Events without male dominants (95)

Only if you think that way and are a total asshole like one Dom I know that told people all females are sub but they dont know it.

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I work for Club Pedestal I am not sub in anyway I do sub when I am in the mood but I work for Club Pedestal. I like the vibe and find it a pleasure to work there seeing what I see. with all the male slaves like romans slaves and with men being men by opening doors and so on. and in the 4 years I been part of the club I have never seen a male try to be dom ever. even doms I know enjoy going with there parters and letting them have the dom fun for once even some doms let there parters dom them just for the night. and in my book anyone can be dom if you put your mind into it. and the best subs make the best dom's

Most females are dom anyway as most men will sub without thinking when there cock tells them too. most males doms will not say so but they aslo know so.

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Edited 4 Jul 09, 5:29 AM by mrboo

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I would disagree somewhat there; half of the fun for me when considering play is what I can do with the scene, how I can make it memorable or interesting for the both us, using what I know about them and our relationship. Most of the male Doms I know (or have known) are of the same ilk. That's not to say, of course, there are others who head straight for the abuse/play.

It would be interesting to have an all male dominant event, if only to see how well it worked and what the subs' experiences were like.

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There are clubs which are strictly Fm - it adds to the dynamic knowing that all females act dominant and males act submissive at this kind of event. I use the word "act" because they don't have to be dom or sub. Some are switches who only live one side at this Fm event - but I also know of male doms who dared to act a bit s - or just enjoy the female dominance, and I know female subs who don't usually switch but still enjoy to "try" things out on the other side or who just enjoy being pampered/worshipped by men.

So there seems to be a certain atmosphere which allows people to sometimes forget about their "normal roles" - whereas I found that the opposite is the case in an environment with male doms, who act dominant. I know many male doms might have a small percentage switch personality and they would never dare to let that out if other male doms were there and could "see them". Female subs seem to feel intimidated by male doms so that they also don't dare to try out if they might enjoy the other side of the coin.

Just my experience really, but I found that female dommes are judging less. If a male wants to try to submit, or maybe just enjoys the "gentlemen" side of things, serving or pampering, but is still dominant in all other regards, he can live out this side. I found that if male doms see a woman in an obviously submissive position/situation they remember this and will sometimes even years later assume that this woman "is" a sub.

I know a domme who is also masochistic and she played with one of her subs in a club. At some point she ordered her sub to whip her, as she enjoys the sensation, but she was in charge, telling him how to do it, when and where - he was following her orders. However, this was a mixed FMfm club and many of the male doms only noticed the sm side of things, not the attached ds one. Those male doms were pestering the female domme all night long, telling her that she wasn't dominant, but was really sub and they saw that the male whipped her...

That might be a reason why some clubs prefer female dominants only? There is a special atmosphere at Femdom events - and I am sometimes sad that my male dom friends can't come to these clubs as male doms (they can however, of they wouldn't play as dom, but hey, we all want to play if we feel like it! )

Males seem to be more attached to labels than females in my experience, and often can't have a more flexible view. Not everybody who submits in a certain situation is a sub - not everbody who dominates is a dom/me.

Oh and the gate used to have male dom/female sub only events. I also know some Mf events in Germany as well. The big difference to Fm events in my experience was that Fm events are usually ok with M attending, as long as they don't act dominant, whereas most Mf events I know wouldn't even let F attend, unless they agreed to be f.

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That's interesting. The Domme Coven only have males as submissive, but when considering the male dom equivalent, I'd have no problem with femdom types joining us, if they wanted, they'd just have to be honourary blokes for the duration!

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See, I wouldn't have a problem to attend a Mf event just to watch, or enjoy the atmosphere, but most of the event organisers I spoke to told me I would be expected to be submissive if I wanted to attent. I have never heard the same for femdom events. If somebody doesn't want to take part, that would be absolutely fine.

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There is another aspect, mind. I for one thoroughly enjoy watching a femsub being played with by a female dominant. Maybe women who enjoy boy on boy action prefer them both to be submissive? All generally speaking of course.

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