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on Tue 12 May 09, 3:31 PM to Ima_Kant's blog.
Several hot chockies;
An Italian meal;
A few drinks;
A Malaysian meal;
A couple of taxi fares;
An expensive bottle of perfume.
Three weeks of me wooing her.
What does she give me?
A text informing me that she can't cope with a relationship.
Fack,
She asked ME out.
Guess it was getting to just about the time she treated me.
I guessed wrong.
Cynical... Moi?
| 12 May 09, 3:48 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
No - you weren't cynical... If you'd been cynical you would not have made the investment. Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | ||
| 12 May 09, 4:02 PM Ima_Kant UK(PO), 3 yrs |
There's only one thing worse than not getting what you want... and that's getting it! | ||
| 12 May 09, 4:49 PM TheUnleashed UK(DY), 3 yrs |
I understand what you mean but a bald cost/benefit analysis like this doesn't really lend itself to assessing a relationship does it? The eventual arguement is that the more you invest the more you are owed back, and that is a completely different kind of relationship/business scenario. Sorry it all went belly-up though. nil volentibus arduum | ||
| 12 May 09, 5:18 PM Barbahella UK(W), 8 yrs |
Despite the fact that I am consistently told by many men and women that I have the wrong idea, I seldom let men buy me/pay for things, especially early on in the proceedings... I raise my eyebrows at those who do. It is always of the utmost importance to me that the person I am with knows that I am with them because I find them appealing, not their money.
Beware of people who are too eager to accept stuff from you! Do you really think it is weakness that yields to temptation? I tell you that there are terrible temptations which it requires strength, strength and courage to yield to. -Oscar Wilde | ||
| 12 May 09, 5:26 PM fluffy_welsh_angel UK(DN), 6 yrs |
Totally agree with this! Mew | ||
| 12 May 09, 5:50 PM Ima_Kant UK(PO), 3 yrs |
Thanks everybody for your comments and analysis. I would like to think that I would learn from this but I never do - not the first time... and possibly not the last! There's only one thing worse than not getting what you want... and that's getting it! | ||
| 12 May 09, 6:41 PM tony999 UK, 5 yrs |
Hello mate. I feel for ya. Consider this. Maybe she felt you were trying to buy her affection and saw this as a weakness. Women are so intuitive in this area and those with a high self esteem (hopefully the kind we want) won't stand for it. Or maybe she just wasn't ready for a relationship, although I think that when a woman feels she's met the right man, then the time is right. Cos life is what happens to us while we're busy making other plans. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Edited 12 May 09, 6:53 PM by tony999 | ||
| 12 May 09, 9:01 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Her interest, her time, her company and her attention.
Possibly... maybe she felt like you were trying to buy her. Do you always keep a tally-list of what you've "invested" in a relationship, in mainly monetary terms? "Truth is stranger than fiction." | ||
| 12 May 09, 10:57 PM Ima_Kant UK(PO), 3 yrs |
The money's irrelevant... it's the feeling of being duped that hurts. Interestingly enough she was going to buy dinner on the second date but came out with no money so I picked up the tab. She was a single parent so I was more than happy to pay - my previous girlfriend was a teacher and we split bills. She chased after me and asked me out telling me how much she fancied me and thought I was a nice person etc. She also sent suggestive texts but was curiously unresponsive when actually with me. I am convinced the whole short affair was a game which cost her nothing... and in my paranoid mind I can seeing her laughing her head off, as I type this, with her best friend about what a sucker I was. I COULD be wrong but my intuition has proved me right far more often than rational thought over the years. There's no real harm done apart from my ego so I'll live with it - just pissed me off when she texted so coldly today. Thanks again everyone. There's only one thing worse than not getting what you want... and that's getting it! | ||
| 12 May 09, 11:22 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs |
Maybe it's me that's cynical!  "Truth is stranger than fiction." |
