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| leithboi |
on Sun 10 May 09, 6:29 PM to leithboi's blog.
Tags: Edinburgh (EH)
Hiya all, I've been on this site a while. Loved admiring, but would love more, to get into the whole scene. I've had a few relationships, but haven't managed to convince any "Partners" to take an interest.... I know, on a few other sites which I am a member of, "Single Guys" tend to be more frowned upon. (sorry to any other single guys for tarring us all with the same brush, I hope you get my point....) Other than "interned dating" what advice is around for someone like me who would like to meet someone who is into the bdsm or fetish scene, possibly to date??? Also, Im hoping to come along to the next DV8, but am a bit shy and unsure what to wear!!! haha Thanks for your attention folks, look forward to your replies Si
| 10 May 09, 7:02 PM subdoug30 UK(GU), 7 yrs |
trouble is all these websites have at least a ratio of 1:4 in terms of female:male members,thats why they make so much money, esp promoting them to guilable men... sub doug |
| 10 May 09, 7:27 PM yoda_dog UK(HP), 6 yrs |
Ok, a few pointers (if you don't mind)... - Put your pic as your avatar, it makes you more noticeable. - Post on the boards more, it'll show more about your personality than any profile could. - Get yourself to a munch. Most of them have a 'meet and greet' system, and it's not as scary as going to a club.
Good luck
ETA: Remember to tick 'show replies' when writing a weblog "Bottom line: it's couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time." Edited 10 May 09, 7:28 PM by yoda_dog |
| 10 May 09, 7:42 PM xmamacassx 5 yrs |
Go to the clubs and munches. Meet people, be yourself. I met my partner at Violate. He was one of those single males. We have been together 2 years. But most of all, have fun. |
| 10 May 09, 9:26 PM feetintrouble_jemima UK(EN), 4 yrs |
Get out and about. Making an effort to go to munches etc. will earn you more respect than the many guys who hide behind their computers.  I did the internet dating thing for a while, perhaps got one date out of about twenty tries, but this was revolutionised when I went out, met people, and had fun. Most of my SM friends I have met out there at events, not on IC. I should be female: somebody got muddled with X and Y chromosomes. Edited 10 May 09, 9:30 PM by feetintrouble_jemima |
| 11 May 09, 1:01 AM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
There are advantages to being a single male. They tend to be the people single women are looking for. Science, the only religion that works even if you don't believe in it. |
| 11 May 09, 9:02 AM tiggerGlasgow UK(EH), 6 yrs |
I'm going to echo what others have said. Get to a munch. The Edinburgh munch is your local one, possibly even within walking distance for you (if you're in Leith as your name suggests, I am however not in Glasgow as my name suggests, merely from there). The Edinburgh munch is good preparation for DV8 as you will meet a lot of the same faces there and you don't have to worry about what to wear. You will also get advice on what to wear to a club at the munch if you ask politely. Oh! and if you get to the munch, we may not be able to promise that you'll find the love of your life there, but we can at least promise you hugs!!! Regards tiggs "A life without pain has no meaning" Athrur Schopenhauer |
| 11 May 09, 9:25 PM pod333 UK(DD), 6 yrs |
As folk have said, go to the munch as a start, most folk who attend are very friendly and helpful. DV8 is a good club to go to, and of course it is easier if you know a few folk already to help introduce yourself. Will you find what you want? Who knows, but at least it could be a good night out. |
