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All male subs beware....... (95)

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26 Jun 09, 8:48 AM
Max_Bedroom
5 yrs

who_me_2 wrote:
One born everyday. BTW, those emails you get from Nigeria about wining the lottory are also fake - just thought I would give you the heads up.

Gosh. I wish I was as wise as you.

Although, I am glad that I am not a fan of schadenfreude, as you clearly are.

26 Jun 09, 9:24 AM
najaah
UK(TA), 6 yrs

what an unpleasant experience that must have been, and how gentlemanly you were. i do hope they get her in the end and or it catches her up and bites her in the ass. but don't give up on your search but take the experience with you we all learn by such things. i wish you luck with all of it.

today is history, tomorrow a mystery. life is one long test take it in both hands and embrace.

26 Jun 09, 10:04 AM
Ms_Tytania
7 yrs

wonderer wrote:
Awww bang goes another fantasy. What if I were to ask you out for a lunch, if I happened to be in the vicinty?

Aww, don't cry, wonderer. I forgot to add (but I thought it was implied in my post) that these blokes are complete strangers. I also said I have friends whose company I enjoy, be it in a restaurant or on a park bench, and I hope I can count you among them.

And back to the OP... well done JJboy, these beggars posing as *Dommes* should be outed.

@CookieMonster: I can't see by JJboy's post that the restaurant was in the know. They probably suspected she was a woman using her charms to get a free meal from otherwise compliant men. But they didn't witness any crimes being committed, and it's not their business what two people do with their lives, even in their premises. They have no idea what kind of relationships the people involved had, and it's not the first time to lovers, cousins, work colleagues argue about a bill. We know the story told by the OP, but the restaurant only know what they could see, a fragmentary story.

And yes, you mentioned threatening the restaurant with the local appears. I'm still wondering why you think they deserve such threats, and what's wrong with their attitude:

CookieMonster wrote:
you could always contact the resteraunt owner and see if he fancies a dose of bad publcity in the local rag?

it may make the resteraunt change its attitude.

Pornified Man-Hater Extraordinaire.

Edited 26 Jun 09, 10:21 AM by Ms_Tytania

26 Jun 09, 10:13 AM
night_porter
UK(G), 4 yrs

What a truly insightful post, which restores your faith in the bdsm realm:

TheMarquise wrote:
Sorry to hear about your experience. The only positive I can think of that has come out of this sorry episode, is that it would be almost impossible for someone to do this to you again. In situations like these, its easy to be wise after the event. At the time, although things don't feel right, one continues to hope that it won't result in a total rip off. Now you will be aware much earlier on and know how to do things differently in the future.

Sadly, there is a phalanx of submissive men who will continue to provide her with free meals, although you alerting people on here, might reduce her pool of possibles, at least for a while. As a sub male, just like the rest of us who are kinky, you are driven by a great need to make your fantasy real, and knowing this, there are woman who exploit the situation.

This mercenary individual was no dom, she had no interest in satisfying her desire for domination, and she just saw you as a quick buck. The role of dominant, at least in its superficial aspects, suits this type all too well. The more her ego gets fed, not to mention physically literally being fed, the larger her sense of entitlement and living an easy life becomes. Someone who is focused so entirely on their ego, on what is in it for them, cannot in my view make an effective dominant.

Bad fem doms are not better than none at all. But hope springs eternal for the sub male. Whilst this type can convincingly portray themselves as dommme, indeed are frequently encouraged to do so, by hiding behind the notion that it is for them and them only to define their dom ness and no one else to comment, this kind of thing will continue to happen.

A woman who can only see a sub male as a walking wallet is not a domme worthy of the name. The dominant who is excited by you and what they are doing to you, is not the same as a person who sees you as a means to an end. Presumably there was nothing in her initial correspondence with you that alerted you to the fact that she was never interested in you from the start?

Better luck next time.

Cause Holy Cow I Love Your Eyes And Only Now I See The Light

26 Jun 09, 10:55 AM
Premo_1
UK(HA), 6 yrs

Personally, the moment a first-date started ordering champagne and expected me to pay for it, that would be enough to make alarm bells ring. Doesn't matter whether she's Domme/sub/vanilla.

26 Jun 09, 11:09 AM
BadWulf
UK(TA), 6 yrs

You should learn to live a little! Bottle of naff moet with a vindaloo goes well enough

Out of interest I mailed the OP and got the woman s profile, it is very sparse, no network, no posts 1 generic leg pic.

I have met very nice folk with the same lack of details, but I do also proceed with caution when presented with somebody like that.

wonderer wrote:

Mistress_Susannah wrote:

And who has champagne with an Indian?

Exactly - another mysterious aspect of this odd event.

My, what sharp teeth I have.

Edited 26 Jun 09, 1:18 PM by BadWulf

26 Jun 09, 11:37 AM
ConsciousnessJunkie
UK(N), 5 yrs

who_me_2 wrote:
One born everyday. BTW, those emails you get from Nigeria about wining the lottory are also fake - just thought I would give you the heads up.

You're paying for my cinema ticket and ice slushie next time bitch. Now come here and make me tea.

(Luv ya hun)

26 Jun 09, 11:53 AM
wonderer
UK, 5 yrs

Ms_Sodomitrix wrote:

wonderer wrote:
Awww bang goes another fantasy. What if I were to ask you out for a lunch, if I happened to be in the vicinty?

OH - what a wonderful thought. Beaming rather than crying

To get this post vaguely back on topic, here's an interesting reflection. If finances permitted it (as they used to and may in the future) I'd rather treat someone who was in no sense a prospective partner to a £100 (for two) meal than be messed about by someone for a £20 meal. I love good food but people matter infinitely more.

Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/

Edited 28 Jun 09, 9:10 AM by wonderer

26 Jun 09, 6:14 PM
essexgalsub
UK, 4 yrs

JJ,

Thats terrible!

I cant believe some people- they hear that Dommes get spoiled and take advantage.

I too can not afford to buy or pay for much when it come s to anybody let alone Dommes.

Did you speak to the spanner trust?

lol

26 Jun 09, 6:33 PM
razyplaits
UK(PE), 4 yrs

thats is really dreadfull! i hope she caught.a good thing you safe and didnot play!

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