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| 24 Jun 09, 2:37 PM DaddysTouch UK(RG), 3 yrs   |
As you say it seems a little superfluous saying that he 'can' do something. Better would be to say you will do something e.g. "If you get the tax return sent off today I'll cook you steak tonight." What men in all the world have shown such daring? | |
| 24 Jun 09, 3:47 PM TheGardener UK(SG), 5 yrs |
Food...A lovely home cooked meal and freshly made bread do it for me every time. If kat is prepared to drive the cooker and ingredients around the kitchen for a couple of hours the least I can do is share my appreciation. Apart from man, no being wonders at it's own existence - Schopenhauer | |
| 24 Jun 09, 4:16 PM TeddyXxBearies UK(CR), 4 yrs |
If it works for You Both, then that's Cool - Enjoy !!! It doesn't really matter what other people think, surely ? If everyone on here worried about what other people thought, and over-analysed every aspect of there BDSM lives, We'd all have given up before We stated ! J.X It's Better To Be Hated For What You Are-
Than To Be Loved For What You Are Not ! Edited 24 Jun 09, 4:26 PM by TeddyXxBearies | |
| 24 Jun 09, 4:34 PM sub_rob_is_a_slut UK(SA), 5 yrs |
wouldn't you as the sub be doing the dishes and washing the car, then maybe you would surprise him and be in his favourite corset as he stepps out of the shower into the bedroom sub rob in a CB2000 | |
| 24 Jun 09, 4:36 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
I don't do dishes for no one. I cook, partner washes up. That's been the deal in previous relationships! | |
| 24 Jun 09, 4:46 PM Intelligencia UK(GU), 4 yrs |
Any sub can try to top from the bottom if they so wish, and any Dom/me can let them, if they so wish Every second of every hour of every day
I am Number 3 | |
| 24 Jun 09, 6:47 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
It's not really topping from the bottom is it? It's having a fun and flirtatious relationship where the pair don't take themselves too seriously! | |
| 24 Jun 09, 7:48 PM Tartful_dodger UK, 2 yrs |
Not sure about incentives but I do like being able to give someone after the fact rewards for doing something exceptional. Or offering them something nice when they're doing something a bit rubbish that isn't for me; if my daddy is having a hard day then yeah, I'd offer to do something to make him feel better. Its not as though I'd deny him the service if it was asked of me otherwise, but its nice to volunteer it, sometimes, especially if it'll brighten an otherwise crappy day. Oliver. | |
| 24 Jun 09, 9:15 PM saraxx UK, 7 yrs |
Nothing wrong with that at all if you are in a flirtatious relationship where you don't take yourselves too seriously, or even if you are in a fun & flirtatious relationship where you do take yourselves seriously. I do take the Ds dynamic of my relationships seriously, and I wouldn't attempt to introduce a conditional elemnent - partly because I wouldn't get away with it, but mostly because I have no desire to do so. Having said that, such a relationship can be enormously fun & satisfying - otherwise I wouldn't be doing it. So - in answer to the OP, it depends on the nature of a Ds relationship, and if it fine with both of you then that is simply all that matters.
'A woman, without her man, is nothing. | |
| 24 Jun 09, 11:29 PM TheScorpionQueen UK(CH), 4 yrs |
There's nowt wrong with putting ideas into his head, "can we christen the bonnet when it passes MOT daddy?"
~ Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~ Einstein |
