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| Sun 28 Jun 09, 9:38 AM MasterLovesRope UK(NG), 3 yrs  |
Hi, We have been playing together for four and a half years. To start with he tied me up and that was that. Over time we played around a bit and I quite got into tying him up too. Recently though I seem to have lost my bottoming mojo! I look forward to the occassion but when it comes to it I don't enjoy it. I have tried to explain to my other half what it is that is the problem and the closest thing I can describe it is stage fright, it all gets a bit too much for me. It is becoming increasingly frustrating for both of us, and while I am happy to be top I miss being the bottom too. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can get my mojo back please? Many thanks | |
| 28 Jun 09, 11:04 AM the1whoserves UK(DN), 6 yrs  |
hi,, i have been on the scene before there was a scene, and i became bored with the old tie me up whip me thing time after time, even seeing different dommes who are new to me did,nt make any difference,, so i eased off the scene for a period of time and slowly the feelings returned and i NEEDED to be tied up and whipped again, did,nt matter who it was i just had the old feelimgs back again which was great,,, so i would just do the things you like in vanilla land and wait for the need to return, cheers alan.. | |
| 28 Jun 09, 11:06 AM Degenerate  UK(M), 4 yrs   |
Aw can't think of anything useful to say. I hope you get your mojo back soon, or move forward to a place where you can enjoy any aspects of your sexuality that you wish  De Sign up to CAAN's statement www.caan.org.uk | |
| 28 Jun 09, 11:20 AM crackedporcelain UK(DT), 3 yrs |
When my switchness strays too far into top, I tend to find some serious hard scenes with lots of pain and erm consensual non-consent (I hate that term but it will do) tends to put me on track again. When roles are switched it gets easy to say no to your partner, I tend to find being dragged off by my hair to be used for something unpleasant puts me back in my place. the small package good things come in. | |
| 28 Jun 09, 11:22 AM Elegantly_Wasted UK(SG), 7 yrs |
I've had this, I totally get what you mean. Time and fantasising, taking the pressure off yourself seemed to work for me. Sorry I can't suggest a magic trick to get it back! A x (º·.¸(¨*·.¸¸.·*¨)¸.·º) | |
| 28 Jun 09, 3:35 PM MasterLovesRope UK(NG), 3 yrs |
Thanks for the replies, I suppose I knew there wasn't going to be a magic answer. Fortunately I'm blessed with a lovely other half who isn't putting any pressure on me, so I will give the ideas you have suggested a try. | |
| 28 Jun 09, 3:46 PM tigerlili UK(WN), 6 yrs |
LOL I thought this was a thread about going off anal sex OOPSY Remember, the light at the end of the tunnel may be you. (Aerosmith "Amazing") | |
| 28 Jun 09, 10:59 PM Grownup_Frankie UK, 3 yrs |
Mojos are fickle. They are precious, but we sometimes don't know this till they're gone. Where DO they go? Do they go 'South', do you think? Or is there a mojo stealer who takes them in the night while we are sleeping? The more you look for it, the more hurt and confused you will feel at not finding it where it used to be. Be careful, try not to stare too long at the hole it used to occupy. Try looking the other way. It might come back all on its own. And if it does - do not ask any questions of it!!!! Just be pleased to see it back. ...That prodigal mojo of yours.
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| 4 Jul 09, 12:09 AM knot_obsessed UK(NN), 6 yrs |
is it wrong to think that just sounds fabulous and yes i can empathise with it too...when i've been switch/domme/top too much, i just need what you describe....wanders off thinking nice thoughts...thanks... An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind. - Mahatma Gandhi "Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." - Terry Pratchett. | |
| 5 Jul 09, 2:25 AM meganne_in_spain UK(PR), 4 yrs |
--Mojos are fickle. They are precious, but we sometimes don't know this till they're gone. Where DO they go? Do they go 'South', do you think? Or is there a mojo stealer who takes them in the night while we are sleeping?
The more you look for it, the more hurt and confused you will feel at not finding it where it used to be. Be careful, try not to stare too long at the hole it used to occupy. Try looking the other way. It might come back all on its own. And if it does - do not ask any questions of it!!!! Just be pleased to see it back. ...That prodigal mojo of yours.-- What a lovely reply ... I too lost my sub mojo but found that it returned, all on it's ownsome recently. It's loss was deeply felt by both of us but it's return was much more deeply celebrated!!!
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