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| 6 Jun 09, 4:06 PM LostProperty UK(CW), 11 yrs   |
I am proud of my lifestyle and if anyone I know where to come across my profile and recognise me, then fine, I am perfectly happy for that. That goes for my parents, daughter, immediate and extended family as well as all those that I work with and all the people that I know. Whilst I don't flaunt it, if anyone has any questions or suspicions or curiosities about me and my lifestyle then I am happy to discuss and inform them and anyone who were to have an adverse reaction would not be anyone worth having in my life anyway. I totally understand however the necessity for some people to be more secretive who choose not to have face shots on their profile as a result of the sensitivities of their profession. All I've known, all I've done, all I've felt was leading to this. Gonna' love you till the seas run dry, till the earth stops turning. I found the one I've waited for. X Exquisite Humility X | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 4:39 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Nods head in agreement. RD xx It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 5:11 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
For obvious reasons I could not disgree more M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 5:29 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
I'd assumed it was done deliberately. And couldn't give a flying one whether he trusts me or not, I am not putting a face pic up. I wouldn't waste my time on anyone with such an arsey attitude. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 5:32 PM DaddysTouch UK(RG), 3 yrs |
I'm happy to post face pictures because 1) Nobody is going to find them unless they too are into BDSM and 2) Whether they are into BDSM themselves or not, I don't mind anyone knowing and 3) I mostly ignore profiles without face pictures and wouldn't expect anyone else to have any interest in mine without knowing what I look like. Some of my friends know explicitly about 'what I do', so to speak, others don't really know but surely will have some idea of how I am. Of those that know, some have been interested, others have been fine with it, and some have disapproved but it's never caused problems. They haven't de-friended me and don't spend their time lecturing on me on my depravity. It's fine.
I'd hope your friends, even if they would make these assumptions per se, wouldn't make them of you because they know you.
An off-topic point, but why the need for bold part? If it's between consenting adults I'd argue this really shouldn't matter. Besides, not all BDSM is necessarily legal - though you might not do any of the illegal stuff, 'tis true. What men in all the world have shown such daring? Edited 6 Jun 09, 5:59 PM by DaddysTouch | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 5:49 PM princess_geek UK(CO), 3 yrs |
I have pictures of myself because 1 - I'm not bothered about what I'm into, it is just part of me. 2 - I think it is nice for people to know they're talking to a real live human. 3 - I think people care far less about what we're into than we think. | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 6:21 PM Lockey UK(NW), 4 yrs |
Quite. I am considering this myself... I work in education, and the issue for me is not so much straight discrimination from colleagues etc - my employer has TS and TV on the books, and more lesbians and gays than you can shake a stick at - but the "disrepute" thing ( yes: ridiculous, unfair and a classic piece of Orwellian double-speak) and also, probably most importantly, the reaction of students... I know for 100% it would only be a matter of time before my profile was found and disseminated. Probably via Facebook. So, the issue for me, is to be out or not, at work. I choose not to be, and that's my right. I don't think it says much about me other than that I'd prefer not to have to deal with the fallout, which might range from having a serious union backed fight with personnel over my P45, to having students laugh behind their hands, and all points in between. The counter argument ( roughly, "stand up and be counted, like the gays did") is compelling, and I'd never say never. But for now, I prefer a quiet life. PS - I'm not ugly* *much **edit for tpoys** Edited 6 Jun 09, 6:31 PM by Lockey | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 6:24 PM furry_catgirl UK(CT), 3 yrs |
this site is a nice site.
it is for a community.
no-one should be ashamed of their community. when I see profile with no picture, it does put me off a little. but what is worse, is when people put up pictures of everything but themselves. as if it will make the looker forget! if you dont want to put a picture up, fine, but you may not get as much interest. or respect maybe? from those that do have pictures. a polite explanation helps. but please, dont fill it with other stuff taken from the net. it makes you look like a walter mitty. the need to be secret I understand. the need to fool I do not. just my view. real strength is knowing who you are | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 6:25 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
And makes you look like a theif by stealing others images. | ||||
| 6 Jun 09, 6:57 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
Though it may be possible the interest one does receive is based on ones comments and not on a photograph. A much firmer basis for communication imo. M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. |
