Permanent marks (73)

Gone, but not forgotten...

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/241290/

judy

I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)

Yep I wrote that to try to explain that , leashed cougar and i hadn't "just met" 6 weeks ago as it appeared some people thought but then a couple of hours later decided that (and also spoke to friends about it) that the blog would probably be twisted round from it's original meaning and prolong things so I hid it

^Thunder^
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Memorable bits were: 'I decided I would sooner be with leashed_cougar than gal rosa'

Plus stating (before deleting) that it wasn't his idea to bring in a third (thereby oh-so-subtly passing the blame onto GR)

It read as a weak man desperately trying to avoid any responsibility for what happened.

'We cannot choose what we are, yet what are we but the sum of our choices?'

i think if both/all parties are absolutely, positively 110% sure at the time, then the significance of a tattoo or branding, if the relationship ends (and hopefully amicably), will still hold 'true'; in the sense it would be something to measure a time of your life that was important to you for whatever reasons, be that self-discovery, rite of passage, achieving a goal etc. That you'd look back on them with fondness.

It would be cowardly if someone was less than 110% sure of the relationship to let the other person/s go through with something that had significance beyond 'just a tattoo'.

For me, if the situation arose, i would love to have one, it would be an honour to have a permanent marking...but it just ain't gonna happen. And if you were to choose something 'generic', "just in case" then that's almost dooming it to fail already!!

I'd much rather have chastity piercings and hope that if the relationship failed they'd have the decency to give me the key to unlock them and remove them!!

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I'm at your feet and I come with gifts, my body, heart, and soul. They're yours to do with as you please, to command and to control - Taryn Grace 'At Your Feet'

Ditto.

D for Dominant I think not. An inability to take charge of the situation and protect both subs from distress is irresponsible at the very least and speaks volumes.

Why is it that people think they are good enough to sit in judgment of anothers relationship/break up etc, no one really knows the "truth" of it all but those involved.

Washing all this in public damages ALL, no one comes out smelling of roses, people look bad for getting involved and bringing up the past, people look bad for not calling a halt to it, people look bad for all sorts of things, its just not good and really who wants to know, from what I can see only gossips and trouble makers and people with agenda's known only to themselves.

Something I have learned from IC is you are popular one min and bad news the next no matter who you are and those that think they wont have trouble will at some point be flamed and gossip passed about like wildfire.

Tis worse than a school playground

Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
"Standing up and being counted is the 1st step in the right direction" by Red.

So now, although the tattoo IS permanent, it means something else...

There is a choice here - to decide WHAT that something else is. 'Regret' - 'A Painful Lesson Learned' - I am STUPID for trusting' - 'H.A.T.E'...

...Or can it be turned into something positive, something to carry into your future?

Give the tattoo a new meaning, is my heartfelt advice.

Do not let it be a constant reminder of negative feelings, of anger, of loss, re-invent its purpose, and give it a different power in your life.

The tattoo is YOURS.

X

If someone broke the law, go to the police, otherwise it's just gossip, and usually the type of relationship gossip I'd hope people had got over in their teens.

I don't see women as helpless victims in relationships that you're implying. Someone who based their relationship decisions on the type of hearsay you are talking about posting has bigger issues than the people they get involved with (I'm also struggling to see x_Thunder_x as an effective predator, unless he has a side in the flesh he manages to hide very well online!)

- Chris

This is my voice, my weapon of choice

Edited 1 Jul 09, 1:12 PM by Backdooruk

I gave up arguing with you a long time ago thunder, when you couldn't take losing arguments to me and ran to Admin to get me banned for a while when you discovered a petty oversight of the AUP's.

However, I have always considered you a wannabe dom and your latest behaviour has brought you to an even lower level.

This post by gal_rosa;

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/235850/0#...

And leashed_cougar and your replies;

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/235850/0#...

leave no doubt that gal-rosa and leashed_cougar saw this as a symbol of ownership and your response implies a similar intent to put a tattoo as a mark of ownership on leashed_cougar.

Even if I were to give you the greatest benefit of doubt and agree that you gave it as a birthday present, it is beyond doubt that gal_rosa saw it as a permanent mark of ownership and that you could not have been unaware of her belief.

That you then did nothing to correct her thoughts makes you guilty.

There is a legal maxim - Silence implies assent.

I suggest you stop posturing, stop hanging round munches looking for the next innocent eyed newbie and accept the responsibilities and consequences of your own actions.

Jones 1st Rule: Every action or inaction (conscious or subconscious)has an irrevocable and resultant consequence, determined by the Master and accepted by the slave.
Jones 2nd Rule: A slave is for life, not just for Christmas.
Jones Observation: Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars, kes is from Pluto

Professor_Tim and I are thinking of getting tattooed with each other's bite mark. A non-person specific symbol, yet very personal, that if we were ever to break up would be a reminder of good-times.

As always, all is in the interpretation, of both a choice to have a tattoo, the tattoo itself, the reason why a tattoo is considered/done, and this thread.

I think that the person that decided to reveal that they thought the OP was specifically about them should have let it lie. After all, there was no indication in the wording to any that haven't been reading weblogs that this was about a specific tattoo. It was therefore them that perpetuated their own dirty-laundry washing and not the OP...

Thunder... Get over yourself, you've needed to do so for at least 5 years. It's not all about you, however much you wish it were. I could continue, but I don't feel the need to waste my time telling you stuff of which you will not take note.

(ETA clarity and remove/reorder pretentious 3rd person voice)

All women should have two men and a Rhubarb wielding woman. That's just how it should be. - Me. ++ Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective & permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment

Edited 1 Jul 09, 12:59 PM by MistressNikki