There is such a thing as a dom! (33)

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Fri 3 Jul 09, 1:36 PM
rabbot
10 yrs The previous post was a thought experiment merely to show that our sexual orientation does not exist in a vacuum indeed even our most bizarre fantasies have to based upon something encountered in our social life, for some in our childhood, and for others later on.
So does this mean that if someone who is inherently dom but cannot find a woman to submit to him is an impotent dom? Impotent in his domliness that is.
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3 Jul 09, 3:08 PM
El_Presidente
UK(G), 2 yrs

Haven't you had enough of this?
You seem like a nice guy, so I'm not trying to be unkind here, but I really don't think it's doing you any good airing whatever 'issues' you have with doms.
If I were you, I'd delete the thread before somebody copies it.
Edited for tyops by El_Presidente

3 Jul 09, 3:45 PM
BarbieSlutLoki
UK(E), 4 yrs
What about Dom masochists, they must have a tricky life ?
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3 Jul 09, 4:08 PM
BadWulf
UK(TA), 4 yrs
Y!
On a slight tangent, have chatted with many female subbies who have had multiple experiences with Impotent Doms, there do seem a lot of them about
I always assumed the BDSM D/s gave them the ability to compensate providing mental and emotional fulfilment even if no chance of physical relief perhaps?
Thoughts appreciated
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3 Jul 09, 4:09 PM
AntonChigurh
8 mths Who would have thought that Father Ted could be so bitter?

3 Jul 09, 4:19 PM
Miss_Hardy
UK(E), 3 yrs

AntonChigurh wrote:
Who would have thought that Father Ted could be so bitter?
I just choked on my magnum. Here have some internets.
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3 Jul 09, 4:23 PM
Degenerate
UK(M), 3 yrs

rabbot wrote:
There is such a thing as a dom!
The previous post was a thought experiment merely to show that our sexual orientation does not exist in a vacuum indeed even our most bizarre fantasies have to based upon something encountered in our social life, for some in our childhood, and for others later on.
So does this mean that if someone who is inherently dom but cannot find a woman to submit to him is an impotent dom? Impotent in his domliness that is.
Aw now you sound kinda like you are being unkind - is that what is intended? You don't usually strike me as the unkind type, so I doubt it.
Anyway, no.. I think it just makes him single. Thread one was here for anyone who missed it. I quite enjoyed that thread to be honest! http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/241310/0
De
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3 Jul 09, 4:33 PM
PrinceCaspian
UK(SE), 4 yrs
Y!

Degenerate wrote:

rabbot wrote:
There is such a thing as a dom!
The previous post was a thought experiment merely to show that our sexual orientation does not exist in a vacuum indeed even our most bizarre fantasies have to based upon something encountered in our social life, for some in our childhood, and for others later on.
So does this mean that if someone who is inherently dom but cannot find a woman to submit to him is an impotent dom? Impotent in his domliness that is.
Aw now you sound kinda like you are being unkind - is that what is intended? You don't usually strike me as the unkind type, so I doubt it.
Anyway, no.. I think it just makes him single. Thread one was here for anyone who missed it. I quite enjoyed that thread to be honest! http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/241310/0
De
Single, hmm I like that.
I once saw a show where a woman asked a man if he was straight...
"I can't really call myself straight in the same way I can't call myself an astronaut, I mean I'm not actually in space or anything right now, but I'd very much like to be"
I guess while not dominating someone, dom or domme or sub for that matter are like straight or gay, an orientation. What you want but not what you are.
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3 Jul 09, 4:51 PM
Ms_Valentine
UK, 23 mths

rabbot wrote:
There is such a thing as a dom!
The previous post was a thought experiment merely to show that our sexual orientation does not exist in a vacuum indeed even our most bizarre fantasies have to based upon something encountered in our social life, for some in our childhood, and for others later on.
So does this mean that if someone who is inherently dom but cannot find a woman to submit to him is an impotent dom? Impotent in his domliness that is.
Impotent, meaning, powerless, lacking all strength. So a single Dom is just a single man with dominant tendencies. I don't see, how being single makes a Dom powerless and lacking in strength. He may lack many things but mainly I would say his lack is a woman.
Seeing as dominance is not about coercion but consensual interraction, being unable to find a partner may mean many things about a person but not that he is powerless or lacking in strength where his domliness is concerned.
Being single when you want a partner cannot be just down to one part of a persons character. Other things will always be a factor.
24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them.

3 Jul 09, 5:04 PM
El_Presidente
UK(G), 2 yrs

PrinceCaspian wrote:
Single, hmm I like that.
I once saw a show where a woman asked a man if he was straight...
"I can't really call myself straight in the same way I can't call myself an astronaut, I mean I'm not actually in space or anything right now, but I'd very much like to be"
That's an awful lot of pish to spiel out where a simple 'yes' would have sufficed!

I guess while not dominating someone, dom or domme or sub for that matter are like straight or gay, an orientation. What you want but not what you are.
By referring to a 'dom' who is not dominating someone, you have acknowledged the fact that someone can still *be* a 'dom' whilst not in the process of domming someone.
To be a 'dom' simply means to be someone of a dominant orientation (i.e. not necessarily someone who is 'domming' right now). That's what it seems to mean to the vast majority anyway.
If you choose to place additional constraints on the meanings of commonly accepted words, just because you feel that that's what they *should* mean, then that just means that nobody will understand you and you'll for ever be explaining yourself, just like the man in your example.

Edited for tyops by El_Presidente

3 Jul 09, 5:42 PM
Sirebel
UK(RG), 3 yrs

So if I'm not single (I'm not) but not currently "Doming" my partner, am I still a Dom? :D
I wonder what Schr�dinger would have thought of it all.
Even Google is now the spelling police. I just searched for Schr�dingers Cat (to check my spelling) and it said "Did you mean: Schr�dinger's Cat"

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