22 Apr 09, 6:59 AM
JennyM
UK, 4 yrs |
Grumpytop wrote:
JennyM wrote:
stormywaters wrote:
JennyM wrote:
Losing grasp of reality?
An oxymoronic blend of 21st century equality and a reverse 1950s household led by a female head who has the final word, but also shares the responsibility to behave in a loving way, one that takes into account the needs and desires of both. It isn't fair, but it is considerate, thoughtful and sensitive. Both work towards their own and each others' fulfilment as much as possible in terms of family, friends, working life, health, cultural, intellectual and spiritual nurturing, stimulating debate, mutual interests, everything good about good relationships of any kind – but always present somewhere is the dynamic of loving authority and willing submission. Discipline, S/m, moments found for a wanted kind of sometimes-extreme cruelty or demanded floor-bellied subservience, restraint, feminisation, sensory deprivation, service - domestic and sexual, caging, fetters, a dog-house…
Small but powerful symbols of the household quietly claiming their space: A cane hanging on the back of the door, a chain locked onto and tucked under the foot of the bed.
A change of tone which brings instant compliance. Lip-biting moments of frustration, a sometimes-supressed will leading to acceptance of the most difficult and demanding challenges.
Good, honest two-way communication that doesn't fade with time.
Enduring fun.
To your mind, and in your experience, is this a romantic ideal, a wanky-woman fantasy or something that could be possible?
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Oh I do hope it's possible, you make it sound so good because you are so clear and honest about what you want. With that clarity, self awareness and honesty, if there is any justice in this world it bloody well ought to be possible.
Although you must allow for the fact that, like every life, into every relationship, a little rain must fall.
(Love the cane hanging up behind the kitchen door.)
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I didn't specify which door, but now you mention it... kitchen seems most appropriate!
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Yes, definitely the kitchen door. A great talking point when anyone pops in for a coffee 
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And given that I'm having a great deal of work done on my house right now, it might encourage visiting plumbers/electricians/joiners etc to do a good job and clear up well afterwards.  |
22 Apr 09, 9:16 AM
Loving_Malevolence
3 yrs |
JennyM wrote:
To your mind, and in your experience, is this a romantic ideal, a wanky-woman fantasy or something that could be possible? |
Wonderful post.
I have to believe what you describe is possible. After all, if we don't have hope what do we have?
~ Egotism is nature's compensation for mediocrity. ~
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23 Apr 09, 12:17 AM
BigOldHector
UK(DE), 10 yrs
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Its an ideal that only needs two people to see it the same way to make it reality. And what a perfect ideal to build a life around.
Possible? I don't see why not, and I certainly hope it is for me too. I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now
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23 Apr 09, 8:40 AM
MarkMyWord
5 yrs
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JennyM wrote:
Losing grasp of reality?
An oxymoronic blend of 21st century equality and a reverse 1950s household led by a female head who has the final word, but also shares the responsibility to behave in a loving way, one that takes into account the needs and desires of both. It isn't fair, but it is considerate, thoughtful and sensitive. Both work towards their own and each others' fulfilment as much as possible in terms of family, friends, working life, health, cultural, intellectual and spiritual nurturing, stimulating debate, mutual interests, everything good about good relationships of any kind – but always present somewhere is the dynamic of loving authority and willing submission. Discipline, S/m, moments found for a wanted kind of sometimes-extreme cruelty or demanded floor-bellied subservience, restraint, feminisation, sensory deprivation, service - domestic and sexual, caging, fetters, a dog-house…
Small but powerful symbols of the household quietly claiming their space: A cane hanging on the back of the door, a chain locked onto and tucked under the foot of the bed.
A change of tone which brings instant compliance. Lip-biting moments of frustration, a sometimes-supressed will leading to acceptance of the most difficult and demanding challenges.
Good, honest two-way communication that doesn't fade with time.
Enduring fun.
To your mind, and in your experience, is this a romantic ideal, a wanky-woman fantasy or something that could be possible?
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Beautifully put. I know you mean it too...
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23 Apr 09, 12:20 PM
Ms_Valentine
UK, 9 yrs
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JennyM wrote:
Losing grasp of reality?
