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| fat_slapper |
Ok, so i was defensive yesterday over the content of the replies on my weblog, with fair dues to be honest.
Let me break this down to those that have replied, ok: -
I do value myself, i love myself, i don't have any worries about the name i go by, i don't want to change my name - perhaps i should change it to something more 'appropriate' to suit the minority on here that take everything far too seriously, nah, fuck it, i'll stay as fat_slapper until i've lost an adequate amount of weight so that maybe the 'fat' can be dropped, but that decision is by mutual discussion, as is everything we do.
I apologise that some got 'angry' at reading my weblog, lighten up for christs sake, i get plenty of positive comments and encouragement, like in my weight loss, which is going well, from my Dom.
Right, lets clear something up shall we? I need the harsh treatment, i've had the pussy footing around before, tiptoing around trying to get the BDSM that gives satisfaction to me. It isn't all about the Dom, funnily enough, although some think that. The Dom that i'm with knows exactly how to treat me, we've discussed this and we have 'down' time afterwards to discuss how things are going, am i getting what i want from the relationship, just as i ask Him if He's getting satisfaction from me in my submission to Him. The plain and blunt answer is YES, we are both getting what we want from this.
It may not be what everyone perceives as being the 'right' way to carry on, but it doesn't say anywhere what is right and what is wrong. Just as i wouldn't judge you for your kink or choices, why do people feel its right to judge me or my Dom.
As for the photo getting into the wrong hands it was within my own family and an adult member, thats all. My vanilla life is of no concern to anyone here, and is of no relevance to my situation with the relationship with my Dom. He is not an abusive lout, everything we do is consensual - yes, hard to believe isn't it.
Finally as for it ending in tears, nah, it won't, you people just don't get it, i have pride, i have self worth, and all that crap that so many preach on here is important. I just have needs, extreme needs admittedly and certainly not for the faint hearted amongst you.
I am not sexually abused, nor have i ever been, i'm not battered and bruised, i'm not quivering in my shoes, nor am i a nervous wreck, i'm just me, a larger than life female with larger than life needs.
I'm happy and content, you have no worries, please don't be concerned over me, i'm humbled that so many of you were worried and took the time to reply to my weblog, but please do get on with your own lives, however, constructive critisism is nearly always welcomed.
I realise that i will receive positive and negative comments on my weblogs, just as everyone will, i'll take it all in my stride from now on and hope you will too.
regards from a happy
fat_slapper x
| 23 Apr 09, 4:12 PM pixie15_CJ_s UK(EX), 7 yrs  |
well done!!! if still a bit defensive ...lol i dont think anyone would of said half the things if you had made it clear that you were into humiliation ... you never did we as other subs did read your blogs with a heavy heart... we have seen abusive men in our lives ... and yes we were wrong to assume this was another ... i agree its your kink and you can do as you wish your both consenting adults .. but the people who could see you naked in your car taking pictures ..the children who may see you doing it are not consenting... this is an issue to a lot of people ... yes me included ... i wouldnt want a young impressionable child seeing some of the things you like...im a mother ... i would be up in arms if my child told me they had seen this ....
i hope you enjoy your kink ... be safe ... be happy ... pixie{CJ} chaos mayhem and desaster......my work here is done | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 4:15 PM Butterscotch UK(RM), 3 yrs |
I think everyone assumed becuase it wasn't specific, wrongly as it turned out, that the photo had fallen into one of your childrens hands, hence the comments.
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| 23 Apr 09, 4:15 PM fat_slapper UK, 3 yrs |
To be honest i don't think i would have ever taken photos of myself in my car or in front of my house, i would prefer to tolerate the punishment rather than risk being caught by anyone. I'm not into involving anyone else in my lifestyle choices, especially not anyone underage or impressionable - it's just such a no go area. I have NEVER taken nude photos outside of myself, only one inside my bedroom, which is now deleted and never found its way into wrong hands (apart from the one adult who was far too nosey for their own good when checking out my phone) - just so everyone is clear on that. Thanks for your comments though, sorry if you think i'm still defensive, it's just the way i am, ok. cheers Edited to add a the bit about nosey adults! Edited 23 Apr 09, 4:21 PM by fat_slapper | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 4:17 PM fat_slapper UK, 3 yrs |
Actually i never said whether i had children or not. But valid point made.
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| 23 Apr 09, 4:26 PM TeddyXxBearies UK(CR), 4 yrs |
You don't have to justify yourself to ANYONE on here !
If people don't 'get' you, or your relationship with your Dom', then screw them ! they have No Right to pass judgement !
J. Better To Be Hated For What You Are- | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 4:36 PM Lee_Van_Spunkenfrick 3 yrs |
if you enable replies you invite the devil in ... people judge other people .. it's just the way of things ... we make decisions and judgements every day based on very little information ... why should a weblog be any different ! all for one and fuck the rest | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 5:04 PM prettyname UK(NW), 11 yrs |
I guess because it's a weblog and not put on an actual discussion board. Weblogs are weblogs, more personal thoughts and experiences you share with those you think might understand where you're coming from (or at least, hope they're the ones you'll attract), bit different from discussion boards where people generally are looking for advice, thoughts and discussion. ~“Nothing is ever the same as they said it was. It's what I've never seen before that I recognise.” Diane Arbus~ Edited 23 Apr 09, 5:05 PM by prettyname | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 5:07 PM Tooddles UK(BS), 7 yrs |
Amen to that... i for one am getting fed up with people passing comments about things they know nothing about... Thinking they know better/or are better.. This whole site really is top of the pops for people who do that... xx
i'm dreaming of a pink Christmasssssssssssssssss | ||
| 23 Apr 09, 5:33 PM fat_slapper UK, 3 yrs |
You'd noticed too? I'm glad i'm not the only one who had noticed this, as i've said before, the whole of IC has changed recently, especially where weblogs are concerned.
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| 23 Apr 09, 5:40 PM fat_slapper UK, 3 yrs |
I would never put any of my personal thoughts on the discussion boards, simply because i'm not looking for advice, but you're right prettyname, a weblog is a place where people (should) feel comfortable putting their thoughts and experiences down with the hope of someone understanding what they are experiencing, even sharing their own experiences with that person too. Alas, people do judge and judge very quickly before knowing the whole facts, which given that this is a BDSM website, shouldn't some weblogs be just that, about BDSM stuff? I could write all day long about going shopping or buying a new pair of shoes or whatever, but why put that on here? It's a place where people within the lifestyle should be comfortable to share their experiences with like minded folk, with the hope of a bit of understanding. but....well...it isn't always the case is it?
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