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Strength In Weakness ?? (28)

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6 Jul 09, 10:08 AM
prettyname
UK(NW), 11 yrs

My strength is my weakness, and my weakness is my strength.

~“Nothing is ever the same as they said it was. It's what I've never seen before that I recognise.” Diane Arbus~
~"it's what you see other times that's interesting"~ foxxx~
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6 Jul 09, 6:32 PM
Wildmessilina
2 yrs

JaneEyre wrote:

when the dynamic becomes more about the persons need to dominate or submit rather than the joy of giving to one another, does that make sense ?

It makes sense to me. The relationship must always come first.

6 Jul 09, 6:51 PM
Aurorian
UK(HD), 5 yrs
£

bodski wrote:
Strength In Weakness ?? I see great strength in accepting weakness.

Agree entirely. Things become so much easier when you come to terms with the fact that you can't be perfect... whatever that is. I love developing and learning, if I thought I could never do wrong then I would never be able to grow.

6 Jul 09, 6:52 PM
Jude_the_Obscene
UK(HD), 3 yrs

bodski wrote:
The world is set up to give women a much stronger position in society.

Are you from Bizzaro World?

I'm off to see the Bootleg Beatles.
As the Bootleg Mark Chapman.

6 Jul 09, 7:47 PM
Mistress_Avralivia
UK(RG), 4 yrs
£

Ariadne_Tally wrote:
Interesting - I feel my thoughts are very undeveloped on this, but I can't shake the thought that a dom/me is weak in needing to control someone else. And that a sub is stronger because they let the other person take control.

I know this is not prescriptive, and unlikely to be true, but it is my two pence worth that has been added!

By this definition anyone who leads is weak, this means that Winston Churchill was weak, Ghengis Khan was weak, Adolf Hitler, Vlad Dracula, Emperor Constantine and indeed any religious figure including God and Jesus are weak

perhaps you should look at it from the perspective that someone who leads is weak only if they are leading someone else who is weak. The stronger the sub is then the stronger the Dom/me needs to be.

"You're going to massage me, but first I'm going to bind you"

Edited 6 Jul 09, 8:02 PM by Mistress_Avralivia

6 Jul 09, 7:51 PM
rubesque
UK, 4 yrs

Mistress_Avralivia wrote:
perhaps you should look at it from the perspective that someone who leads is weak only if they are leading someone else who is weak. The stronger the sub is then the stronger the Dom/me needs to be

Very well said.

He looked into My eyes, and I almost died. Then I remembered what I was and half killed him.

6 Jul 09, 8:55 PM
Sirs_Froglet
UK(S), 3 yrs

I'm not sure that strength necessarily comes from weakness, but that being more aware of your weaknesses can enable you to better overcome them. As regards how this plays out in a Ds relationship, I can see how one might consider the alternate roles as supporting one another's different strengths and weaknesses.

Personally, I am finding that as I become more open to letting my partner in on my weaknesses and fears, the less scary they become and the more he can hold my hand and guide me through some of them. At the same time, I don't presume him to be without flaws simply because he is my dominant; I adore the fact that he doesn't hide his humanness from me and I love him more for trusting me enough to let me in on his vulnerabilities.

6 Jul 09, 9:35 PM
Wildmessilina
2 yrs

Personally I adore that mix of brutal and fragile in a Dom. I feel humbled that a Dom that has me as his putty could possibly reveal his vulnerability too. Raw honesty, lacking pretention, Its an exquisit human trait and not in the slightest unerving.