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| 3 Jul 09, 4:16 PM TheFalconer UK(S), 6 yrs   |
Do such things even happen in the UK? "Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:17 PM BarbieSlutLoki UK(E), 6 yrs |
Probably the nearest is Male 'Bear' events lol The first rule of Brat Club, we don't talk about Brat Club... | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:37 PM blacksheepboy UK(CR), 3 yrs |
I don't think so. I go to clubs / events attended by people of every orientation, and I'm not personally put off by that - on the contrary I like the variety. I usually go as sub, although I do switch. I don't feel I can only sub in a special femdom environment. Having said that, clubs like Pedestal et al do offer something a bit different for those of us who enjoy femdom, and one can get more immersed in that headspace when there is no male dominance going on. Some of these events have a role-play aspect, and clearly it's easier to get into the role if everybody else is reading from the same script, as it were. So, I see no great difference between having a femdom event, a schoolroom CP event, a pony-play event or any event devoted to a particular flavour of kink. Variety is great, but sometimes it's just nice to enjoy one of your favourite kinks in a purer, undiluted form.
I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence and insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me - Hunter S. Thompson. | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:44 PM Bubbles_2 UK(E), 6 yrs |
From the sub's point of view, i have been in situations (for instance maiding at a dinner party) where one is subservient to both genders and that's not a problem for me..but then there's subs and there's subs... Club Subversion Crossing the Rubicon FleursduMal bobette's Facebook Beginners Guide to BDSM | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:47 PM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs   |
I wonder if some femdom events, like the ones you describe, are there to cater for people (both domme and sub) who want a bit more than just play and socialising with like-minded people; maybe they want something more like a sort of bubble of 'female supremacy'. That might account for the fact that I've occasionally got the impression from the odd domme at mixed events (and I do mean just the odd one), that they were in a particular state of mind whereby all men were there to be talked down to by them. Maybe some less savvy male 'doms' also take the same attitude with female subs and I just haven't noticed? Either way, I can't see many female subs entertaining that kind of prevailing attitude for very long.
Edited for tyops by El_Presidente | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:55 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
I've never met a female Dominant who felt uncomfortable around male Doms. However, I've met many submissive men who feel uncomfortable if male Doms are around. in fact, it's a very common occurrence. Probably more to do with that fragile, brittle quality, masculinity. It's something men who attend Pedestal, for example, frequently comment upon: how much more relaxed they feel knowing there are no male dominantns in the house. Oh, and this too, without any doubt:
Male and female Dominance are very different, indeed. It deserves its own thread, actually. Pornified Man-Hater Extraordinaire. Edited 3 Jul 09, 4:59 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 4:59 PM PrinceCaspian UK(SE), 6 yrs |
ouch "Patriotism is the virtue of the vicious." Oscar Wilde | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 5:10 PM Rosalee UK, 6 yrs |
I agree. Whilst there are almost certainly more tiresome male subs around than tiresome male doms, in my experience it's usually the doms who have most difficulty in understanding the word "no". Sometimes makes me wonder if what they are really after is a good slap. | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 5:12 PM merrynb99 UK(SL), 5 yrs |
Hasn't it already been endlessly discussed that - at the most sexual level - the nature of female dominance and male dominance is often very different; with many femdommes requiring male submission sans penetration, and male doms requiring "all access" to their femsubs? Although this is a generalisation, and I don't want to stereotype, could it be a possible reason for these events where the request is for femdommes only?
"I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing.” (Buddy Hackett) | ||
| 3 Jul 09, 5:20 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Interesting thread, I must say. Especially as we are planning some femdom nights down here, and the one question I hadn't asked myself, is 'why?' I think I agree with what has been said, it can be tricky for some male subs,but doesn't bother many female dominants as such. I think though, that an event dedicated to femdom, is a celebration of that dynamic, and as such female dommes only nights are a fine thing. Make the whole event dedicated to that, and you can get an extra something to the vibe, not so much because you have exluded the male doms, but because the one dynamic is being focussed on more clearly, celebrated specifically, given pride of place and all that. Or that's what we are hoping for! We also hope it will bring more female dominants and male subs out to play, knowing that this space is being specially tailored to them, and they will be amongst the like minded. May I ask their Ladyships a secondary question? Is there a difference between femdom with subs (male, female, TV/TS etc), or specifically femdom with male sub? PS. It's great being switch! Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? |
