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on Mon 20 Jul 09, 12:57 PM to ConsciousnessJunkie's blog.
Do you ever get to the point where you start to think you're going to be sad, single and lonely forever?
I have a feeling that my standards have been set unattainably high and perhaps I should go with my mums advice that she gave me a few months ago when I was interested in a super hunky gorgeous model and she said "Why don't you pick someone more in your own league?". Guess she was right.
I basically it's either the BDSM bit that has to go or the quest for a fit, gorgeous guy that has to go. And frankly since most people are into a bit of kinky sex in the bedroom anyway I think it's the BDSM bit that's going to go.
Certainly I'm not finding anyone around here that I'm really interested in persuing a relationship with, or perhaps I'm looking in the wrong places. I don't know.
I think I'm going to while away my weekends visiting different gyms and sitting nearby, waiting for my Greek God to step out and round the corner. You never know, I might just get lucky.
I think maybe I'm finding IC not very suited as a dating site because it seems that most people just want to suck up to try and get a date. I get guys frequently telling me how I'm the most gorgeous girl they've ever seen and I've got a "divine" body. Well, lets be honest if I was *that* gorgeous, wouldn't people approach me in real life? I was teased at school for being an odd looking, so I'm quite aware that I'm not the best looking person, in fact I feel distinctly average (as my mum tells me, I'm not really pretty enough to be a model...). I should make it clear now that I'm really not looking for sympathy and I'm certainly not looking for people to tell me how gorgeous I am. It makes me feel exceedingly self-concious!
In a similar vein, my photography ain't that great. I am still very much a beginner and frequently get slated all the time for making total beginners mistakes on the photography site. In that vein I'm not even interested in art (I'm only really interested in shooting glamour, I don't know the first thing about art).
Where are all the mentally well balanced men that don't feel the need to brown nose their way to a date?
(Sorry, this turned into a bit of a self depreciating post. I'm in a foul mood. I hate being single.)
Edited Mon 20 Jul 09, 1:53 PM by ConsciousnessJunkie
| 20 Jul 09, 1:05 PM JudyInDsGuise UK(E), 9 yrs |
Only you can decide whether or not your standards are unattainably high, but if you're looking for someone that is pleasing aesthetically (and from your posts that *does* seem to be the only criterion), don't be overly surprised that they aren't feeding your emotional needs. judy I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie) | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:08 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
Well I don't really have many emotional needs to be honest. Just someone with a nice body to cuddle up with and have kink sex with... If I do have emotional needs, well, no one has got close enough to start to fulfil them in the last six months anyway! I don't really like your implication though that good looking guys can't be emotional guys too. They're not mutually exclusive you know! In fact I can think of one particually special friend who is a total gym hunk, he's a model, he's gorgeous and he's ALWAYS there to give me a hug and a cup of tea if I want one. www.felicityfatale.co.uk ~ Fun Photography Edited 20 Jul 09, 1:10 PM by ConsciousnessJunkie | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:10 PM Miss_Hardy UK(E), 5 yrs  |
And following on from this, perhaps the men who are so very good looking feel that they can set their standards even higher than yours. I have high standards myself and have been fortunate enough to date a few men from this site who are stunning. However if all they had to offer were looks and no personality then they were very quickly shown the door. "Have people always been this angry? I've got this really funny idea that before the internet people would just write FUCK YOU! and attach it to pigeons" - Russell Howard | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:10 PM JudyInDsGuise UK(E), 9 yrs |
That contradicts your blog though - you say you're looking for a "relationship", not some eyecandy. Figure out what you really want, and then go and get it. judy I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie) | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:13 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
Sorry, what's the difference between a relationship and someone to cuddle up and have kinky sex with? I thought the latter *was* a relationshiop! Certainly it's the kind of long term, exclusive relationship that I'm looking for! I'm not a very emotional person, seriously. I don't really understand it when people say that they have "emotional needs". www.felicityfatale.co.uk ~ Fun Photography | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:13 PM Backdooruk UK(BA), 12 yrs |
Perhaps it's looking is the problem not what you are looking for. For a variety of reasons, the act of trying to find a serious relationship seems to reduce the opportunities of finding them. So why not try not looking for a while. Just enjoy life and whatever comes your way.
Everyone wants to be loved, not just lusted after. I guess that includes yourself, as well as those you are looking for. - Chris This is my voice, my weapon of choice Edited 20 Jul 09, 2:13 PM by Backdooruk | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:15 PM JudyInDsGuise UK(E), 9 yrs |
It's not what *I* would call a relationship, no. Fortunately, all the incredibly handsome, emotionally fullfilling men that I've dated agree judy I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie) | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:17 PM AstronautMikeDexter UK(E), 2 yrs |
You rang? Seriously though;
And with regards "Well, lets be honest if I was *that* gorgeous, wouldn't people approach me in real life?", not really. All of my most attractive female friends have complained about this at one time or another. The reality is that even the most confident of guys are often terrified of approaching women they find attractive. --- Ha! Edited 20 Jul 09, 1:19 PM by AstronautMikeDexter | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:19 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
No they wouldn't. Extremely attractive women complain that no one tries to pick them up because they think they haven't a chance. Maybe your problem is your active pursuit? Stop looking and increase your number of random encounters which don't involve dating situations. Science, the only religion that works even if you don't believe in it. | ||
| 20 Jul 09, 1:23 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
Yeah I think I'm just going to concentrate on going to the gym lots. As long as I'm looking after myself at least I'll be in half decent shape when Mr-Perfect-Cowboy-Man does walk by... www.felicityfatale.co.uk ~ Fun Photography |
