This post is on the Pro-Mistresses etc web board (moved from Other BDSM).
| Sat 20 Jun 09, 10:58 AM thatboyspike UK(N), 3 yrs  |
Right, firstly this post isn't a dig at Pro Domme's who work ruddy hard and provide a great service. I've just seen the above line a few times here and on other boards and wondering what makes a good Pro-Domme customer as such. From a personal point of view my "fetish" as such comes from losing control and being under Another's guidance so I don't think I'd be that suitable as such for sessions with a Pro-Domme. However I don't walk around town in a collar and never will and can respect the fact that my look as such is totally vanilla so maybe I'm wrong. Who would you expect to provide a good subject as such for a Pro Domme? | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:01 AM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
Well, a pro-Domme will make you lose control and you certainly will be under her guidance, if you find one who also enjoys this kind of thing. Apart form the fact that you are paying, and that the session will have a stipulated duration, what makes you think that it wouldn't work for you? Just curious (again). Pornified Man-Hater Extraordinaire. | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:05 AM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £  |
Do your research. There are plenty of us who specialise at control or D/s play. Many of us are also highly selective about who we see - we only see those who's desires match up with ours. A professional relationship doesn't simply need to be about an hour of activies, then out the door. It can take on a more intense role, with control occuring outside of the sessions, for example. Why would you feel that a lifestyle Domme would make you walk around town in a collar - or is that a euphomism?
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| 20 Jun 09, 11:10 AM thatboyspike UK(N), 3 yrs |
No it's more to the fact that for all purposes my approach to general life isn't very "scene like" as such so maybe I would be better seeing a Pro-Domme, if I could get the darn money together! | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:11 AM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
A good subject always turns up when they say they will, doesn't smell bad, doesn't bullshit about their level of experience, and doesn't phone from withheld numbers. And comes back every month! That's about it, I think. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:12 AM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
We who are into kink live perfectly ordinary lives and wear jeans and t-shirts like everybody else. I kid you not. Pornified Man-Hater Extraordinaire. | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:13 AM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
Many lifestyle relationships aren't "scene". My own relationship is not that scene based. We attend a few events, but that isn't what defines us as partners - we engage in many vanilla activities too. And no, I don't make him wear a collar down the street, although he often has to sleep in one!
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| 20 Jun 09, 11:19 AM thatboyspike UK(N), 3 yrs |
Ha, well of course. I just meant my whole approach to life right now can hardly be seen as BDSM orientated as such. It's hard to explain | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:23 AM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
My life isn't "BDSM orientated" either. BDSM is a sexual preference, not a panto with whips an chains (unless you want ti to be, of course). I mean, how do you think people earn a bob here, look after their children, go to the supermarket? In latex catsuits and collars? Go to a munch, preferably to an u-35's one, and find out by yourself. Pornified Man-Hater Extraordinaire. | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 11:26 AM thatboyspike UK(N), 3 yrs |
Will definitely be doing that soon | |||
| 20 Jun 09, 12:45 PM lisal 9 yrs |
Just to add. A good subject is open minded, doesn't have preconceptions about PDs and /or will happen in a session, places his/her trust in the PD etc etc As others have said OP you can lose control in a session. It's also more than possible (if that's what you want and can manage) to build up a long term relationship with a PD that pushes this further and makes it much more personal Good luck if you go down this route. As Mistress Susannah says do make sure you do your research |
