What is Love?? (87)

I would do this for my daughter, my mother or my partner...

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Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.
- William Dement

I do not love anyone that much (ha ha)

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Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
Now I know I'm being used but that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?

Everything else, i'm unsure of and romantic love goes a little like this for me: I love you right now (when i say it i mean it but, it does not mean that i will feel that in a few minutes!) This romantic love does not appear to come with a life time gurantee and it makes me feel scared when people expect that of me. Held to randsom for words long since gone by lovers who expected it to last forever.

I have figured out a few things about this enigma love: It comes and goes, its lovely when you feel it even for a moment, its sad when it goes. It is also dangerous, cruel and posessive. Maybe what i describe however, is not real love because someone told me that love is supposed to be: Free, kind, giving, non judgemental, relaxing. I just don't feel that with romantic love.

For me the love word comes up in the following ways: When being shagged very well (some say i think like a man), when someone is giving me stuff i want. Sometimes in a romantic way, when i go out and have a nice day with someone i love them but, i may not the next day.

I think i may have loved someone once, a romantic love, a woman. She was so lovely and i would have done anything but, she didn't want me in the long run. THAT was a long time ago now, i was 21. If i see her now my heart still races...was that love? I'm not sure, maybe it was just the sexual chemistry we had that i remember so well.

I sit here waiting for a love that seems like it does in the films, is it real? Am i correct in thinking that this romantic love is just one moment or so in time which you share with another person and then it is gone?

Just allowed myself a 30 something sex in the city ramble, forgive me .

hello. thats a great way of describing love and very accurate. its strange how quickly people choose to be cynical about love - perhaps they've never known it or perhaps they are bitter from past experiences. if i can go to sleep next to someone and want nothing else, and wake and see them and from that first sight on waking have the strength to face anything the world can throw at me then that for me is love

predictably i have some tracks to impose on people - if you are a bitter cynic i would'nt bother clicking on them

"moments lost though time remains i am so proud of what we were, no time remains, no feeling, eternity awaits"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N939-xgTBrM

"despite the wisdom of defeat i bear my heart for all to see, with my face turned to the sun forever standing still"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FvID2psHUTA

and of course ..... joy division. the opening bars of this track still send a cold shiver up my back

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yTIpcwBTTs

Why doea it have to be so serious and symbolise commitment? Why can't it just be an expression of how one feels at the time?

I like to say it to my friends when I'm really enjoying their company, to let them know I appreciate them.

I like to say it to my daughter, as often as possible, so that she is never in any doubt.

I like to say it to my partner. He knows when I'm saying it because I want him to say it back. He can tell when I'm saying it because I want him to know that I do. And he is very aware of when I am saying it because it is the undeniable truth of what we share together. He has known every time the bond has deepened.

There's no need to hold back and not say the word because you fear that it is over-used and that this will somehow reduce it's power and purity.

Why would it?

A word can never completely sum up the emotion anyway. It's always the context and the expression that accompanies it that makes the difference.

Here in the midst, of a lonely abyss,
A single light I find;
Your presence in my mind.

he will find out if i have been bad.

The wise man is correct, this is probably one of most mis-used words in the english language.

I can say "I love my car", which translated means I really like it. I could also say I love your dress, but would I die for it? No of course I wouldn't.

Here is the bilical definition of love, also described as "Agape".

1 Corinthians 13

1.If I speak in the languages of humans and angels but have no love, I have become a reverberating gong or a clashing cymbal. 2.If I have the gift of prophecy and can understand all secrets and every form of knowledge, and if I have absolute faith so as to move mountains but have no love, I am nothing. 3.Even if I give away everything that I have and sacrifice myself, but have no love, I gain nothing.

4.Love is always patient; love is always kind love is never envious or arrogant with pride. Nor is she conceited,

5.and she is never rude; she never thinks just of herself or ever get annoyed. She never is resentful;

6.is never glad with sin, but always glad to side with truth,whene'er the truth should win.

7.She bears up under everything, believes the best in all,there is no limit to her hope,and she will never fall.

8.Love never fails. Now if there are prophecies, they will be done away with. If there are languages, they will cease. If there is knowledge, it will be done away with. 9.For what we know is incomplete and what we prophesy is incomplete. 10.But when what is complete comes, then what is incomplete will be done away with. 11.When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, and reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up my childish ways. 12.Now we see only an indistinct image in a mirror, but then we will be face to face. Now what I know is incomplete, but then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13.Right now three things remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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The definition of pure love to me seems quite simple.

It has nothing to do with sex or gender.

Quite often the word love is used as a tool to obtain something. It may be sex, money or a personal possesion. Used in this way it is a tool of deception.

Unconditional "LOVE" however is precisely that, it would be to take the bullet if necessary. It is worth remebering on "D" day that a lot of brave men and women did just that to give a better future to those they loved.

Personally I know when I love someone.......it is no mystery.

When I see them my heart jumps with joy When I don't see them my heart aches and is sad and I miss them. How many relationships has anyone had where they thought they were in "love" and yet they didn't miss the person when they weren't there?

I know I love someone when they make me angry, yet they mean so much to me, that I forgive their faults and work on the problem which has made me angry.

I know I love someone when I am not interested in what they have got or what I can get out of them.

True love has no boundaries or definition.......if it does it isn't love. How many times have you heard " I love you but I can't...xyz..... so whatever it is that you can't do means it isn't unconditional love.

"But I Agape" you doesn't quite seem to work either does it?

Shall we invent a new word ?

The Commander

Edited 7 Jun 09, 12:19 AM by CommanderBondage

I feel you've both written what I deeply feel to be true thank you.

Agape is a wondrous word, the only other that comes close in its true meaning is Namaste - "I bow to the god in you".

Lip Up Phatty

I am fortunate enough to have been subjected to those lightnings a few times in my life.

A lot of people perceive love as a constant, universal form, and almost impossible to attain (Plato). But I find it always evolving and refined through effort and the passage of time.

Here's a passage about love from The Prophet, by Kahlil Gibran -

"Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;

For love is sufficient unto love.

But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.

To know the pain of too much tenderness.

To be wounded by your own understanding of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully."

I particularly like the line 'to melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night' - it suggests to me the very private nature of love, love as a feeling that belongs to you, your personal song on this planet that only you can sing.