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| FluffySub |
A week today Comte_74 and I split up; in a week from today it would have been our second anniversary, so today seems an apt day to blog.
M and I are no longer a couple. For anyone feeling deja vu, yes we split up last September but fell back together in no time. This time it's for good. There were just too many compromises to be made; last time I persuaded him we could work through it, this time I know there are things that we will never overcome.
So last Saturday morning we agreed that it had to end. I cried a bit, he hugged me a bit, then we ate breakfast, read the papers, took the dogs out, did some stuff round the house, ate junk food, watched Road Wars and he stayed the night 
That's the kind of comfy we had, but it's not enough to commit your life to.
I'm hurting right now but I know we've done the right thing. We're going to do the friends thing and will be seeing each other in a couple of months, when it seems less raw.
I was having a self pitying mooch round IC shortly after and found this on another persons blog, from Skyhook:
"It's hard to see when you are in the middle of it, but sometimes we are in love with the thought of a person, rather than the person themselves.
Sometimes you have to realise they just aren't right for you. No-ones fault, but it just won't work between you two."
It wasn't written for me but it might as well have been. It fits so well. What we had to offer wasn't right for each other, pure and simple. I still think the world of him but it wasn't meant to be.
Thank you to the friends that have listened to my ramblings this week.
And thank you to M for a friendship that started on 25th March 2007: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/136103/0#... to a relationship that started around 5th July 2007: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/150538/ back to, I hope, a friendship that will last a lifetime.
| 27 Jun 09, 8:33 PM Sunhillow 7 yrs  |
Very sorry to hear that, sometimes the hurdles are just too large to overcome. But that doesn't negate the positives and the wonderful times you had together. They will endure. Thinking of you both. L x
~ If you must pick the lesser of two evils; choose the one you've never tried before. ~ |
| 27 Jun 09, 8:37 PM Forsaken1 UK, 7 yrs |
Thinking of you both. Damien xx Resident play piercer at Velvet Eden |
| 27 Jun 09, 10:40 PM MrLion UK(WF), 6 yrs |
So sorry it didnt work out, Love to you both.
GM & GG |
| 27 Jun 09, 11:09 PM Asteria_Noctis UK(SS), 4 yrs |
am expereiencing a brea k up myself, hugs to you. ~It seems that a Dom looking for a sub is like a dog chasing a car, they wouldn''t know what to do if they got one.~ |
| 27 Jun 09, 11:23 PM GazUK1963 UK(B), 6 yrs |
Hugs, Dawn and I wish you both the very best and hope that you do stay friends. Gary x. Everyone who lives dies, but not everyone who dies has truly lived. |
| 28 Jun 09, 8:23 AM shimmer UK(LE), 11 yrs |
*hugs* To thine own self be true |
| 28 Jun 09, 8:26 AM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
I am so glad it has ended amicably for you both. It will keep the good memories on the surface rather than the muddy waters that can cloud what was once so good. RD xx It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it |
| 28 Jun 09, 10:08 AM happysub79 UK(RM), 4 yrs |
Or you could look at it this way ...you've ended one journey together and now are embarking on a new journey as friends  so its not all been lost or in vein  friends are equally as important in our lives :Dx nova x |
| 28 Jun 09, 1:02 PM Iphis_me UK(E), 4 yrs |
Sorry to hear it has ended but glad for you both that you are able to do it amicably. Friends are not to be sneezed at. As RD said acrimonious endings do tend to overshadow the good memories that you would like to hold onto. Best wishes. xx "That hurts......please don't stop!" Edited 28 Jun 09, 1:04 PM by Iphis_me |
| 29 Jun 09, 4:37 AM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Do hope after the pain has dissipated, you'll be able to find that friendship which lasts a lifetime. Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ |
