Leeds Munch (28)

Just to let you know we raised another £35 for Wheatfields hospice in the raffle. That makes a total of £650.17

£195.50 of that total is purely from the Leeds munch peoples generosity.

A big thanks to everyone, and you'll be pleased to know I won't be pestering you again as the campaign ends this Friday.

Thanks again everyone, you're a bunch of stars !

Choozy. x

One day my ship will come in, and knowing my luck, I'll be at the airport !!

I still don't feel relaxed enough to go to a munch, as I haven't talked to anyone in real life about kinky sex. The fact that the Leeds munch is in a gay bar does worry me. I am not trying to be homophobic, it's just not something I feel comfortable about. (In a typical defensive streak, I will mention I like the literature of Oscar Wilde, the poetry of Lord Byron, and the comedy of Kenneth Williams and Alan Carr.)

The memos I have received say to got to a munch. Talking to people in face to face will help me discover what kinks I want to explore. I know bdsm isn't the main topic of conversation, but it is acceptable to chat about it. What are the main topics people discuss?

I now realise that web boards are for discussion. As I'm not internet that often, it was a mistake to put questions on here. Live and learn. I will go through old threads before posting new ones onto web blogs.

Edited 5 Aug 09, 12:59 PM by red_02

Going to a munch is pretty good advice. Now whether Leeds should change their venue to suit you or you should give it a chance before deciding the location is an issue, i'll leave you to work out for yourself. Or you could try Sheffield, York, Chesterfield or one of the many Manchester munches - though some of those may also be in gay bars - its not something i worry too much about.

You won't talk about them at a munch either, or at least not until people know you better, unless you want shunned from your first visit onwards. You will talk about all sorts of things: fireworks, modern art, the best place to get japanese food. All sort of conversation is partaken of at a munch. very few people talk about BDSM.

You are being homophobic. Do you think the regulars are going to grab you, haul you off to the lav and give you a good buggering? The Leeds Munch takes place in the real world, not in your fevered imagination.

If you don't want to go to a munch so be it, yet you say you want to make friends, you have managed to alienate a lot of people on here, in the real life meeting events people use their real name and not their online name, your IC reputation stays on IC, going to an event may be one of the only ways left for you to make friends.

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The fact that the Leeds munch is in a gay bar does worry me. I am not trying to be homophobic, it's just not something I feel comfortable about.

LOL you should be so lucky mate, i've been trying to get gayed upon for months now and it doesn't work....

[1] And by man, I mean dyke. Though you'd be hard pressed to tell on occasion.

I was told that while bdsm isn't the main topic of conversation at munches, it is acceptable to talk about it and ask questions.

Why would you not just go to any bar, if people rarely mention bdsm?

Do you need a special place, in case vanillas take offence?

The fact the munch is in gay bar, is my problem, not yours. I might not be the first to have been put off by this. I think creating set spaces for homosexuals to go, just segregates communities even further.

You think my comment is homophobic, and you are entitled to your view. I am for freedom of speech. Though I would say the same, if the munch was held in a sports bar. If you think I am anti-sport, then again this is up to you. My view isn't hatred of gay people, just ignorance. It is the same ignorance about kinky people, that I am using IC in the first place!

Through Marxism, I do believe in the liberation of all people. As a liberal, I think that political correctness has been invented to divide and rule us. We cannot speak out about the things that we dislike, for fear of upsetting a minority. Simply setting up an ethos of treating others as you wish to be treated, will do. We don't know if we will become disabled. Therefore providing disabled access, could be a relief if you sustain an unfortunate accident.

There was a radio interview with a black football hooligan a few months ago. He was adopted by a white couple in the 1950s. He received both verbal and physical abuse outside the family home, due to the colour of his skin. He went on to join West Ham's ICF (the whole point of the interview). He said throughout all the abuse, it wasn't racism, it was just ignorance. He did however, go on to advocate anti-prejudice laws.

There are two words I mentioned "gay bar". The first I have a problem with, the second I don't. I am teetotal, yet I don't expect everyone else not to drink! You said topics would be varied. "The best place to get Japanese food" is not something I would discuss. I am a vegetarian, yet I'm still not offended!

Bye for now.

I now realise that web boards are for discussion. As I'm not internet that often, it was a mistake to put questions on here. Live and learn. I will go through old threads before posting new ones onto web blogs.

Some people have an issue with being seen going into gay bars, even if they are gay themselves.

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