| 22 Jul 09, 12:10 AM DrMajolica UK(NR), 6 yrs   |
gosh..... thats fired you up hasnt it! It wasnt about all that, although you all seem to have enjoyed getting it off your collective chests. It was wry amusement that the priveleged can display the same type of bored dissatisfaction as the deprived. A beautiful horse, all the advantages that wealth can provide, yet still the same sullen dissatisfaction with her lot... Carry on though, it makes interesting reading. I think too much, therefore I am a bit of a twat. | |||
| 22 Jul 09, 11:28 AM Max_Bedroom 5 yrs |
I understand what you are saying, and am utterly aware that abuse does not have to be physical. I also get your point about the ramifications about a mother treating her child in this manner. The problem I have with your approach is these things are usually very complicated, and that you often do not get a full picture of what is going on from a single snapshot. Even if the child is being forced to walk behind do as not to cramp his/her mother's style (and, do you KNOW this, or have you made an assumption?), I am not sure that someone intervening in the manner in which you say you did is going to be particularly helpful. In fact, it could even make the situation worse. I think that you are trying to help - but I am not sure that you actually did. As for this use of the word "abuse" - I think you have to be very, very careful how you choose to apply it. It is a very serious accusation to make, and, personally, I think that you need to have a better understanding of any given situation than you appear to have in this instance.
Really glad to hear it, but you did say in your previous post "you have your opnion and ways and i have mine that wont change", which is why I mentioned it.
The problem with this sort of thinking is that it is a)very black and white, and b)pretty damned judgemental. Surely parents do not have to give every waking hour to tend their kids? Surely they should be allowed to make a phone call in a public place if they choose to do so, without being criticised and judged? From what you have said, I think it is clear that you act as you do because you think it is the right thing to do, and I genuinely admire that. Too many people do nothing, with the excuse that it is none of their business. I just find your approach a little harsh and judgemental, and I wonder if you realise that your well meaning intervention could be causing more problems than it solves.
The easy part of life is playing by the rules. The fucking hard bit is working out what the rules are. | |||
| 22 Jul 09, 9:14 PM feetintrouble_jemima UK(EN), 4 yrs |
As a kid, I remember really dreading my mum meeting someone she knew in the street, because then it would be jabber jabber jabber, while my brother and I would be totally ignored. (And I don't mind betting we got smacked once afterwards as well for not being patient, and before you ask, that would not have made me happy then.) On a lighter note, this reminds me of a little something from the "social stereotypes" book:
But it's more fun being a girl! Edited 22 Jul 09, 9:28 PM by feetintrouble_jemima |
