| 22 Jun 09, 11:23 PM xXx_scarlet_xXx UK, 4 yrs |
Off facebook and back here to meddle hmmm?
Welcome back my good 'Sir' (From 'an assertive, unswitching submissive') (º•.¸(¨*•.¸¸.•*¨)¸.•º) «.•°•. Scarlet .•°•.» (¸.•º(¸.•¨**¨•.¸)º•.¸) Edited 22 Jun 09, 11:29 PM by xXx_scarlet_xXx | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 12:13 AM thinking_dom 5 yrs  |
I suspect that sassy, argumentative, troublesome, and loves every minute of it Submissive is the more accurate discription. But one who loves every second of enjoying her just deserts for her quite wilful efforts!!! | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 12:29 AM HarmCandy UK, 4 yrs  |
Why is anyone purely one or the other? H 'It is the centaur! Chiron, halt! And let me speak with you. You taught and formed, with wisdom, strength and grace, the greatest heroes of a hero-race. In their noblest footsteps you have trod, and lived the hard life of a demigod.' | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 12:39 AM ntwman UK(BS), 8 yrs |
Why not just jump in and cause a whole world of shit!! From my own point of view I am dominant at work, dominant with some people I know and very submissive with the people I trust ….. I see no contradiction Life it too short for boring sex | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 12:46 AM thinking_dom 5 yrs |
Thank you HarmCandy, but I never said people were or had to be one or the other. My position is that there are those who are up front and honest and those who appear not to know who they are and what they seek. | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 12:51 AM thinking_dom 5 yrs |
Your thoughts are valued but it would be better and more contextual to follow the fullness of the threads. It is clear that you, like others, are open and honest about your needs and desires - the preference to remain open to be as you feel with the person you are with (sometimes submissive, sometimes dom etc). The critical things is that you are upfront and honest at the outset. Whereas others aren't. Hope this helps you understand my "bemusement" at those others. | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 1:23 AM ntwman UK(BS), 8 yrs |
I sometimes react too quick to web logs without thinking sometimes, I do apologise, the thing is at least to me honesty is and trust is the most important thing and if people cant do that then it can all go wrong, if a dom doesn't know what his/hers sub is really thinking or feeling then its not right. A friend of mine said” you must have so much trust in your relationships” and I agree with her, without that it doesn't work and trust has to be earned. Some people in Nilla relationships have something to learn I think Life it too short for boring sex | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 6:56 AM lily_65 UK(CH), 5 yrs |
Speaking personally, my submission is linked sexually. I don't consider myself to be submissive in my day to day life, work, dealing with family, I would say that I am a confident female. But....in the presence of a Dominant man, who I find attractive then I embrace his dominance and can let go and relax into submission. I have no desire to take control in a relationship either sexually or in day to day life, however, that is if I am with a Dom, without the Dom then I'm capable of being independant and assertive. | ||
| 23 Jun 09, 7:25 AM xXx_scarlet_xXx UK, 4 yrs |
You opinion, Sir and I respect you for it
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| 23 Jun 09, 9:26 AM thinking_dom 5 yrs |
Dear Lily, how beautifully and honestly put. It also so powerfully underscores the point about being candid and up front about our life preferences and personal choices. Thank you. Your profile is a wonderful extension of what you allude to in your comments above. My twinge of saddness is that we are somewhat more than an hour away! I wish you Godspeed in finding the one you seek. |
