cuckolding - the Domme perspective... (52)

If anyone is interested, let me know lol!!!

There are risks emotionally, physically etc as previously mentioned, but I tend to use the humiliation factor to enhance play. The thought that Mistress has to go out and find a 'real man' to satisfy her is such a turn on for my sub. It almost makes them try harder to please me. It sometimes ends up with being told their pathetic attempt to please is inadequate and are sent for my double ended strap on!!

Also texting a sub telling him I've been 'busy' and require bathing, cleaning and pampering puts wheels in motion for play.

For me, at present the thought and suggestion is powerful enough to get the desired effect. I would like to try it for real in the future if all the finer details can be agreed to so your suggestions about ground rules and limits are great help.

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Laylah wrote: I'm a Female Supremacist Domme, and I cuckold my slave. I keep him in permanent chastity, and the only sex he gets is my strap-on, when I choose to do it. I look for other slaves to add to my stable, and no doubt I'll cuckold them too. I believe there is a cuckold in every submissive, and a submissive in every man. It hasn't affected our relationship at all, if anything it's made it stronger. We talk about it in great detail both before and after, and I fuck him with my strap-on before I go. In this way, my sex becomes his sex, i.e. he doesn't get fucked unless I do, so eventually he looks forward to my cuckolding him as its the only way he's going to get sex too. I like to encourage him by telling him, when I'm fucking him, what a good boy he is and how much I love and appreciate him, and about my lover and what I'm going to do with him, which really helps to keep him very submissive and understanding of my needs/rights. He also helps me get ready for my dates. He's come to know his place, and understand that it's a woman's right to have as many lovers as she wants, and now he accepts that, he fully supports me, and loves me even more for it. My other slaves are not just for sex, for me it is emotional as well as physical. For us, it works, but that's because we're strong anyway. It may not work for everyone, and I believe the reason it may not work is when one or both cling to society's notions of marriage/monogamy.

Having lovers is natural for a woman anyway: we're biologically designed to have sex with more than one man, so it's all perfectly natural. It's only society's rules that dictate the one man/one woman scenario.

> Laylah, your cuckold is so very lucky to serve a Goddess like you. Of course it's right that you keep him chaste and take lovers as often as you want. Your supremacy is beautiful. I envy your slave and I am in awe of you.

Not not intended as an insult but an observation- if there are sincere bulls out there, get in touch.

My husband and I both switch. This may mess with the D/s dynamic other people are asking about but I still think we count

The other thing is, probably because we are both switches, we take almost all play as a scene, a persona, and then take it off at the end and are just ourselves. There is no 24/7 power exchange roles, just he ebb and flow of who's on top at any given moment.

Why do I want to cuckold him? This is something I struggle with defining but I'll try.

I do NOT want to feminise my hubby. Girly men, weak men, beaten men do nothing for me whatsoever. The thought of him in lingerie is, for me, a total turn off. I realise other people are different and that's fine, I'm just defining us.

How does one demean an alpha male without removing the masculinity? By removing the alpha. Making him play second, either to myself or to another man whom he would not normally play second to.

I choose a lover. Some one I am attracted to. This may be for nilla or kinky sex, but it would be sex.

I do NOT abandon my Domme persona. At all times, I am still in control of the situation, choosing the other man over my partner. I do not sub to the stranger, we are either two doms revelling in eachothers' strength or we are having vanilla sex. But my partner, ideally, is in the same room, watching it all happen.

In my mind I imagine him having excruciating emotional pain that I choose someone else. This is the sort of pain that would otherwise kill a relationship, this slow agony, but he worships me too much to leave, no matter how I hurt him. Exquisite.

In reality, my partner enjoys watching me with other men. It turns him on because he knows they mean nothing to me and he can enjoy it as live porn.

He has agreed to pretend to object, for my satisfaction.

Maybe its all just an elaborate roleplay, I don't care. Either way the bull gets laid, which I imagine is what he's after the whole time.

Why can I not find one then?

"The chaperon is there to make sure no one else has any fun, but nobody chaperons the chaperon. That's why I'm so right for this job." -Jane Russell as Dorothy Shaw, "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes"

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thank you all so very much

The main issue, I feel however, is the very real possibility of the likelihood of either a close loving bond being made between the cuckoldress and her bull, or her resentment of herself for letting herself get involved with another man.

lol And, man-o-man, will that cause a shitstorm of a problem for the relationship. Something I think a lot of the fantasists on this thread have no real experience with.

"I would remind you that extremism in the defense of liberty is no vice! And let me remind you also that moderation in the pursuit of justice is no virtue!" ~ Barry Goldwater.

Well yes, it can cause a shitstorm, but it doesn't necessarily. Some people are capable of polyamorous connections without allowing jealousy and insecurity to gain a foothold and destroy the primary relationship.

If handled carefully, and the focus remains entirely on the cuck (and I would recommend not seeing each bull more than a handful of times if you're not poly) and the emotional sadism and masochism, the bull remains almost like a prop (and before anyone tells me it's not nice to treat a man like a prop, many actually like it ) with no real significance other than as an implement for causing pain, rather like a cane or flogger is used by a sadist of the physical kind.

Yes it's complicated. Yes it can get messy. But it can make for the most intimate and close relationships. And I'm not speaking as a fantasist. I recognise that there can be problems with it, and there has been, at times, in my relationships, but when it works as it should, there's no greater hit.