Misunderstanding pro dommes ( again) (60)

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Mon 1 Jun 09, 2:49 PM
MsDarklove_Hurts
UK(WF), 5 yrs
£ Y!
I am sooooo sorry for digging up this old chestnut, but I have just had THE most spiteful, poisenous and hate filled memo containing all the usual insults about being a pro domme.
Yes! I know I should iggy it, but the thing is, this person sounds as if they genuinely believe that we are the scum of the earth and are all money grabbing harpies with no more right to be on Gods earth than a hole in the road at rush hour. He/she also castigates clients as being desperate idiots who are easily conned out of their cash. Can I please just say AGAIN:
Be tolerant, open minded and sympathetic to those people who have good loving relationships with a partner/spouse and have children who they adore and a very happy marriage, apart from not being able to satisfy their deep and genuine need to submit.
Be tolerant towards those who's work load is so strenuous and demanding that they have little or no time to form a realtionship with a fetish partner.
Be tolerant towards those who may not WANT a partner and yet want regular none commital play sessions.
Also be tolerant and open minded towards the people who supply what these people seek.
What do these people who are into stable, loving relationships but whos partners cannot understand the need to submit do? Get divorced and seek a BDSM partner who may never materialise? Have an affair behind their partners back and hope they never get caught?
Most opt for a pro domme, who will give them a penetrative sex free, much needed and safe venue for their submissive instincts, who does not expect any commitment or shift of loyalties from their family and from whom they can walk away from at the end of a session with no expectations on either side.
There are also many who come to me with physical or mental disabilities. They may have incredibly small penises (and a lot do!) or some genital deformity that may make it difficult to find a partner to play with or make them have quite unjustified very low self worth issues. They may have serious health problems that make it imperative that they sub to someone who knows how far to go and can monitor the play to suit them. Many have emotional luggage and low self confidence. I help them to realise that they ARE worth something, are valued and can participate in exiting and mutually satisfying play.
Pro dommes can also introduce a newbie to the pleasure of play in a (hopefully!) safe, monitored environment. For the most part we are a safe, steady and dependable lot.
I hope this explanation makes you feel less judgmental towards pro dommes. WE ARE NOT ALL MONEY GRABBING HARPIES.
Take care and be safe.
Perfect beauty. Absolute obedience.
Edited Mon 1 Jun 09, 3:01 PM by MsDarklove_Hurts

1 Jun 09, 2:57 PM
Ms_Tytania_London
UK(E), 16 mths
£

MsDarklove_Hurts wrote:
Misunderstanding pro dommes ( again)
I am sooooo sorry for digging up this old chestnut, but I have just had THE most spiteful, poisenous and hate filled memo containing all the usual insults about being a pro domme.
It's just a memo. That person would never have the guts to talk to you face to face. Hit delete, block him/her, breath deep and have a cuppa. The problem is with them, not with you.
http://www.mstytania.com

1 Jun 09, 3:02 PM
MsDarklove_Hurts
UK(WF), 5 yrs
£ Y!
Yes You are right. Thankyou. I generally iggy those kinds of memos but this one upset me. X
DarkLoveHurts Perfect beauty. Absolute obedience.

1 Jun 09, 3:28 PM
madamefirefly
UK, 16 mths
£ It is no one's business what one does with there money and time. I play with my partner and am also a pro Domme. Let's face it, our clients are not silly they can tell a money grabber from the real thing!!
I live and work doing something that I am passionate about. As for this bitter, twisted and lonely person leave them to cry a river whilst we carry on doing what we love!!!!!
Regards.
Madame Firefly.
www.madamefirefly.com

1 Jun 09, 3:39 PM
Lady_Anna_Bradford
UK(BD), 3 yrs
£

Ms_Tytania_London wrote:

MsDarklove_Hurts wrote:
Misunderstanding pro dommes ( again)
I am sooooo sorry for digging up this old chestnut, but I have just had THE most spiteful, poisenous and hate filled memo containing all the usual insults about being a pro domme.
It's just a memo. That person would never have the guts to talk to you face to face. Hit delete, block him/her, breath deep and have a cuppa. The problem is with them, not with you.
Absolutely. It's nice and safe to sit behind a keyboard and spout uninformed vile against us.
If they really believed what they say they would have the guts to say it to our face. They never do.

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1 Jun 09, 4:05 PM
Shamonu
UK, 5 yrs

MsDarklove_Hurts wrote:
Yes You are right. Thankyou. I generally iggy those kinds of memos but this one upset me. X
You should be tied to the kitchen sink, um, well not literally. A lot of men still have the mentality of, hang on, you know you should be...
The term �Stepford Wife� is used to describe a woman who lives a blindly conforming life, remaining subservient to her husband and other authority figures while attempting to offend no one.
Tut tut, a lot of men are horrified that some women don't conform. The little arse wipe probably is 56 and still lives with his mother. Go girl, you do a fantastic service..

She's so pure, Moses could'nt even part her knees.....Joan Rivers on Marie Osmond.

1 Jun 09, 4:07 PM
vellan_drang
3 yrs I'm sure people in receipt of this moronic sh*t will be able to understand the kind of abuse habitually punched in the direction of anyone who doesn't conform to some small-minded, intellectually- and emotionally-stunted view of the world. My apologies for the cynicism, but why are pro-Dommes so surprised that it happens to them?
The (mostly) male morons who get their kicks from this kind of exercise have their own set of problems. Everyone else who has ever experienced abuse, knows how you feel.
v._dr

1 Jun 09, 4:51 PM
MsDarklove_Hurts
UK(WF), 5 yrs
£ Y!
Had the cuppa! Deleted and blocked! All that remains is to thank all who were so kind as to contribute to the thread XXXXXXXX
DarkLoveHurts Perfect beauty. Absolute obedience.

7 Jun 09, 2:04 PM
E_Beau1
UK(ME), 4 yrs

Thank you for a great post MsDarklove_Hurts.
i'm sorry to read of the memo you received. Please don't let people like this get you down.
Good Pro-Dommes (and there are many) do offer so much more than just play. my self-esteem, general outlook, metabolism and health all improved greatly when i started to see a Domme on a regular basis.
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7 Jun 09, 5:01 PM
Bendover67
14 mths
Ms Darklove Hurts There is still a group on here who see pro dommes as scum and their clients as saddos who don't understand BDSM and aren't committed to the scene. Unfortunately these people don't undersrand that PDs serve a very good purpose, most are total professionals and maybe serve a need for someone that a " vanilla" woman can't provide. I for one am seriously considering visiting one in the near future.

8 Jun 09, 6:28 AM
roymondo
UK(LN), 2 yrs

MsDarklove_Hurts wrote:
You are quite right about the need for two sides to a life.
Some Prodommes may be very good but fearful expensive. I don't know if more money equals a better service but I am going to mine today. She is excellent and one of the cheapest I have found. There was a local domme at the same price and she was good, but not as good, if you see what I mean. She suddenly stopped .
I don't begrudge the prodomme as a well equipped dungeon does not come cheap. It becomes obvious when you see the difference, in the adverts, between a well-equipped Domme and one who is maximising profit.
Also the contact time in �/minute is far cheaper than the lack of contact time in a massage parlour.
Carry on Dommng please

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