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| alexandraa |
Interesting post Morticia. I think it all depends on what your self perception is and I suspect an awful lot of folk would say they fall into the cerebral pot. Whereas others may see them from the outside and think nahhhhh. My thoughts, as those that follow my writings will know, have been somewhat confused for the last couple of months. My last relationship, in my opinion, was intense, fulfilling, very positive and tremendously cerebral. My views now are - why label?
We are what we are. I know what I enjoy and I know what gives me an erotic buzz. In all honesty that is a combination of things. I think overall it's the powerplay, the mind fuck, the almost telepathy of truly mentally connecting with someone whether that person's key drivers are dominance, submission or a bit of both to varying degrees. The feeling of holding the power and the key to someone's self esteem, happiness and sexual fulfillment are the same for sub and Dom.
I felt that power (what a submissive with power? - gods forbid) very clearly as a submissive and knew exactly what I needed to do and how I needed to behave to give my Dominant all those feelings. My greatest joy was turning a sour stressed mood into relaxation and contentment, to see frown lines and headaches melt into smiles and sighs of pleasure. If that's not power I dont know what is.
I view people's sexuality as lying on a scale where at one end you have 100% homosexual and at the other 100% heterosexual and all the way along inbetween you have varying degrees. Is that not so too for Dominance and submission?
Perhaps the degree to which we submit or dominate is dependant upon the person we have connected with. The more I think about it the more I think that at least is the case for me. I dont see myself in a particular box. I do see myself as able and willing to give tremendous joy, love and fulfillment to the right person, so long as we make a mental connection, so long as we bounce and feed from each other cerebrally.
I wait to see where the dynamic will fall according to the person I connect with. Perhaps that is submissive behaviour in itself? All I know is there are endless possibilities. Isnt that exciting? So much fun to be had.
Edited Sun 13 Jun 04, 5:42 PM by alexandraa
