1 Jul 09, 11:16 AM
LadyRed
UK, 9 yrs
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I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
I think more of the "bully" ref is re the amount of posting/baiting, I think it's bad that already 1 person has been hounded off IC re this "dirty washing" and it is making NO ONE look good.
I am wondering why the "injured party" though says she has moved on etc etc is allowing this slagging match to go on, if it was I, I would be asking (as I belive she did in the 1st place) for others not to do this.
Now I am leaving this thread as I see no good coming of it at all and I am not getting involved in hounding people off a website.
fuschia wrote:
Letting someone have a significant tattoo when you were planning to dump them, is the failing.
Expecting them to just "get over it" and rubbing their nose in it by flaunting the new relationship when the injured party has asked you not to, is another.
Accusing anyone who doesn't agree with your version of events of being a "bully" is yet another.
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Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
"Standing up and being counted is the 1st step in the right direction" by Red.
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1 Jul 09, 11:28 AM
littlenic
UK(KT), 5 yrs
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I think it's about time for another on topic post (it looks like the ratio's about 8-slanging-match-posts to every 1 on-topic).
I'm not keen on tattoos. Possibly since being indoctrinated by a father who loathed his, possibly because it just looks like they'll hurt so damn much, and who knows what else?
Of course, given the nature of relationships, I'm not saying never... but I wouldn't be leaping at the idea, and would give it much, much thought, for many many reasons.
(Not least the ex-boyfriend of my sister who had one of her done, complete with name and likeness, covering his whole back. Ooooh. I think he left her two months later. Whooops.)
Personally I'd be much more inclined to go down the piercing route - non-permanent, of course, but with an air of the body-mod about them which, to me at least, gives the same message, really.
And even that, depending on the "where", would need a lot of thought, including the "how will I feel about this if it all goes tits-up" consideration. None of your hearts and flowers, this-will-never-end stuff - cold hard reality about life changing, people's needs changing, and all that stuff. To me a piercing strikes about the right balance.
Kitten... Kitten!
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1 Jul 09, 11:35 AM
scorpy
UK, 6 yrs
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tintedrose wrote:
If I was ever dumped? I honestly with hand on heart and for the first time in my life can say I really don't ever see that happening, what we have can't just fade or disappear, all I can see is it growing and flourishing as time goes on. To answer you question though, if it did happen i'd have something beautiful on my body that someone I had loved had put there and who gave me amazing feelings and memories so would be proud to have it and never regret it
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tintedrose, I wonder how far the dumping scenario you describe (and I am hoping yours is the everlasting kind of kinky love, so dumping does not not come to pass!) assumes a happy ending?
With no reference at all to other events on this thread, it seems to me that it's possible to have warm feelings and memories associated with marks from an ex - but there is no guarantee!! The most perfect love can turn sour, trust prove unfounded, deception or cheating tarnish what you once believed with all of your heart to be true.
It would be quite something to live through this kind of experience and break up while retaining a feeling of pride in the spirit and circumstance of the original marking... I, for one, wouldn't accept another's permanent mark, nor respect a partner who thought it was in my best interest to do so.
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1 Jul 09, 11:37 AM
x_Thunder_x
UK(E), 9 yrs
  
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LadyRed wrote:
I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
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A flower that Gal Rosa found on the internet (though it finished up as a bunch of flowers) that I said I'd pay for as a Birthday present as she said she'd love a "proper" tattoo
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I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
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Nope not new. Leashed Cougar was part of our 3 way relationship since the beginning of February.
^Thunder^
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1 Jul 09, 11:41 AM
Admin
UK, 14 yrs
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x_Thunder_x wrote:
It also depends on the reason. For instance, if a submissive for her birthday in March says she'd like a tattoo and her then Dominant points out the danger of having a personal one if they were to part, the submissive possibly might give the same answer as you have done.
If the submissive then finds a flower one of whose alternative names reflects her dominant's name , finds a tattooist recommended by a workmate. Goes there with her Dominant to get a quote, discovers that they are so busy that the first appointment is over 2 months later but the dominant pays the deposit as part of her birthday present.
If, come May the Dominant asks the submissive if she is sure and she again gives the same reply as you give
If she then has the tattoo and the dominant pays the balance but because of events a couple of weeks later they split, surely the response from the submissive re her birthday present still is relevant
But then presumabably the OP has her own motives for now prolonging this
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1 Jul 09, 11:48 AM
JudyInDsGuise
UK(E), 8 yrs |
x_Thunder_x wrote:
LadyRed wrote:
I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
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A flower that Gal Rosa found on the internet (though it finished up as a bunch of flowers) that I said I'd pay for as a Birthday present as she said she'd love a "proper" tattoo
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I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
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Nope not new. Leashed Cougar was part of our 3 way relationship since the beginning of February.
