Do you censor your submissive/slave (72)

I will sometimes ask him to read over something before I post it to make sure it reads the way I intend it to, but that's not censorship, it's proof reading. He frequently asks me to do the same. Either of us would delete a post that the other felt reflected badly on our reputations. Neither of us has ever asked. I have amended a post because I slipped up and put his first name in, which doesn't get mentioned in public boards or chatrooms.

I have been in a relationship where expressing my thoughts and opinions, in any way, wasn't encouraged. Doubly so if these opinions differed in any way from those of my Dom. It was not a healthy relationship and I wasn't happy in it. My access to the internet, or even to a computer, was severely restricted and closely monitored.I will go as far as to say that it was a relationship which had slowly become abusive.

I know that there will be exceptions to this, people who are happy in a relationship where e-mails are screened, posts are censored or removed regularly. I know there are people who will revel in this level of control without it adversely effecting their happiness or finding it abusive.

However, I think for the most part that a restriction on, an inability to, or a fear of expressing opinions, thoughts, wants, needs, desires, etc, is too closely linked to abusive tendencies within a relationship. It's not much of a step between censoring posts, or dictating that you can't have a giggle on an online forum and restricting contact with and access to friends and family. Social contact with other human beings is a basic need for most people.

Would I consent to censorship of my opinions again? No chance.

Edited for spelling

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Edited 16 May 09, 10:30 AM by tiggerGlasgow

These violent delights have violent ends and in their triumph die,
like fire and powder, which as they kiss consume.

Then there is a form of censorship which is a caring and nurturing effect.

Yes I am censored by my Master and have been since he got to know me well. I can respond to something off the cuff, without thinking about what I have written, and come across as ignorant and non thinking and non caring, so I am not allowed to post something without running it by him first. If it is something that has made my blood boil, or that I am frustrated at, he will make me refrain from responding to it for anything from a few hours to a few days, this allows me time to do research and think about the true meaning of my posts.

I respect him for this as I can be a bit of a hot head, it has taught me to think before reacting, slow down in my responses, in fact sometimes I have not even had to respond at all as the following posts go way off mark and diverse completely and I am left with the knowledge that I did not contribute to such 'trash'.

This goes for all sorts of postings, not just here on IC but on newspaper articles and here I ask his permission to not only post but under which name, this may sound double standards as I am totally out, but if I use my proper name, morgan_MP, this can then be put into a search engine and they see my connection to IC and on certain posts this is not advisable.

So I guess the answer is 'yes, my responses are censored, however, my email is not as we are both business people and on here he trusts my integrity to respond to emails appropriately and with sense, and yes, I do ask his opinion if I think it is needed.

Oh yeah, and for the record, this does not make me incapable of thought, it just stops me writing crap and contributing something of intelligent substance, and being an intelligent person, I would rather it was done this way!

Just my opinion of course.

And now to ask Master if I can post this!

Master says yes I can post this, however, he would like me to point out that the biggest censorship he ever laid on me was the contact of my mother, after one expereince on the phone nearly 7 years ago he put it down as a hiccup, also that my description of her was possibly bias, so he said that I was not to contact her, then the children confirmed certain experiences, then eventually he met her, and until that day he had still thought me a little bias, from that day though he said any contact through her would be done through him, I am not even allowed to speak about her to fellow members of my family as it upsets me. And the result? I have stopped comfort eating, I am no longer 'depressed' as I had been since I was 8, I am happy, my kids are happy in the knowledge that someone is protecting me, so for nurturing, this for me has been the ultimate censorship as it not only effected me, but himself and my children and other members of my family. And for this I thank him, and this lifestyle, every day.

ETA some may think i am not allowed an opinion, yes i am !! all posts i do are my opinion, but with censorship from Master the difference is between intelligent responses and silly little one sentences that show ignorance of this lifestyle and can cause antagonistic reactions.

Meus dominus fidelis mancipium, semper
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” Plato

Edited 16 May 09, 11:32 AM by morgan_MP

Censorship is alive and well in our house. I'm not allowed to grunt, even though i've accumulated four free grunts!! For some reason, my impression of the noise made by one of the beagles when he's licking his balls is met with atrocious violence!!

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Personally when im in submissive mode, or rather serving someone, i become very aware of what it is that im writing as i do not want it to reflect badly on my Master, i have no idea why i do this i just seem to do it, possibly because im a creepy arsed git?

And i seriously do think that the behaviour of the submissive is a reflection on their owner... but then again im strange like that.... and considering who i own it is a very strange statement to be making indeed.... i think i'll shut up now

as a submissive I most certainly would not post or blog anything that was detrimental to my Dom or Master, nor would I post/blogg anything untoward about anything within our relationship etc.

This all comes down to respecting each other.

I know himself would never *censor* my posts but that said if we do something or something happens, Himself will express that *this is not blog material*.

What I am trying to say is, a sub should know when the line is to drawn in any postings.

Common sense

My submission is not a gift.
It is how my body and mind reacts to you.
And it is free for you to do what ever you wish with it.

Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you?

I never use intelligent because, in my view, its an illusion. Some people are academically bright, others have an abundance of common sense, others maybe streetwise, etc.

I love one sentenced, antagonistic replies, I'll live and die by them. Its the only way to sort out the wheat from the chaff. Oh and ofcourse, no one is going to have any control over me in that way, in my opinion, it shows a real sense of insecurity and control freakery..

She's so pure, Moses could'nt even part her knees.....Joan Rivers on Marie Osmond.

However I would fully accept that a sub or slave is a representative of her Owner and certainly would encourage and expect clear expression, grammar, spelling etc. in how she presents herself. Nor would I accept indiscretions or gossip or swearing.

So a weather eye is maintained yes but not on her viewpoint, that is always welcomed, I learn a lot from it.

- John

My, what sharp teeth I have.

Edited 16 May 09, 1:13 PM by BadWulf