26 Jun 09, 10:19 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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votre_maitresse wrote:
Airing a thought.....
What caught me cold was the description from a male Dom describing how he liked to be exceptionally violent, and loved nothing more than hitting girls to within inches of their lives.
What Id like to know I suppose is how does that make you feel? Id be interested to know your gender and your dynamic and your thoughts, no rights or wrongs remember!!!!
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It scares the shit out of me... I am neither a masochist, nor a sadist so I find it incredibly difficult to relate to this sort of "play".
There are rights and wrongs but they depend on the person you are doing them to/with not on the personal likes and dislikes of onlookers - for some the wrongs are right and for others they're not.
"Truth is stranger than fiction."
Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other.
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26 Jun 09, 10:21 PM
kayak1
UK(PA), 4 yrs
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Uncomfortable not my thing at all, witnessed the effects of real uncontrolled violence in my job, almost always by men against women, at times made me ashamed to be a man. |
26 Jun 09, 10:24 PM
Violently
UK(B), 12 yrs
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I have read some profiles like that...
Scary! --
A Kervert Pinky
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26 Jun 09, 10:28 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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Rebecca_P wrote:
I have one play partner who, due to his location, I see very infrequently. Although he may make occasional use of a flogger or paddle (paddle across the cheek, last time..), the rest of the time it's mostly things like slapping, kicking, twisting arms back, strangulation and things like that. Whilst I wouldn't want this is to be all I got, all the time, I do like it for a change as it's far more in line with the actual fantasties that I tend towards.
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That sounds quite tame in comparison to what I thought the OP was suggesting.
"Truth is stranger than fiction."
Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other.
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26 Jun 09, 10:28 PM
SirLashleyS
UK(S), 5 yrs
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Extremes like these worry me. I see a chasm of difference tween 'sadist' and 'Dom(me)'. Domming (to me) means 'infliction of pleasure by whatever means pre-agreed'. Never 'extraction of selfish pleasure achieved by infliction of pain'. Does this make sense, or am I a 'softy wuss'..? The silky-smooth soothing voice of reason and logic.
(You WILL feel much better and speak more sense while very securely tied-up...)
Edited 26 Jun 09, 10:31 PM by SirLashleyS
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26 Jun 09, 10:30 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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votre_maitresse wrote:
Airing a thought.....
First off, please everyone, this is a very personal viewpoint and I absoutely do not want anyone to take it personally, I am very much a live and let live person, so bearing that in mind and secondly perhaps this may have been better posted on the D/s Relationship board, here goes.........
I am a strong female, in body and mind, I very much enjoy reading and learning about others kinks, new ideas and love some of the photos that are posted. I enjoy a Domme role though would consider switch a more rounded overview of me.
However i found my skin crawling after reading something the other day, and its bothered me enough to write a post.
I understand that some submissives 'enjoy' physical, rough treatment, Im not talking canes and the like, I mean skin on skin roughness, slapping, pushing as examples.
Im not talking needles or cutting either, as that is very much visual rather than 'pain'.
What caught me cold was the description from a male Dom describing how he liked to be exceptionally violent, and loved nothing more than hitting girls to within inches of their lives.
What Id like to know I suppose is how does that make you feel? Id be interested to know your gender and your dynamic and your thoughts, no rights or wrongs remember!!!!
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I have read some comments like this on the boards and yes they make me uneasy too but I am big softy. I don't mind a bit of roughing up and even some slapping.
When I see words like heavy play and extreme violence I often wonder what this entails.
I know people will hit back with if it is not your kink so to speak but I find the idea of punching a woman for example very unpalatable, but if it is consensual then what can one say. I certainly do not have the words but I would not like to think people are dressing abuse up as play. Please note I say would not like to think. I am not casting any aspirtions on anyones character.
I would now like one of these chaps to come and post in support of extreme violence so we can debate this further because I for one do not understand this.
Best
M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm being used, that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?
She'll tie a noose with your heartstrings
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26 Jun 09, 10:33 PM
votre_maitresse
UK(BH), 5 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
Rebecca_P wrote:
I have one play partner who, due to his location, I see very infrequently. Although he may make occasional use of a flogger or paddle (paddle across the cheek, last time..), the rest of the time it's mostly things like slapping, kicking, twisting arms back, strangulation and things like that. Whilst I wouldn't want this is to be all I got, all the time, I do like it for a change as it's far more in line with the actual fantasties that I tend towards.
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That sounds quite tame in comparison to what I thought the OP was suggesting.
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Yes, I was suggesting far more severe treatment.
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26 Jun 09, 10:34 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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Rebecca_P wrote:
I have one play partner who, due to his location, I see very infrequently. Although he may make occasional use of a flogger or paddle (paddle across the cheek, last time..), the rest of the time it's mostly things like slapping, kicking, twisting arms back, strangulation and things like that. Whilst I wouldn't want this is to be all I got, all the time, I do like it for a change as it's far more in line with the actual fantasties that I tend towards.
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I have engaged in all of this in martial arts, and I am positive this is not what the original post is about.
M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm being used, that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?
She'll tie a noose with your heartstrings
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26 Jun 09, 10:37 PM
Jahc99
UK, 5 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
Rebecca_P wrote:
I have one play partner who, due to his location, I see very infrequently. Although he may make occasional use of a flogger or paddle (paddle across the cheek, last time..), the rest of the time it's mostly things like slapping, kicking, twisting arms back, strangulation and things like that. Whilst I wouldn't want this is to be all I got, all the time, I do like it for a change as it's far more in line with the actual fantasties that I tend towards.
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That sounds quite tame in comparison to what I thought the OP was suggesting.
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Agreed, though as I said earlier, hard to know without the context.
And I do kick, punch, slap, bite and use much physical power, when I feel like it. Violence implies a loss of control and a desire to cause serious, lasting harm, to my tiny mind at least. And that's why I say my physical sadistic side is not violent. But other may use the term differently. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you?
The antidote to whinge threads...?
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26 Jun 09, 10:46 PM
votre_maitresse
UK(BH), 5 yrs
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Jahc99 wrote:
chartreuse wrote:
Rebecca_P wrote:
I have one play partner who, due to his location, I see very infrequently. Although he may make occasional use of a flogger or paddle (paddle across the cheek, last time..), the rest of the time it's mostly things like slapping, kicking, twisting arms back, strangulation and things like that. Whilst I wouldn't want this is to be all I got, all the time, I do like it for a change as it's far more in line with the actual fantasties that I tend towards.
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That sounds quite tame in comparison to what I thought the OP was suggesting.
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Agreed, though as I said earlier, hard to know without the context.
And I do kick, punch, slap, bite and use much physical power, when I feel like it. Violence implies a loss of control and a desire to cause serious, lasting harm, to my tiny mind at least. And that's why I say my physical sadistic side is not violent. But other may use the term differently.
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During a session I kick, bite, slap, man handle, BUT there is no loss of control, and certainly I would never describe any of my actions as extremely violent. |
