What does Ownership mean? (34)

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Fri 26 Jun 09, 12:17 AM
The_Slave_Forum
UK, 11 mths
How far can Ownership reach? If you are in a M/s relationship, is it body, mind and soul?
Is it more common to relinquish control/take control of the physical being? How many of you in this kind of relationship feel as internally linked as you are externally?
Edited for clarity, as OP seemed to confuse certain people.
ETA: posted by l_c on behalf of T_S_F. Please note, only people named clearly as moderators on T_S_F profile page can post under this name and in future, will state who is posting if on public boards.
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Edited Sat 27 Jun 09, 12:18 AM by The_Slave_Forum

26 Jun 09, 12:35 AM
syndeetoo
UK(WC), 4 yrs
internally bonded? prunes are your friend...
What part of "Do what thou wilt." is beyond you? Grow up!

26 Jun 09, 12:48 AM
Starlight_switch
UK(BS), 24 mths

syndee wrote:
internally bonded? prunes are your friend...
so is dulcolax
~It seems that a Dom looking for a sub is like a dog chasing a car, they wouldn''t know what to do if they got one.~

26 Jun 09, 9:15 PM
Altissimus
UK(OX), 3 yrs

The_Slave_Forum wrote:
How far can Ownership reach? If you are in a M/s relationship, is it body, mind and soul?
Yes. More likely with the presence of love; less likely without it. More likely with competent mastery at many levels; less likely with elementary dominance or topping.
It doesn't need an M/s relationship to feel this, nor does it need a 24/7 TPE. D/s can be enough. One would hope that, with the broader requirements of an M/s relationship, the level of mastery was sufficient to allow the feeling of ownership to reach these levels.

The_Slave_Forum wrote:
Is it more common to relinquish control/take control of [just] the physical being?
I wouldn't have thought so. I'd have thought that most who felt that wonderful hormonal imbalance (or 'falling in love' in the vernacular) would ascribe this to body, mind and soul. Especially with progressive intimacy as it applies to a female sub: as someone once wrote, "men have sex, women ARE sex".

26 Jun 09, 10:42 PM
x_Thunder_x
UK(E), 7 yrs
Y!

JaneEyre wrote:
For me ownership is love really. To own some-one and I mean truly own some-one , you have to be owned yourself.
does that answer the OP ? I hope so.

An excellent reply

^Thunder^
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26 Jun 09, 10:54 PM
Altissimus
UK(OX), 3 yrs

JaneEyre wrote:
For me ownership is love really. To own some-one and I mean truly own some-one , you have to be owned yourself.

That's what I was getting at, but you said it better.
I think my over-developed sense of cynicism got in the way

26 Jun 09, 11:00 PM
x_Thunder_x
UK(E), 7 yrs
Y!

Altissimus wrote:

JaneEyre wrote:
For me ownership is love really. To own some-one and I mean truly own some-one , you have to be owned yourself.

That's what I was getting at, but you said it better.
I think my over-developed sense of cynicism got in the way
Yes I think you both have it.
Without love it is just play acting
^Thunder^
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26 Jun 09, 11:25 PM
Forsaken1
UK, 4 yrs
Ownership is like handling a fine wine,
you spend years nurturing it, and only when you feel its ready do you lay it bare and let it breath. Then will you know if all the work payed off, has it corked or will it fill your head with all the flavours and scents you deserve?
At that moment will you appreciate that which has matured through dedication of care through your touch.
As for being owned, that's an entirely different question that I for one cannot answer.
Damien
Resident play piercer at Velvet Eden
"Is oral sex a taste of things to come?"

26 Jun 09, 11:25 PM
boy050505
UK, 4 yrs Who posted the OP?
Slave Forum is a group profile with several mods and possibly others who have access to it. I think it is bad manners to start a thread with out making it clear who the author is.
Life is not a munch.
You do not need to wear a label to join in

26 Jun 09, 11:37 PM
Adverse_Camber
UK, 13 mths

boy050505 wrote:
Who posted the OP?
Slave Forum is a group profile with several mods and possibly others who have access to it. I think it is bad manners to start a thread with out making it clear who the author is.
My apologies...no bad manners intended.
ETA: was trying to post for true responses, rather than knee-jerk reactions...as you can see from some posts, it didn't work ...and will not happen again, as i see how it may not be correct thing to do. Will edit OP forthwith.

That that don't kill me will only make me stronger...
Edited 26 Jun 09, 11:41 PM by Adverse_Camber

26 Jun 09, 11:46 PM
x_Pan_x
UK(SS), 6 yrs

The_Slave_Forum wrote:
What does Ownership mean?
How far can Ownership reach? If you are in a M/s relationship, is it body, mind and soul?
Is it more common to relinquish control/take control of the physical being? How many of you in this kind of relationship feel as internally linked as you are externally?
Edited for clarity, as OP seemed to confuse certain people.
I think it's a terribly overused and easily misunderstood concept. Many seem to use it for shorthand when they are in a D/s relationship regardless of the true depth of feeling or intent. Insecure Dims seem (in my experience)to use it as shorthand for controlling a sub's contacts and interactions.
For me it takes time to own someone, to get into their mind and know that they kneel *in their head* as well as with their body. It takes effort and it takes time to connect with someone on that level, and both sub and Dom need to be sure they're not just projecting their own desires on the other person, calling themselves owner or owned without truly understanding what depth they need to achieve for that to really be the case.
Ownership isn't just about checking your sub's memos on IC, or telling your Dom that he owns you three weeks after you get jiggy with it...
The expedition of my violent love, outrun the pauser reason.
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