TPE? Really? (6)

I had a part time LOL live in slave once and I honestly couldn't handle the effort involved in keeping them busy.

Ok so I managed to find enough tasks to fill their days as well as mine, but to tell you the truth, it wasn't erotic in the slightest. Convenient in many ways, handy - yes - it was like having a spare arm and someone to wait in post office queues whilst I got other stuff done. But then I'm a busy girl. I suppose I wanted invisible support in the most selfish of ways - here's a list of tasks - do it. I don't want to make the time to talk to you, interact with you. I just want my stuff done, done well, now piss off and don't make any demands of me.

I get exhausted simply reading about Dom/mes who have the time and the energy to control their sub's emails, read their journals, daily routine, performance, wanking schedule, diet etc. and then sex??? Jeebus and Pinky, they must have extra brain capacity that I can't access and extra hours in the day.

How do you do it? Taking someone's minutae everyday needs and requirements along with your own?

Please check your irony levels before attempting to respond to the majority of my posts.

Who says that is what TPE has to be like?

I have a TPE relationship with my sub and we set up rules when we started out, added a few and apart from that the whole relationship just ticks along without a great deal of exhausting effort on either part.

I don't control his e-mails, his diet ( beyond requiring that he doesn't eat meat or drink too much alcohol), have a journal system, or anything that requires big time effort on my part.

I have a sub who agreed when we got together to do whatever I wanted to the best of his ability, to obey me, and devote his life to my comfort and happiness. That is just how it is.

If he breaks any of the rules or misbehaves he gets punished but that is rare. He knows what he must or must not do and for him, being mine, means he keeps to the rules. I am not required to constantly be checking over him like a child.

TPE does not have to mean micromanagement. Thank Goodness!!!

24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them.

In practice, this means I am never going to get the domestic menial many male subs seem to wish to be (as indicated by the OP - and good for them ).

If I want someone who takes pains to look gorgeous at the drop of a hat, then she needs the time to paint her nails or shave her fanny - which means I end up doing the washing up (not all the time I hasten to add).

So - for me, and mine, power exchange is not about who does what, it is all about her realisation that her sole function is to make me happy - and that she should not waste a second worrying about her happiness: for that is MY business.

Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet.

Edited 20 Apr 09, 12:31 PM by Belasarius

But horses for courses. I delight in control first and foremost. Not everyone is a control freak.

Your Captain Jack

Or maybe I don't express myself very well, but not about micro-management.

If your sub has an intellect - use it! They should be making your life easier, not harder.

"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/375625/The-On...

Nothing to do with controlling relationships, but vital for any manager.