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| alexandraa |
I've been reading my book on Status Anxiety and found something veryyyyyyyyyy interesting in it. It was about love. The root of what we are searching for apparently, but not in the way you might think. Once we have secured the basics in life - food and shelter, the book suggests our predominant impulse to succeed does not so much lie with attaining possessions or power but lies in the amount of love we stand to receive as a consequence of high status. Money, material possessions, fame, power are all ways to access this love, they give us status. My understanding is the author means this love to be attention and flattery from other people. Other people pay us attention when we have achieved a certain status in their estimation. Our views become important to them, our failings treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered too.
Its a kind of wider thing than romantic love. That got me thinking some more and my thoughts are this. Submissives gain all that through the love of their Dominants and actually need very little else and need no regard from other people around them. Submissives are far more likely to say material possessions and money are meaningless to me than a Dominant would. Their feelings of high status come primarily from the regard of their Dominant. Their Dominant being the key person whose opinion they are truly truly concerned about. Maybe a couple of friends too eg as with evil twin, Colbeh and I. Although of course with Colbeh I have history that make his opinion important to me.
Dominants on the other hand look wider than that and look to achieve status in the eyes of more than their submissive. They therefore have a need for a wider circle of people that hold them in high regard. They need that feeling of admiration and respect to come from a wider circle.
I'm speaking generally here of course.
Anyhow interesting book and now I feel the need to rest having thought so deeply about "stuff".
Edited Mon 7 Jun 04, 12:52 PM by alexandraa
