Permanent marks (73)

But you do understand that by showing your annoyance in a public arena you're giving it credance, yeah? Its only the internet dude not like real life.

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I was worried that it might seem vindictive, but if that's what you want. It does depend on the victims wanting to come forward though, and that is up to them.

But rest assured, this is not a case of unfounded accusations. People who know me will be certain that I don't speak without fact.

And your attempts to bully me into shutting up about it won't work.

The problem with a network is the dishonest and abusive will be very selective who they network I am happy to give an honest report on the past activities of X_Thunder_X to anyone thinking of getting involved in the future
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From the way I read this thread the person concerned has a symbol as a tattoo not a name or number, I myself cannot see why anyone would have issues with that. I have 2 tattoos from previous relationships and 1 is a name, no regrets on what the tattoo's are only where I had them put after all what is the point of regret it won't take them away and we all make mistakes in life, it's part of growing up.

Splitting up with any partner can be difficult no matter who you are and what dimension the relationship is and to keep digging and poking at a sore wound will only make it harder/longer for the healing to take place.

Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
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As a maledom, you're not really in the at risk category.

Bottom line is, women who have been victims do speak together. I am concerned that this person can't continue to prey as he has done in the past.

Exactly what can be posted in public, and what is best passed on by private message to those who may seek a reference in the future, is down to the people concerned.

But Thunder making threats against ME isn't going to make the problem go away for him.

The problem with a network is the dishonest and abusive will be very selective who they network I am happy to give an honest report on the past activities of X_Thunder_X to anyone thinking of getting involved in the future
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Relationships end all the time, that's not the issue.

Letting someone have a significant tattoo when you were planning to dump them, is the failing.

Expecting them to just "get over it" and rubbing their nose in it by flaunting the new relationship when the injured party has asked you not to, is another.

Accusing anyone who doesn't agree with your version of events of being a "bully" is yet another.

The problem with a network is the dishonest and abusive will be very selective who they network I am happy to give an honest report on the past activities of X_Thunder_X to anyone thinking of getting involved in the future
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Again, your behaviour towards women is highlighted on the public boards, as it has been before, before you even met gr.

I have no intention of getting involved, as I don't know the facts on this, but I do know Fushcia wouldn't get involved unless she has come to the end of her tether on something, like the Kinkfest emails, she was always the 1 to bring us to our senses, so I guess that's what she is trying to achieve here.

You all need to keep this to weblogs or emails, cc/bcc in who you like, lets have an uber bitchfest

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Totally agree with this. I only know fuschia online (more from AOL than here) but I've never seen her like this. IMO it lends more credence to what she's saying, not less.

judy

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I've only got one tattoo, and I got that for myself to remind me of an achievement in my life. For that reason, tattoos are "permanent reminders" for me, and I am grateful that I don't have one that will remind me of a painful experience (in a non-consensual way!).

judy

I must be only one in a million (© David Bowie)

If Thunder had been actually abusive (as in done anything you could call the police about) or had been burying ex partners in his garden I would understand your desire to make sure everyone knew and yes it could warrant a public information notice. As it is, he made a bad decision during a difficult time - it may not be admirable but it is human. I don't think that gives you the moral right to attempt to destroy him. Nobody is guaranteed a perfect dominant and you should know yourself that they don't exist.

I don't know you, but I do know the ex you're angry on behalf of and I understand why she is upset as I have talked to her at length since the break up on more than one occasion. Bear in mind if you decide to go ahead and write further, that as much as you stand to damage Thunder's reputation, you continue to damage your own. So far this thread seems to say more about you than anyone else.

Thunder certainly isn't the first person to leave a permanent mark on an ex partner and I am sure he is not the last. The only way to avoid this would be for none of us to ever leave permanent marks.

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Edited 1 Jul 09, 11:16 AM by Degenerate