CONTROL!!! (25)

What is it about control? I like getting my own way. Why? I don't know, but I guess it's because I don't like other people having any control over me, and to be more equal leaves them with some control. Influence is plenty enough interference.

De

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i am typically an alpha male and very controlling in work and business arenas and also in many other areas of life - and i love it!!!!! i love taking decisions, leading and being accountable for the outcome - and with that comes the respect (hopefully) and team involvement of the teams i lead - and i love seeing them succeed.

so...... why do i want to find someone to take power over me in this sense........

i love to give and please - want the opposite release from my other persona - to please the person in charge - deliver/react/respond - feel the fear of not knowing which is couched in the trust of the person in charge - 'surely they know my capabilities and limits - surely they know where this is leading - and the outcome and consequeces.......... don't they? ......the lack of control is very exciting.

Also - just the sheer erotic, mental, physical and sensual pleasures of pain, sensual caress and the edge of humiliation / kinkiness / and a deep emotional connection?

......... well - i'll keep searching

paul

Edited 10 May 09, 10:18 AM by newsub2learn

For me this ranges across the board. *The psychological and the physical*.

I have had control over my own life constantly over the years and the feeling to just let it all go and Himself to take over makes me go weak at the knees, my heart pounds with the anticipation of whatever he chooses to be

We are still exploring each other and learning many new things within a loving D/s relationship.

The more we are learning the further I want to give Himself total control over me.

I know he has 100 percent control over his own behaviour and emotions and this alone gives me the confidence in him to take what is rightfully his and use it whatever way he chooses.

Then we head into the physical side, this is either by vocal control or restraint * I think the smileys can explain that one

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It is how my body and mind reacts to you.
And it is free for you to do what ever you wish with it.

Edited 10 May 09, 12:56 PM by slutling_angel

To me the whole point of control is about not needing to take any action to enforce it. Reaching a state of mental understanding that allows the Dominant to be able to communicate their desires and receive the response both know is acceptable.

That to me is ultimate control.

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Of course this isn't entirely selfless.The frisson that one gets at the outset of a session is incomparable as the sub is first mentally subjugated and then physically bound prior to being forced to comply with the Master's will.

I always de-brief later,by E mail,and it is clear that control is the overriding factor in the sub's enjoyment, this forms a virtuous circle with the Dom/me's own thrill at their power over the subject.It's weird,it's inexplicable,but it works.

All of that and the sense that all I need worry about is doing what I'm told to the best of my abilities. And I don't see it as 'giving up' control, but willingly offering it as I'm powerless to do anything else.

oooh gosh I dont know!!

in some ways I think it might just be an extension of a natural human instinct. To be in control of things around you (including other people) feels good because you get an instinct it might be better for your own survival... you are top dog so to speak.

or as an extension of that maybe its something that comes naturally like when animals have 'alphas'.

for me Id say its a combination of enjoying having control on a personal level (I dont know why this is..maybe I'm just wired that way... which actually sounds odd cos it implies a lack of control..but thats another issue!), and the trust given by the other person. maybe its an ego boost or something selfish like that. I find quite a strong 'defensive' instinct come up on behalf of people I care about in a d/s way so maybe thats something 'animal' as well. I definitely feel it in more of a 'masculine provider' way than a 'feminine nurturing' way so maybe its also got something to do with testosterone levels.

"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

Very new and are more reasons but cant really think them up at moment.

Were on an adventure hunting for treasure

Because it's such a challenge

Because it feels marvellous not to know what is going to happen or why

but mostly, because of the pleasure it gives Master and thus, the eternal paradigm because the happier he is, the happier I am, always

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