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| shibari_mike |
on Wed 8 Jul 09, 10:40 PM to shibari_mike's blog.
Welcome to my first blog......which is five weeks late.
Nevertheless, there is good reason for my intention to still make this entry, as it covers an occurrence in my life that I have spent the last couple of years avoiding, that first visit to a public BDSM event.
In my case, it was nearly five weeks ago at the London Alternative Market, an event I had no intention of attending because a) I don't live anywhere near the venue, and b) the thought of walking into a room full of strangers is a scary prospect for me at the best of times, but add the BDSM element and it was simply too much for me to go on my own.
However, having been invited to the market by I_Am_Nyx, whom I had done a couple of scenes with previously, I reluctantly decided to take up the offer and see what's what. Despite feeling a nervous wreck while on the journey down, after a few minutes inside the venue and while browsing through blindfolds, rope, nipple clamps and the like, I was starting to feel more relaxed, and more at ease with my surroundings.
The afterparty still loomed over my head though, and with no previous experience and no clear idea of what sort of things would be happening, I was VERY nervous about going, so much so that just before the afterparty was due to begin, I was sat in the car with Nyx, and on the verge of changing my mind and driving back home.
Cue Professor Tim, who sat down and had a chat with me about what would be happening, and how relaxed the atmosphere was, how welcoming everyone there would be, and how there is absolutely no pressure on anyone to perform a scene during the afterparty. Indeed, I was told that there would be more people watching the scenes than actually taking part.
Chat over, and realising how he was speaking the truth about how welcoming people have been so far, I decided to bite the bullet and go inside.
And what a great decision that was.
Several hours later Nyx and I were driving home after a very enjoyable night where I made knew friends, watched other people playing, learning a thing or two myself, and I even plucked up the courage to double-dom Nyx with Mr Pimms!
To summarise then, this blog is basically a message to all those people who were in my position a few weeks ago, nervous about attending public events. Now, here I am having attended three events in five weeks - and doing a scene in each one - trying to persuade others who are sitting on the fence about whether or not to go. Surely that alone is a testimant to how relaxed, friendly and enjoyable the events are.
My thanks go to Nyx, Tim and Mr Pimms for all playing their part in a great night, and just to add, I attended last week's LAM as well and had an even more enjoyable time.
| 8 Jul 09, 10:49 PM polyanna UK(CV), 4 yrs |
Glad you enjoyed it!  "That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That hurt! (Do it again)" | |
| 9 Jul 09, 1:36 AM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
People like Professor Tim are a huge asset to the BDSM community. He and those like him are great with newcomers and do a lot to demystify what might otherwise be a rather scary thing to do for the first time. All credit to those who devote time and effort to helping others in their start along the road. It's occasionally a somewhat thankless process, but most of the time it's a joy to see how people blossom and transform themselves. Edited 9 Jul 09, 1:38 AM by KinkyRoly | |
| 9 Jul 09, 9:23 AM MasterOfMe UK(WD), 6 yrs |
We've made it to LAM a few times but never to the after party. I gather you recommend it?
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| 9 Jul 09, 11:20 AM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
I'll second that! And well done Mike for biting the bullet. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | |
| 9 Jul 09, 7:21 PM shibari_mike UK(PE), 3 yrs |
Very much so, it's very relaxed and friendly, and there are plenty of tables and chairs where you can sit back and watch others play. Or, if you'd like to do a scene with your sub, just find an empty space or a piece of furniture that's not being used and go for it. If you do come, and Nyx and I are there, be sure to come over and say hi! A wise-man once told me never to trust anything a wise-man tells you. | |
| 12 Jul 09, 10:04 PM PlayerOfGames UK(E), 5 yrs |
Glad to hear that it isnt all as scary as it seems | |
| 15 Jul 09, 1:15 PM Degenerate  UK(M), 4 yrs   |
Hiya shibari_mike Great to hear how much you are enjoying going out to BDSM events. It took me years to venture out and when I did,same as you I was nervous as anything and enjoyed myself tremendously. De Sign up to CAAN's statement www.caan.org.uk | |
| 28 Jul 09, 2:49 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
being new to going out on the bdsm community is one of the biggest thrills i can remember...i would love to feel a buzz similar to that again coz the head rush of excitement was phenominal, especially post agorophobia...it is such a fast rate at which to meet lots of new and interesting people, all whilst being choofed that there are people out there who understand something that could potentially be a big part of you and your lifestyle good on ya for getting out there
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