| 29 Jul 09, 11:01 PM phthonos UK(NN), 3 yrs   |
Yes - in principle sounds like a good idea. Nevertheless, I have always avoided the vanilla equivalent because of the one-on-one 'speed' element. Some times you need to see someone interacting with other people before you think - actually I like the way they are. | |
| 30 Jul 09, 12:10 AM Goldilocks UK(SE), 5 yrs |
Well, I like the idea of being able to go somewhere for an evening and talk to lots of different for shorts amounts of time to kind of sell myself and see if I like them too. Would definitely increase my chances of finding a perspective partner than from what they are now at least. I can't wait for the next Club Crimson event on August 15th!!! | |
| 30 Jul 09, 7:49 AM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
I agree with you Fluffy about how frustrating it is to get to know someone online. It's easy to come up with a list of tick boxes with your criteria for a perfect mate. But even when someone ticks all the boxes, the chemistry isn't there. And you end up falling for someone who only ticks a few of the boxes because there is chemistry. But you can't transport chemistry across the internet. Fet speed dating sounds like fun, but I think we as a 'lifestyle' are spread to thinly across the UK to get enough single people together in one place at one time. Munches are the solution. I think anyway. It's a social gathering where you can meet kinky people, see how they interact with other's, talk and test the chemistry. I generally try to get to the Cambridge, Kings Lynn, Ipswich and Norwich munches. Want to get back over to Bedford, but not sure if I will as my new contract is outside of Norwich. I go to the munches to meet up with my friends, but am always open to meeting someone new. Pen xx You say Ouch like it's a bad word. | |
| 30 Jul 09, 8:22 AM dementia_von_gurth UK(DA), 4 yrs |
well in vierw of the fact that i am frequently told that IC is not a dating site and people who attend munches say that they are also not the place to look for a date and taking into account that i wouldn't be seen dead in fancy dress at a fetish club there are not many places to find weird women ... how would one get the right balance for speed dating .. for starters you would need an equal amount of women as there are men ... and the right balance of dom/me sub .. "hi, are you domme" ... "no", .... "okayyy, nice weather" ........ one minute later "hi, are you domme" ... "no", .... "right, nice weather" ........ one hour kater "s'ok .. i'm just going to sit here, no need to say anything" a non-fetish fetish singles event though ... but the fetish definition of single is somewgat flexible, they may have half a dozen "play partners" but still consider themselves single ... that's just a munch though isn't it .. fuckit ... i'm going to browse alt ... all for one and fuck the rest | |
| 30 Jul 09, 3:09 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
Hmm, I'm gonna have to stop stalking your posts; that's the second one's really made me laugh in one day. Good point though. It would have to be subs this side Dom(mes) the other. Oh yuk, sort of. My object all sublime... |
