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IC ... not a dating site (78)

This post is on the Other BDSM web board.

Ms_Sodomitrix wrote:
Wherever people congregate, there is going to be potential for dating. It's normal human behaviour. We need to have choice, we need to find people we aren't related to... In the old days it used to be fairs, then holiday destinations, now the internet... nothing has changed much in thousands of years, and given that we aren't going to find many fellow perves living next door, forums like IC serve the purpose of dating, among others.

Yes, if I was to get out and about a bit more and meet some more people on here in real life I'm sure that I would do better

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27 Jun 09, 7:28 PM
Neptunite
UK(BN), 3 yrs

For me it would depend how I was feeling at the time, I haven't been looking so it's just been a place of reading and chit chat by now the times they are a changing so my reasons for being here are changing too.

I suppose the more on the look out you are the more effort you put into messaging people and such like and the more comes out of it. I have met up with a few people off of here, and although have not dated them, perhaps that was because I wasn't looking for it then!

Good luck though and hope you get on well with it

"She said I need somebody...smarter than me, I need to exercise my vocabulary! I'll shut up and learn from... I'll shut up now."

27 Jun 09, 7:45 PM
torture_d
UK(E), 4 yrs

Hey,

Having just posted something on a similar (but not quite) post a few mins ago, this caught my eye too.

A lot of very valid points have been made and I think the key thing in terms of dating through IC is paitence and luck. I don't think IC is built to be a dating resource, but more a centre of activity and knowledge - networking if you will.

Clearly there is a niche or two missed within IC, but considering it's free it does a decent job. ALT.com I believe is recommended for the dating experience, but as you've touched on there are quality issues...

Bonne chance, and happy hunting.

27 Jun 09, 7:57 PM
Jahc99
UK, 5 yrs

I have no idea how many people off this site I have met to do kink with, though I was coupled up already, before I joined. There's a pair of them cookin' us diner as I type.

Seems to me it works fine as contact site, amongst other things.

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27 Jun 09, 8:15 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs

I think IC is a great many things to many people. My primary objective is to learn more about the things that I like and also about the things I may potentially like in the future.

I suppose a secondary objective which I did not realise when I joined has been to chat to a wide variety of interesting, and often highly amusing people. I am a big fan of comedy and would definitely have come here sooner if I had realised this earlier.

I have also met some people from here, which was never an intention and received invitations to play from others which I suppose is the dating part. I often see ads which I thoroughly enjoy but I am far too shy to do anything about.

Whilst I have been here I have also realised there are people I would like to meet in a non sexual capacity, purely because they are nice people and I enjoy talking to them.

This is hard for me to say as I am often seen as a bit aloof, but I even made some friends in here, and I am yet to go out to a munch! There are physical reasons for this at the current time but once overcome I look forward to munching away in the future with some of you.

Best

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27 Jun 09, 9:19 PM
The_Colonel_Whatwhat
3 yrs

Damn right!

Jahc99 wrote:
I have no idea how many people off this site I have met to do kink with, though I was coupled up already, before I joined. There's a pair of them cookin' us diner as I type.

Seems to me it works fine as contact site, amongst other things.

I came, I saw, I concurred

27 Jun 09, 9:42 PM
SirLashleyS
UK(S), 4 yrs

'Dating'. A wholly ambiguous term, entirely non-English. (Outside of cook book directions on baking of cakes). Derived from vague and non-sensical 'mercan juvenile high-school vernacular. Nasal pronunciation essential, 'day-ding', 'day-dee-ing' or even (in some states) 'dayee-dee-ing'.

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Edited 28 Jun 09, 9:56 AM by SirLashleyS

27 Jun 09, 9:51 PM
spirifer
UK, 6 yrs

IC can be whatever you want it to be. A few years ago, I only used it as a "dating" resource, meeting people I liked the look of - eventually my husband!

Now I'm not looking, I love it as a place to chat, make friends and discuss all things BDSM. I don't think there can be any definitive definition of what you use IC for - � chacun son go�t!

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28 Jun 09, 1:06 AM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs

spirifer wrote:
� chacun son go�t!

Indeed it is

Mmmm French going weak at the knees

I told this to one person and now some of their correspodence is in French. I hardly understand a word (getting better by the day) but it makes me swoon anyway.

28 Jun 09, 2:21 AM
corvenus1661
4 yrs

JaneEyre wrote:
IC ... not a dating site

I have never posted a thread before on here , not sure if this is the right or appropriate place.Sorry if its not and I will accept the stoning with as good grace as I can muster.

On another thread there was mentioned that IC isnt a dating site. This peaked my interest as I am mainly on here to date. Perhaps this why I feel and others on here so disheartened at times. I also have a profile on alt and again have had the same frustrations of pervs , beggars and people with desperation carved all over their sweating cum stained selves, contacting me.

I have also seen many people mention that they have met their partners here so it has left me slightly confused

I was just wondering what the general consenus is really .. am I wasting my time here ? am I in the wrong place ? If so could any one point a friendly finger for me in the right direction ?

For those who did , it would be lovely to hear your experiences.

For those on the scene do you find it easier to meet people ? I have always been slightly resistant to the scene mainly for privacy reasons but if I thought I could meet a tall dark and mysterious man who was actually more interested in a conversation about interesting topics than his penis size or flogger collection , I might just be tempted.

the bigger issue for me is the failure of on line dating in general. just because someone ticks some boxes the odds are heavily against there being a spark when you finally me the person.,

even then the chance of the over developed sexual/kink aspect taking over means that you will not get a chance to get to know assess and decide about the person before the hormones kick in. fun for play yes. relationships......? hmmm

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