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I don't profess to know much about poly relationships, but isn't the "poly" part also the "relationship" part? I mean, a poly relationship is a relationship in and of itself, no? Therefore when it ceases to be poly, the relationship changes to a new (non-poly) one.
Maybe it's semantics, but friends that are/have been in poly relationships seem to think that the poly part is rather important to the relationship as a whole - and that entering into one means every member of that relationship will do their best to keep the relationship poly and whole. I read your 1 a.m blog the other day (before you deleted it, obviously) and from what you said it sounds like one person in the relationship determined the outcome - and it wasn't the "dominant".
judy I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)
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1 Jul 09, 11:49 AM
LadyRed
UK, 9 yrs
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Who's 1am blog ?
JudyInDsGuise wrote:
x_Thunder_x wrote:
LadyRed wrote:
I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
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A flower that Gal Rosa found on the internet (though it finished up as a bunch of flowers) that I said I'd pay for as a Birthday present as she said she'd love a "proper" tattoo
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I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
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Nope not new. Leashed Cougar was part of our 3 way relationship since the beginning of February.
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I don't profess to know much about poly relationships, but isn't the "poly" part also the "relationship" part? I mean, a poly relationship is a relationship in and of itself, no? Therefore when it ceases to be poly, the relationship changes to a new (non-poly) one.
Maybe it's semantics, but friends that are/have been in poly relationships seem to think that the poly part is rather important to the relationship as a whole - and that entering into one means every member of that relationship will do their best to keep the relationship poly and whole. I read your 1 a.m blog the other day (before you deleted it, obviously) and from what you said it sounds like one person in the relationship determined the outcome - and it wasn't the "dominant".
judy
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Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
"Standing up and being counted is the 1st step in the right direction" by Red.
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1 Jul 09, 11:52 AM
JudyInDsGuise
UK(E), 8 yrs |
LadyRed wrote:
Who's 1am blog ?
JudyInDsGuise wrote:
x_Thunder_x wrote:
LadyRed wrote:
I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
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A flower that Gal Rosa found on the internet (though it finished up as a bunch of flowers) that I said I'd pay for as a Birthday present as she said she'd love a "proper" tattoo
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I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
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Nope not new. Leashed Cougar was part of our 3 way relationship since the beginning of February.
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I don't profess to know much about poly relationships, but isn't the "poly" part also the "relationship" part? I mean, a poly relationship is a relationship in and of itself, no? Therefore when it ceases to be poly, the relationship changes to a new (non-poly) one.
Maybe it's semantics, but friends that are/have been in poly relationships seem to think that the poly part is rather important to the relationship as a whole - and that entering into one means every member of that relationship will do their best to keep the relationship poly and whole. I read your 1 a.m blog the other day (before you deleted it, obviously) and from what you said it sounds like one person in the relationship determined the outcome - and it wasn't the "dominant".
judy
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Who are you asking? Or am I supposed to know because I am in the outside quote boxes? 
judy I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)
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1 Jul 09, 11:54 AM
MrDelphian
2 yrs
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A responsible and decent person wouldn't have let his or her submissive get such a marking if he or she knew that the relationship was soon to be over.
It's low but its not as low as grooming 15 year old girls in chatrooms.
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1 Jul 09, 11:54 AM
LadyRed
UK, 9 yrs
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 ... next time make yaself clear *tuts n rolls eyes, would say it would be a one off if I was up so late but I know I have been in bed early for months.
So to make it clear it was not me that did a 1am blog and took it off... now I want to see it lol
JudyInDsGuise wrote:
LadyRed wrote:
Who's 1am blog ?
JudyInDsGuise wrote:
x_Thunder_x wrote:
LadyRed wrote:
I think a symble is not as bad as a name or number, what was this tattoo of thats so significant ?
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A flower that Gal Rosa found on the internet (though it finished up as a bunch of flowers) that I said I'd pay for as a Birthday present as she said she'd love a "proper" tattoo
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I dont think it was a "New relationship" was it ? I thought they all 3 had a realationship but then 1 was ended leaving 2 and unless someone was reading what they was writing how can it be rubbing their nose in it ?
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Nope not new. Leashed Cougar was part of our 3 way relationship since the beginning of February.
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I don't profess to know much about poly relationships, but isn't the "poly" part also the "relationship" part? I mean, a poly relationship is a relationship in and of itself, no? Therefore when it ceases to be poly, the relationship changes to a new (non-poly) one.
Maybe it's semantics, but friends that are/have been in poly relationships seem to think that the poly part is rather important to the relationship as a whole - and that entering into one means every member of that relationship will do their best to keep the relationship poly and whole. I read your 1 a.m blog the other day (before you deleted it, obviously) and from what you said it sounds like one person in the relationship determined the outcome - and it wasn't the "dominant".
judy
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Who are you asking? Or am I supposed to know because I am in the outside quote boxes?
judy
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Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
"Standing up and being counted is the 1st step in the right direction" by Red.
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