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| Mon 8 Jun 09, 4:54 PM Darkest_desires UK(PR), 3 yrs   |
Hiya, Have just been playing with my mistress, unfortunately she was at work and its my day off so its been text play.
She had me edging and calming down to the point that I was pretty much promising anything to be allowed to cum She had me on my knees with a hairbrush handle up my ass and edging, before allowing me to cum in a self ruined orgasm. Now, while I was doing all this, I was quite happy, feeling very kinky and slutty and enjoying it thoroughly however immediately after cumming I just felt very stupid, to the point where i'm thinking, i'll just turn vanilla... Does anyone else experience this sort of thing ? I know in a couple of days i'll have built up again and be promising all sorts to play a bit, but struggling with the effect immediately afterwards. quoniam vita est brevis | |
| 8 Jun 09, 5:53 PM Charless UK(WC), 11 yrs |
I always thought that all sex was God's little joke on humanity ('What I make them do; the positions I make them get into!' etc.), and that's why a lot of people are said to do it in private with the lights out. But we bdsmers have overcome all of that - haven't we? | |
| 8 Jun 09, 6:18 PM Lockey UK(NW), 4 yrs |
Yep. It's the same dynamic, IMO, as can sometimes happen for girls (mainly) in a vanilla setting, after sex - feeling dirty, sluttish, hating themselves etc. I think it's just a chemical thing - I've experienced it myself, and it's not pleasant but it goes away pretty quick usually.
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| 8 Jun 09, 6:25 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Never regret anything... especially if you enjoyed it (unless it harms others).
"Truth is stranger than fiction." | |
| 8 Jun 09, 6:29 PM avantgarden 3 yrs |
Sex, vanilla or not, can be silly. Kink even more so. Feeling like a bit of a twat sometimes proves your sane and don't take yourself too seriously. Go you.
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| 8 Jun 09, 6:31 PM Educated_Savage UK, 3 yrs |
To an extent what we do is silly - we dress up in strange clothes, allow others to hurt and demean us or we do the hurting and demeaning depending on our want - and we love it, get excited about it. And sometimes we catch ourselves, see ourselves as a vanilla might see us - squatting on the floor with something stuffed up our arse and we feel a little silly. But when you're in the middle of it it feels great so why worry about it. | |
| 8 Jun 09, 7:10 PM skadii UK(W), 5 yrs |
The silliest I've ever felt sexwise was back when I was a teenager desperately trying to persuade myself that I was straight and vanilla (because unfulfilling self-loathing shagging with people you don't fancy is just sooo much better than acknowledging your perversions, natch). I remember kind of looking at myself and thinking "You're not turned on, there's some hideous sweaty bloke humping away valiantly, and because he's a *nice boy* he's not going to stop until you pretend to come... gods this is stupid."
Oops, maybe too much information. But anyways. Sex is silly, you can't help that, and yes occasionally I still find myself thinking, "I just did what? Ooh, how to look wobbly / undignified / contorted / whatever" - but it's never, ever been as bad as the post-straight-vanilla-sex shame. | |
| 8 Jun 09, 7:18 PM Cinnamon_Tart UK(S), 8 yrs |
I've only ever felt this once or twice, and in a remote setting, ie I was doing stuff under instruction. And I obeyed. And then afterwards, without the love, comfort, nurturing that you get with realtime, in-person play....I felt really really stupid and little and daft. Unloved and really wondering wtf I was doing. Never ever felt it in person. Shocked at myself maybe, but never stupid and that I was doing things "wrong". Do you feel this in person too, or just when it's remote and she is not there?
Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you. - Richard Bach, Illusions | |
| 8 Jun 09, 7:47 PM Glovepuppet UK(GL), 3 yrs |
I have a tendency to find the vast majority of things amusing and sex in particular often sets off the giggles. It's one of my favourite things about Him that I don't have to censor myself. Either He lets me laugh or He slaps me accross the face and tells me it's not funny (either way I win). Life is ridiculous frankly (whether you've a hairbrush up your arse or not) and I think it's best to just go with it. I do my best to fight thoughts of what other people would make of me and what I do. I take lots of photographs and for a while I took pictures of a hole without a draincover near where I lived. I got some funny looks but it genuinely amused me and truly made my life happier to do this (yeah I'm odd). So it was positive thing to do. As you wish Edited 8 Jun 09, 7:49 PM by Glovepuppet | |
| 8 Jun 09, 8:01 PM subspace_junkie UK(M), 4 yrs |
you have just summed up my sex life before bdsm! | |
| 8 Jun 09, 9:15 PM Darkest_desires UK(PR), 3 yrs |
Thanks for the replies, think I just need to not worry about it so much ! I think is usually when remote Cinnamon, but we've not done it that often to know for sure. I do know that when Sam domme's me in person, depending what she does (humiliation/cd stuff) I sometimes go from being completely sub to completely dom, as if to prove a point or something..
Its all bloody interesting dynamics anyhow quoniam vita est brevis |
