How old is too old? (92)

Kids! huh!

judy

I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)

Actually, from an outside perspective, I agree with her.

Some of the people here have treated the question as a crime because it is a taboo to question age. They have been patronising, rude and some of the people should look in the mirror and think twice before coming out with the classic "It's just you".

I have a huge amount of respect for her having the public honesty which most people don't have, to admit her true feelings about those taboos like extreme ages and other things that make people stand out and "look twice" - whether you want to admit it or not.

Personally I know that I would look twice if I saw a clearly very elderly woman as a Domme in a Fet club. Equally, at a recent event I saw a child who was no older than 2 years old and I certainly looked twice and thought... "what the fuck!?".

People look twice at the things which stand out as different because they are human - but that doesn't mean that what they are looking at is in some way wrong:

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Edited 4 Jul 09, 6:24 PM by IndelibleMarker

i can see in the replies that some people have disagreed with you (i.e. "yes it IS just you"), which happens on discussion boards, but i don't think anyone's been rude.

i certainly don't appreciate being referred to collectively as "some of you cunts". i don't think you'll find that line in How to Win Friends and Influence People.

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Edited 9 Jul 09, 9:52 PM by lushvelvet

"He" is a "she" btw.

My bold. There is nothing wrong with looking twice at things, or having an opinion on them. The OP was written in a negative style though, e.g she *could* have said that she had these icky feelings and wondered where they came from within her, rather than dress it up as "but it's only because I care", or she could have said "I was fascinated by this" in a much more positive fashion. As it was, she chose to view it negatively ("I saw this, does anyone else think it's wrong" style), and further posts from the OP show that only confirmations of her negative feelings were required.

I was patronising to her (and I stated that in my first post on this thread) because I feel that she thinks it's ok to be patronising as long as you say you're *not* being patronising. If I wanted someone to tell me what's good for me, or act like I'm a freak because I happen to enjoy something that's not "normal", I'll take more notice of the Government, thanks.

Having said that though, I *do* understand what it's like to be young and it *is* a time to question the world around you...it would just be nice if it could be done in a more positive manner, rather than asking people (however obliquely) to justify someone else's consensual fun.

judy

I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)

Edited 4 Jul 09, 6:29 PM by JudyInDsGuise

You're not alone - I lie about my age too, after there was a dispute on another site as to whether it could possibly be someone as old as me in my pics. So if I told the truth I was branded a liar - ya cannae win some days!

Everyone thought I was about 15 years younger than I was, though the last few years have really taken their toll, what with a succession of injuries and wot not - maybe it's time to 'fess up?

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i agree with you IM that, as curious human beings, our attention is drawn by anything that is outside the "norm". However, posting about it on a public board and admitting that one found it "yucky", is a little naive at best. Imagine if instead of referring to someone's age, her post had been about someone she'd seen in a club who was very fat/ very short/ very ugly/ very disabled/ very black - would you still think it a fair question in the OP?

i'm not surprised! But i'm not sure you can compare a situation involving a non-consenting child and a fully-consenting older lady.

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Edited 4 Jul 09, 6:24 PM by lushvelvet

Actually yes, I would still think it was a fair question from the OP because I think any question is a fair question because they are trying to learn.

I personally think it is important to be able to discuss any taboo in order for society to progress because that is how change occurs. Pushing something under the rug does not help anyone.

Very fat/very short/very tall/very disabled or even just a silly hat in the street all have the potential to make people look twice - or mentally force themselves not to look at all. I've experienced people "looking twice" and also actively forcing themselves not to look at all; so I know how it feels.

The point of the child reference by the way is that even with my piss poor memory - it stood out because it was so different. The same is true with all the "very" things you mentioned. Anything "very" I am far more likely to remember!

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Edited 4 Jul 09, 6:41 PM by IndelibleMarker

But the only thing that needs changing is the OP's mindset, and thus far she's shown no evidence of wanting to do that. It's not the responsibility of the people having their fun to change her mind, no matter how squicked she is.

If someone asks me why I do what I do, my response will depend almost entirely on why they're asking and the way they ask. Telling me I'm wrong because *they* think I am, and expecting me to justify myself to them for no other reason than they want to let me know just how "wrong" they think I am, usually results in their question not being answered.

judy

I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)

Edited 4 Jul 09, 6:45 PM by JudyInDsGuise