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4 Jul 09, 11:48 AM
LadyKayleigh
UK(BN), 5 yrs

I enjoy to watch BDSM - no matter who on who. Many dominant women find Mm very hot - for me it doesn't matter if that's mm or Mm - it's the dynamic that counts. (if it is mm though, I could influence it as F, whereas for Mm I am passive and just watch). Same goes for Mf - I don't switch nor am I bi, but it is nice to watch Mf play for the dynamics.

Oh that just made me thing. I used to go to a gay club and was often the only female. I sometimes took part in the BDSM play as dominant part if there were males who liked to be dominated by females - but it was never sexual play, bur either SM or DS or B. I know that most female only clubs would never accept any males to attend at all though. So it might be a gender question rather than dominant/submissive one?

taking a break

4 Jul 09, 11:52 AM
Shamonu
UK, 7 yrs

Tanos wrote:
Events without male dominants

Being attracted to women only, well mostly is my reason

Plus the Dommes I know are a bloody great laugh and I believe throwing Doms into the equation would change the dynamic for the worse. A lot of Dom fellas I know smell of fags, bo and and/or talk out of their arses, they also like to take over. I wouldn't be comfortable with them around as I would never sub to a male and as I will be subbing at my event, they ain't coming anywhere I'm going.

Would be interesting to watch a sub hunt with M/f/m. I'd love to watch the guys fight over who is the Domliest, the better shot and the better shot, get ma drift. Would be nearly as good as Big Brother. Set one up and I'll film it, I'd make a fortune!!

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Edited 4 Jul 09, 12:05 PM by Shamonu

4 Jul 09, 12:50 PM
Taserina
UK, 2 yrs

I personally wouldn't have wanted male dominants at the hunt because it would have changed the whole balance and feel of the event (unless of course they were going to be 100% subservient to the women). For me, it was the gender/Ds balance that made it so special.

4 Jul 09, 1:03 PM
M_376_M
UK, 3 yrs

I don't have a problem playing in front of male dominants & have done so at mixed events.

I do find it's easier to suspend disbelief & go deeper into the headspace when the only energy going on around me is Fm tho'.

I think it depends what you're looking for. OWK is an ongoing enclosed fantasy environment. The Cruel Huntress & others are obviously trying to achieve the same sort of thing, just for the day. I don't think you can really compare them to a club type of event anyway, even at Pedestal there's music & partying going which can divert attention away from play.

I have enjoyed watching Mf scenes (& do sometimes switch) but doing so is likely to make my mind wander away from the meditative state I'd be looking to achieve as a sub.

Every event is different however & I think most of us can adjust (at some level) to what might be appropriate on that specific occasion. If I was feeling a bit switchy I would probably be going to an event which wasn't Fm only TBH.

376, xxx.

"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win" - Gandhi

4 Jul 09, 1:19 PM
Jahc99
UK, 5 yrs

lady_kayleigh wrote:

There seems to be a host of secondary questions when you throw gender issues into the mix as well! TV subs, are they male, and what of TV dommes? How does a gay dom doming his boy sit alongside femdom, and so on.

One thing I like about the femdom dynamic, is I can save myself from thinking about stuff like that as their Ladyships will decide!

Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you?
The antidote to whinge threads...?

4 Jul 09, 1:42 PM
Ishmael
UK(SE), 12 yrs

mrboo_sirevilbastard wrote:
Only if you think that way and are a total asshole like one Dom I know that told people all females are sub but they dont know it.

A delightful old chestnut! How we larfed.

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4 Jul 09, 2:01 PM
M_376_M
UK, 3 yrs

Jahc99 wrote:

One thing I like about the femdom dynamic, is I can save myself from thinking about stuff like that as their Ladyships will decide!

You knows it!

"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win" - Gandhi

4 Jul 09, 2:04 PM
yoda_dog
UK(HP), 5 yrs

Ms_exwalkingwallet wrote:
For quite some time, I've only attended femdom only clubs. Not being judgemental, but the sight of a man hitting a woman(regardless of context)makes me feel quite sick.

Why?

"Bottom line: it's couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time."

4 Jul 09, 2:09 PM
yoda_dog
UK(HP), 5 yrs

mrboo_sirevilbastard wrote:

Miss_Namio wrote:

Caracal wrote:
Is it because women organise events around their interests and men don't?

It could be!

Although Club Pedestal is (mostly) organised by male admirers of dominant women, for dominant women's pleasure.

Perhaps we have more of an abundance of creative ideas for scenarios, events and parties?

An event which is totally FemDom oriented does have a rather special 'feel' to it. I'm sure that a totally MaleDom event would have its own special dynamic too, were someone to organise it.

Regarding my own personal experience I have met *some* doms at events/social events in the dim past who were disparaging about male submissives; and who were oddly disturbed by seeing/the idea of seeing another man's cock. I also have encountered *a few* professed dominant men try to 'turn' me - perhaps they regarded it as a challenge!

However I must say that the majority of Doms I've met have been a pleasure to know - as have most kinky people.

Apropos of the OP mentioning OWK - I've always thought it should be called OWQ

I work for Club Pedestal I am not sub in anyway I do sub when I am in the mood but I work for Club Pedestal. I like the vibe and find it a pleasure to work there seeing what I see. with all the male slaves like romans slaves and with men being men by opening doors and so on. and in the 4 years I been part of the club I have never seen a male try to be dom ever. even doms I know enjoy going with there parters and letting them have the dom fun for once even some doms let there parters dom them just for the night. and in my book anyone can be dom if you put your mind into it. and the best subs make the best dom's

Most females are dom anyway as most men will sub without thinking when there cock tells them too. most males doms will not say so but they aslo know so.

My bold.

Come on boo, you should know better than that. Firstly, you slag off someone that says all women are subs, then say that most women are really dom!

Surely sweeping statements either way are a little bit silly...

4 Jul 09, 2:19 PM
Prunesquallor
UK(RG), 6 yrs

Tanos wrote:
Events without male dominants

Two (1 and 2) events recently have stressed that only female dominants are to be involved, and there are others out there. The OWK in particular has a no male dominants rule.

Is there something about male dominants being around that interferes with female dominance?

Regards,

Tanos

You are bad! lol

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