| 19 Jul 09, 9:36 PM SensualCreature UK(DE), 3 yrs |
I've discovered this weblog long after the event but just wanted to join in the hoorah, thanks for the blog and it is a lovely antidote. I'm not one for whinging and I usually skim over the whine-a-lot posts because frankly it's an old theme and one that's quite dull at that, bring on the positivity  have fun! "a sub shares things with her master she can barely admit to herself" Edited 4 Sep 11, 6:20 PM by SensualCreature | |
| 10 Aug 09, 11:01 AM american_girl UK(CB), 2 yrs  |
Reposted from http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/245382/0
I like being a newbie as well. But then I'll probably continue to like being a not-so-newbie. I suppose I just like kink. I'm enjoying the newness of it all. I've only bee on IC for a little more than a month, and I jumped in with both feet. Every day feels like a new adventure - what new people are around that corner, what new truths will I discover about myself today, that sort of thing. I find myself walking around during the day with a silly grin on my face, smiling at my workmates because they couldn't possibly guess what I'm thinking! A potential downside, or at least a caveat, to all of this great new stuff, though, is that it can be completely consuming. For me, this has taken a huge amount of head space. I jumped in headfirst - within the first few weeks, I'd been to and played semi-publicly at a fetish club, gone to Swamp, and had my first actual play session. A bit too much, methinks ... I found it difficult for a while for me to exist in my vanilla life because I couldn't get this stuff out of my head enough. What I learned from those wonderful, exhausting, overwhelming, manic few weeks is that I don't have to do and explore everything RIGHT NOW, and I think that's one of the potential pitfalls of newbie-ism. I mean, jeez, it's fantastic isn't, it - who wouldn't want to go rushing headlong into it all?! But for me, I need some real time to let my head catch up. And I'll only get these first steps once, so I'm actively trying now to take time to relish them. One last (and most important) thing I like about being new is the people I've met. There's a handful (you know who you are) of new friends who are really central to what I'm learning about myself. And I think that because I'm new, it's allowed me to remain open to the great new people who've wandered into my life. And in the end, it's about the people I share my kink with, so this has been the most astounding, most wonderful, most liberating, most brilliant part of all that newbie-ness encompasses. | |
| 13 Aug 09, 3:30 AM x_zero_x UK(DD), 10 yrs  |
i agree with RiverDeep here, and sit in the same situation but IC is a great site, once again thanks to Tanos and co. Your day has finally come - | |
| 15 Aug 09, 11:21 AM Ariane 7 yrs |
I've had a similar experience of IC. Met a few playmates, a lot of friends, found events, enjoyed conversations. I haven't had much time for hanging around for a while, and am currently single because my time has been eaten by a project, but I maintain my presence here and check for messages most days.
Perhaps I'll find more time to wade in again eventually, maybe even find a sub who can do a good foot massage on the days I need it most. Ariane
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| 26 Aug 09, 7:46 PM Penny_Louise 5 yrs |
Hey, can I be naughty so you can delete my posts, then? Penny x | |
| 26 Aug 09, 7:59 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
I'd rather smack yer bum instead! That is the other thing about IC - it goes through dire phases with not much at all happening, but sometimes you get some real kwolity silly banter going on! Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | |
| 20 Oct 09, 10:53 AM The_Knave UK(N), 4 yrs |
Thanks for some welcome perspective, and hope you're enjoying your break. i was saddened that your pic of you covered in rope wearing sunglasses has gone - maybe some time ago, as that was a pic i would look at from time to time to remember to take IC and the whole kink obsession just a little bit less seriously! | |
| 21 Oct 09, 8:25 PM Phoenyx UK(NW), 4 yrs |
I actually fucking LOVE IC. It introduced me to some amazing people, it brought me out of my tiny corner of the fet scene into a larger broader spectrum of it which has opened my eyes and my heart. oh and I found Him. And we just today decided to put a deposit on a flat together. And I would never even knew he existed if it wasn't for this site. IC gives me entertainment when I am bored, wank fodder when I am horny, and friends to make when I am lonely. What more could a bird ask for? 'I guess you go too far, when pianos try to be guitars' | |
| 30 Dec 09, 12:42 AM Rob_the_slut UK(B), 2 yrs |
Nice idea I don't particularly mind the 'whinge threads'. I think they usually get a pretty constructive response. Probably more constructive than they deserve, and that is nice to see. Personally, the people I have met so far through IC have been genuinely seeking some fun, and welcoming to new faces. I don't think I could ask any more that that. I'm glad I found it. Rob. | |
| 23 Jan 10, 9:44 AM Eclectic_shock UK(SW), 7 yrs |
Bump Good thread. It's worth making the effort to highlight the good side. As has been said before, it IS a place to meet people and increase the likelihood that the person you meet is the perve for you. Per the post about it taking a month to find the right person, it took me 6 months, and I STILL can't believe how lucky I was. Power corrupts; absolute power is even more fun |
