Posted by ntwman
on Tue 7 Jul 09, 12:23 AM to ntwman's blog.
Comment deleted because you do not allow replies to be visible.
Fine sorted that, just couldn't be bothered with fiddling with the settings before. If its that important make new post.
| 7 Jul 09, 9:12 AM astrid_the_spy UK(G), 8 yrs |
The comment I would have made on your other blog was to question why 2 women kissing was intimidating? Was it because they were goths and fat? Are they only meant to kiss in private. I found it ironic that you said you were less judgemental than "vanilla" people yet then went on to be entirely judgemental about 2 women. I don't really want to get involved in a debate with you but I find it most frustrating when people claim to be open minded and then prove themselves to be otherwise. Perhaps it wouldn't do you any harm to challenge why you and others felt intimidated by 2 women kissing in a village. (And yet again my reply is not instantly visable!!!) | |
| 7 Jul 09, 7:39 PM ntwman UK(BS), 8 yrs |
Sorry I thought I had sorted that out.
I don't want to get into a debate either however the situation was, it was a munch in a vanilla setting, people were told to tone down dress and behavior etc precisely because of the location. It was my first munch in fact, the whole thing was unfriendly and I thought that they were trying to make a point. They were intimidated people coming in and it was commented on by other people not just me.
If the situation had been reversed and I had my girlfriend in on a lead (or the other way round) I would think that we would have been asked to leave. I go to the Hatchet in Bristol and you don't get that kind of attitude at all, its a gay, fetish and vanilla place where people tolerate each other. I also attend SWAMP from time to time and again everybody is made to feel welcome. Oh and if I saw two women kissing in a street I wouldn't take much notice to be honest. Life it too short for boring sex | |
| 7 Jul 09, 9:28 PM gipsydelight UK(PO), 7 yrs |
i read your original post and wondered where the munch was. Now that i see you mention places in Bristol and the only munch held at a BS postcode is the Bristol Munch, it could be thought that you might be talking about that particular munch. Although Bristol is a city and not a village. I would like to make it clear to other readers that this situation never occured at the Bristol Munch. As a Bristol Munch organiser I can confirm that we have never had a fat gothic lesbian couple attend the munch, let alone block the entrance to the munch, causing people to be intimidated. Perhaps, what you might have seen are two BBW ladies, dressed in black, giving each other a friendly hug and kiss. That is a vanilla behaviour. It could be that it is your prejudices that have caused you to have formed your opinion, and you might need to re-examine your view of yourself as an open-minded individual. cheers gipsydelight
Edited 7 Jul 09, 9:30 PM by gipsydelight | |
| 8 Jul 09, 12:17 AM ntwman UK(BS), 8 yrs |
Hi gipsydelight, this event happened a few years ago and I must admit it put me off going to munches locally also this whole thread has got out of hand as far as I am concerned. I suppose my point was (which seems to have been lost, maybe because of my lack of articulation and the way that written text can be misinterpreted) that I felt vulnerable attending my first munch having got enough courage to go and the whole experience was colored by the behavior of some people at that particular event and the small mindedness of superiority amongst some people . It has nothing to do with your munch and I never implied that in my thread! Fine you can question my open mindedness. But I have never made a big thing about my sexuality and forced it publicly on anybody else just to make a point!!
I have seen many people of all orientations being a little intimate at times so what. I think that people on here are too quick to judge!
I include myself as well at times!!
Life it too short for boring sex Edited 8 Jul 09, 12:49 AM by ntwman |
