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| alexandraa |
I was asked recently by a Dominant new to the lifestyle how Colbeh used to set the scene for play with us. How he moved from normal mode into play mode. At first this struck me as an odd question because of course I was his and as far as I am concerned I lived and breathed our dynamic. There was no switching of modes. Then when I wound my mind back to early days I could understand how this could be something that initially a Dominant would think about and need to plan. Particularly I suppose a new Dom, for them to feel in control. So here is my advice from a subbie perspective......
Truth of the matter was when Colbeh and I where first together we lived 200 miles apart and so used to see each other every 2 weeks (and often inbetween too… yummy). This meant when we did see each other he was very very keen to pack in as much as he could. I laugh to remember now the timetables he used to describe to me prior to our meetings. I tell you it was quite a precise agenda. Subornot/minxy will remember it well I'm sure. It used to be something like this –
13.33 Meet at Kings X. Hide from subbie so she looks around wide eyed and worried that she's walked straight past Master.. Leap out and surprise her then dash off at 100 miles an hour.
13.45 Register at hotel and torment subbie by asking receptionist lots of stupid time wasting questions. Subbie hops from foot to foot and tries to look demure well behaved and completely patient.
13.55 Lift to room torment sub some more by not letting her touch, but teasing her hugely, even better if others are in lift because subtle comments can then be made and she feels even more frustrated.
14.00 Arrive bedroom. Make sub stand with hands behind back legs apart not moving while Master wanders about room aimlessly and looking at her maybe touch her. At this point sub is seething with annoyance impatience and desperation to hug kiss get her hands all over Master be beaten and fucked stupid.
14.05 Knees – you know the drill....... Cock worship moment
14.15 or maybe later…depending on amount of cock worship required make sub strip, order her onto bed/against wall and beat in some manner with flogger/cane/crop etc.
14.45 sex more sex and then some sex, move to bathroom at some point for more sex.
15.30 maybe later.... finally!!!!!!!!! sub gets to cuddle Master as much as she likes, kiss caress massage adore and generally be happy snoozey.
16.00 start again from 14.00 position and repeat as often as takes your fancy, which was often...
When I moved close to where he lived that didn't so much change but was less planned it simply became part of our lives. We saw each other so much, often twice a day. I still never knew what to expect exactly. We had certain routines, he had certain expectations of me being ready, bathed, perfumed, jewellery on, clothes off, waiting eagerly for him. I fell asleep once and he was ohhhhh not happy. I always made sure I was up and waiting for him after that. I can't say he gave me long lists of orders, I was just very very anxious to always please him, to anticipate him if possible and to make it so he didn't have to tell me what to do. I liked it that he could flick with his eyes, or gesture and I would know exactly what he meant. Our communication was almost telepathic.
I suppose the key thing is in the early days make sure you plan it out and later on you'll find your own path. Your relationship will be maintained by a mutual desire.
The very best thing about the whole dynamic is the absolute fun and excitement of it all and I would say to anyone that feels they are unsure about whether they are sub or Dom (or whatever label you choose for yourself) or simply seek some slap and tickle. Are you having fun? If you aren't then don't do it.
Move on find a new dynamic try a different partner could be many things but don't settle for dullness and routine. In 2 years we never had that. Everyday was a new adventure, an uncertainty, a thrill and a delight.
I want it back now <stamps foot impatiently>
Edited Wed 11 Aug 04, 11:52 AM by alexandraa