An oxymoronic blend of 21st century equality and a reverse 1950s household led by a female head who has the final word, but also shares the responsibility to behave in a loving way, one that takes into account the needs and desires of both. It isn't fair, but it is considerate, thoughtful and sensitive. Both work towards their own and each others' fulfilment as much as possible in terms of family, friends, working life, health, cultural, intellectual and spiritual nurturing, stimulating debate, mutual interests, everything good about good relationships of any kind – but always present somewhere is the dynamic of loving authority and willing submission. Discipline, S/m, moments found for a wanted kind of sometimes-extreme cruelty or demanded floor-bellied subservience, restraint, feminisation, sensory deprivation, service - domestic and sexual, caging, fetters, a dog-house…
Small but powerful symbols of the household quietly claiming their space: A cane hanging on the back of the door, a chain locked onto and tucked under the foot of the bed.
A change of tone which brings instant compliance. Lip-biting moments of frustration, a sometimes-supressed will leading to acceptance of the most difficult and demanding challenges.
Good, honest two-way communication that doesn't fade with time.
Enduring fun.
To your mind, and in your experience, is this a romantic ideal, a wanky-woman fantasy or something that could be possible?
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Well, I know this is possible as it is exactly the life I lead and I love every minute of it.
It is also a romantic ideal and a fantasy which makes me wet, but it is also absolutely possible for it to be real life. 24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them.
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23 Apr 09, 1:57 PM
Clyde1
UK(NW), 5 yrs
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i hope its possible... its certainly a shared desire...
clyde |
23 Apr 09, 8:30 PM
femsup
UK(NW), 5 yrs
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First the idea then the execution of it.Sounds just heavenly to me.
People might be interested in a little site calle "She Makes The Rules". Lots of romantic and practical info for Female -Led relationships. |
26 Apr 09, 12:27 AM
pinkylucy
UK(M), 9 yrs
  
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JennyM wrote:
Losing grasp of reality?
An oxymoronic blend of 21st century equality and a reverse 1950s household led by a female head who has the final word, but also shares the responsibility to behave in a loving way, one that takes into account the needs and desires of both. It isn't fair, but it is considerate, thoughtful and sensitive. Both work towards their own and each others' fulfilment as much as possible in terms of family, friends, working life, health, cultural, intellectual and spiritual nurturing, stimulating debate, mutual interests, everything good about good relationships of any kind – but always present somewhere is the dynamic of loving authority and willing submission. Discipline, S/m, moments found for a wanted kind of sometimes-extreme cruelty or demanded floor-bellied subservience, restraint, feminisation, sensory deprivation, service - domestic and sexual, caging, fetters, a dog-house…
Small but powerful symbols of the household quietly claiming their space: A cane hanging on the back of the door, a chain locked onto and tucked under the foot of the bed.
A change of tone which brings instant compliance. Lip-biting moments of frustration, a sometimes-supressed will leading to acceptance of the most difficult and demanding challenges.
Good, honest two-way communication that doesn't fade with time.
Enduring fun.
To your mind, and in your experience, is this a romantic ideal, a wanky-woman fantasy or something that could be possible?
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I don't think it sounds like losing touch with reality at all. In fact it reminded me of all the good bits of my relationship with my Mistress.
I know she is in control, she is always in control but I also know that she will care for me and nurture me and enable me to grow as a person as the better I can be, the better I can be for her. For example, she helps me to be the best parent I can be with thoughtful rules which promote mindfulness. She finds ways for me to be useful in areas she values which save her time and work and also encourage me to use my skills.
Yes, there is discipline which I am ever aware of. Infractions will be punished. When we have the time and my Mistress has the inclination she uses me as she chooses for our mutual pleasure, or simply for her own pleasure, both of which I value highly.
Because we have children the overt symbols are hidden away, but they are not far and I know that once the kids are asleep the cane is almost always within reaching distance and I can be shackled in moments should she choose to do so.
What feels more important to me is the way we interact once alone (or in adult only company). It feels natural and casual now to ask whether my Mistress would like me to remove my clothes. To automatically sit on my blanket on the floor and ask before sitting up on the bed. To make coffee as soon as I am able and hopefully before I have to be told!
Our communication is ongoing (in fact I think my Mistress would prefer I communicate a little less sometimes!! )
As for enduring fun - I am repeatedly told that we would have a lot more time for fun of I could only stay out of trouble! I know it's true.
Thank you for this post, it's reminded me of many of the things that feel good and wonderful about my life and my relationship. "Don't Dream It - Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973
Don't allow the images you love to become just a dream - keep opposing the porn bill!
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