertake a survey, but...

I wasn't referring to single "acts" between people, because it'd be impossible to try and count how many kinky scenes people engage in, and I wasn't referring to that anyway*. Although perhaps people like having a log of their scenes, I certainly don't as a private player.

But as a professional, it;s a different thing. Like all others, I play with many different people. My rate of play is quite high, and not with one person, but many: I must have nearly 1000 different numbers saved in my work mobile. Many of us also engage in BDSM privately, with regular, irregular, casual or intermittent partners/playthings. That's what leads me to believe, given the huge pool of men who pay for sessions, that mos D/s that people practice in this green and pleasant land (and most others), has a commercial basis.

Then again, proving this would be near impossible.

*And most people would exaggerate anyway

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Edited 11 Aug 09, 1:44 PM by Ms_Tytania_London

That's a higher ratio than I'd expected, but I don't think its high enough to be the majority (though is does disprove my 'almost all' qualifier).

You are right that this would be difficult to prove one way or another, but what prevents me accepting your conjecture is thinking about the demographics: Even if the majority of sub men paid for their D/s that does not make it the majority of all.

At this point I think we need bonanza with some of his profile stats...

- Chris

This is my voice, my weapon of choice

On topic, contracts have their place, I used to use a service one a lot in the past (based on a personal employment contract ) but it only really applied in that context.

I don't know what's right and what's real any more

me, and a pal of mine drew up a verbal 'contract' 26 years ago, on how we would live our lives, and how we would stay in each others.... it was great for so many years, as we had a base for our morals and beliefs.. and it gave us stability and security...

but it was very painful when the other person started to ingnore it, for greed and selfishness....

I ended the friendship over that.... an agreement is sacred, and if it is changes, it must be discussed first.

for her it meant she has lost a supporting person in her life, and has to start afresh...

for me it has been hard too, but I feel better for respecting myself against such people.

love is everything
love is everywhere
love is all you have sometimes

Edited 24 Aug 09, 1:23 PM by furry_catgirl