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| DrMajolica |
on Tue 21 Jul 09, 4:17 PM to DrMajolica's blog.
How many times have you been in town, and seen some dreadful girl yammering away into her mobile, pushing a rickety pushchair, containing a miserable and isolated infant, and thought "Put the fucking phone away and TALK to the child!!!"
Well yesterday I saw the county "high-end" equivalent. Not a chavvy tracksuited Charlene, with earrings the size of car tyres, but a full blown honest-to-goodness, dripping with lifes advantages and all the blessings a priveleged upbringing could possibly bring Tamara, crisp jodhpurs, hacking jacket and a proper horse riding helmet, clip-clopping down my lane... but with the same slack-jawed resentment at being where she was, thumbing furiously at her mobile, as poor old dobbin piloted his way down the lane, entirely ignored by his rider...
Its a disease, isnt it?
| 21 Jul 09, 4:22 PM Iphis_me UK(E), 4 yrs |
When my daughter was a baby I loved to carry her in a sling because it kept her close to me and meant we interacted a lot more. I also noticed that when I was in shops and so on, other people talked to her more because she was at their level, rather than low down in a push chair. I'm sure it was good for her social development  I have to admit to a mobile phone addiction (especially with my recently acquired iPhone) which is bordering on the unhealthy - but I know when to put the damn thing down and talk to my child! "That hurts......please don't stop!" | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 4:25 PM summberblues UK(LS), 7 yrs |
I was walking into a shop in town as i wass doing so you could hear two women yacking to each other in a slurred language which could just pass for english. On leaving the shop somebody walked in and could only be descibed as soft, femine french to the woman behind the counter. The contrast between the two was well different planets away. | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 5:44 PM TheEndlessEnigma UK(NN), 5 yrs |
Almost as bad as the women in the supermarket checkout queue trying to empty their trolley onto the belt whilst yapping on the phone, and then still talking whilst trying pack the groceries one handed and then having to find her card to pay for the stuff.
It does irritate me, perhaps that because I'm old enough to remember life before mobile phones, I'm so bloody ancient I can even remember life before supermarkets | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 6:07 PM moriganna UK, 4 yrs |
they usually stick the pushchair out into traffic to cross the road whilst still yammering too. <<< has a habit of shouting 'DEAD BABY' out of the window at them | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 6:11 PM Max_Bedroom 5 yrs |
Bit of a generalisation perhaps?
The easy part of life is playing by the rules. The fucking hard bit is working out what the rules are. | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 6:31 PM moriganna UK, 4 yrs |
Exactly
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| 21 Jul 09, 6:32 PM moriganna UK, 4 yrs |
A true one in my area unfortunately | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 8:08 PM Max_Bedroom 5 yrs |
I take your point, I realise that such women do exist, but using the word "most" does not mean you aren't making a generalisation. What I don't understand is why this thread is concentrating on the mobile phone habits of such a distinct demographic. There are loads of people who are massive cocks with regard to the manner in which they use their phones. It is obvious that the woman you talk about is someone you disapprove of; I am not sure quite where you get off telling her how to live her life. Had her kids done something to you because of their lack of supervision, I could understand it - the way you describe it is that you went up to a complete stranger and gave her a hard time, simply because you have made a judgement about who she is. What bugs me most of all about people criticising "young mothers" is the complete lack of empathy for their position. To me, we have to look at the piss poor society that spawns a sixteen year old girl who concludes her best chance of a life is a baby, a council flat, and barely enough money to live on for the rest of her life. It just seems to me that if you want to find a target, you can find much better ones. You might find that they can defend themselves a bit better, though. The easy part of life is playing by the rules. The fucking hard bit is working out what the rules are. | ||
| 21 Jul 09, 8:19 PM Sirs_Froglet UK(S), 3 yrs |
One of the things that most deters me from becoming a parent someday (apart from the whole pain of giving birth malarky and getting huuuuuuge ) is that everyone who so much as walks past you in the street has an opinion on how you should bring up said child and, given half the chance, proceeds to offer it. As a semi-intelligent human being, I'd hope that between myself and another reasonably intelligent male of the species, we could figure things out ourselves.
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| 21 Jul 09, 9:07 PM Max_Bedroom 5 yrs |
This is different. I would intervene too if I saw a child being abused. This is not what you said you did, and I think you are trying to twist the debate soemwhat... The thing is, when you had your say, who was it for? Was it a cathartic exercise for you, or did you really think your angry words would have any actual impact? Were you in a bad mood that day? See, you have sort of described that act as if it was altruistic - for the good of the kids - and sorry, but i sort of doubt that.
Yeah, of course we don't have to agree. IT is all about different opinions. My "opinions and ways" are open to change though... I am not saying you should alter your views on this, or any specific subject, but surely you should be open to change? Just a little? How else can we grow as people? The easy part of life is playing by the rules. The fucking hard bit is working out what the rules are. Edited 21 Jul 09, 9:09 PM by Max_Bedroom |
