Permanent marks (73)

Would you ask this of your sub/slave? Would you agree to it for your dominant?

What responsibilities lie on both sides?

How would you feel if you were dumped and the marks were there forever as a reminder?

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I did, and my sub has a tattoo of a rubber catsuited clad Lady on his arm and under it is his slave reg number....

If i was owned i would do anything and everything that was requested.... in fact if he chose to put a tattoo on me it would be an amazing priviledge to wear.

Hopefully if one does go and get a tattoo to represent ownership it would be a design that wouldnt really matter if the relationship was to end. I know my subs isnt... but he aint going anywhere so it doesnt matter.

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Edited 30 Jun 09, 8:22 PM by Diablos_patience

I think it's not so much about the tattoo itself (although having 'I heart Dave' on your forearm 3 years after he unceremoniously dumped you for someone else is far worse than an innocuous and personal design that no-one bar those involved understand the meaning of), but about how you would feel looking at that mark - their mark - after the relationship ended.

If the split was amicable, as suggested by Joanie, it could be a nice reminder of the wonderful time you shared, or a marker of a large chunk of your life. However if the split is damaging then I can't imagine anything worse than having a daily reminder of the whole thing, regardless of what the design actually was. It's what it represents that's more important, I think.

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Edited 30 Jun 09, 8:37 PM by Crystal_Eyes

It also depends on the reason. For instance, if a submissive for her birthday in March says she'd like a tattoo and her then Dominant points out the danger of having a personal one if they were to part, the submissive possibly might give the same answer as you have done.

If the submissive then finds a flower one of whose alternative names reflects her dominant's name , finds a tattooist recommended by a workmate. Goes there with her Dominant to get a quote, discovers that they are so busy that the first appointment is over 2 months later but the dominant pays the deposit as part of her birthday present.

If, come May the Dominant asks the submissive if she is sure and she again gives the same reply as you give

If she then has the tattoo and the dominant pays the balance but because of events a couple of weeks later they split, surely the response from the submissive re her birthday present still is relevant

But then presumabably the OP has her own motives for now prolonging this

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Edited 30 Jun 09, 8:33 PM by x_Thunder_x

But the submissive, of course, in going ahead, would be doing it as a confirmation of her commitment... and clearly in the dark about what was going on in the dominant's head... because as you've admitted, you already knew that the relationship was doomed.. and ended it two weeks later.

I find that pretty unforgiveable.

Hence the discussion.

I sincerely hope anyone else purporting to be a dom who found themselves in that situation would have the courage and ethics to come clean about their real feelings, before the tattoo went ahead.

And also, as you can see, memories are long, and I very much hope that this time round, you won't be able to cover your tracks and start again later on without your previous record and activities being open to scrutiny.

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Edited 30 Jun 09, 8:40 PM by fuschia

Speaking for myself I would NEVER, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ask a sub to accept permanent marking on my instruction. If she wants tattoos then that's down to her (and, being a tattoo loather I would actually rather she didn't) but the idea of commanding a girl to permanently alter her appearance is not for me.

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I have a perm scar from a previous relationship which ended in not such a good way. At first it did piss me off... but, as with all things, time is a great healer.

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Saying "Oh it was all her idea, she wanted it done" doesn't automatically transfer all the responsibility away from the 'dominant' who sat back and allowed her to get his permanent mark of ownership whilst knowing (or at the very least, suspecting) that from his side, the relationship was already pretty much over. Any decent human being - never mind Dominant(!) - would have sat her down at that point and explained to her exactly why he didn't feel it was such a good idea.

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I pretty much agree with everything Fuschia has written here... A relationship doesn't just break up in two weeks. Clearly something was going wrong and you knew this in the back of your mind yet you didn't suggest she reconsider the tattoo and get something else, or even postpone it - If she wanted a tattoo done she could have gotten something she wanted, something for her.

Back on topic:- Master and I have discussed a tattoo for myself - mostly because I love His tattoo and would love a feminine varient of His... But we both agree that having a tattoo with someone's name on it would be stupid and tacky - the only exception for me would be to get a tattoo with my brother's name/date of birth/death.

At the end of the day the only thing that is certain in life is death and taxes...

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