18 Apr 09, 2:38 PM
littlemissanna
UK(NW), 5 yrs
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Miss_OL wrote:
littlemissanna wrote:
Miss_OL wrote:
The problem I have with cuckolding (as a Domme) is the idea that it is mainly portrayed as the Domme taking other 'real' (i.e Dominant) men as lovers, whilst keeping her sub(s) in chastity.
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I dont think that the concept of cuckolding a sub with a more dominant man is meant to centre around the woman submitting to a 'real' man because he is dominant and she is assuming her 'rightful' place.
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neither do I.
Which is why I said "the idea that it is mainly portrayed as ..."
I didn't say it was how I felt about it. Nor, was it the way I practised it.
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I know! I just meant to agree with your point, implying it shouldnt be done in the generally portrayed manner to be of real interest to a dominant woman. Either with vanilla sex or involving another submissive, to make it truly of interest to me. |
18 Apr 09, 3:35 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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I have an interest in cuckolding (or humiliation). I don't think I could do it with a SO - I think it would hurt their feelings too much and I also don't want a SO who can't pleasure me properly - but... I could do it with play-partners.
It's something I would certainly like to do. "Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."
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18 Apr 09, 3:47 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
I have an interest in cuckolding (or humiliation). I don't think I could do it with a SO - I think it would hurt their feelings too much and I also don't want a SO who can't pleasure me properly - but... I could do it with play-partners.
It's something I would certainly like to do.
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I too have an interest and I believe I could do it with a SO. I even tried to arrange with a partner after a drunken disclosure but when it came closer to the time she had second thoughts. Well I was only trying to please her. Maybe in the future. I have already had offers from cheeky chaps if and when I am in another LTR.
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Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
Now I know I'm being used but that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?
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18 Apr 09, 4:02 PM
myface_yourseat
UK(WF), 11 yrs
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As a submissive i accept that it is the right of my Mistress to keep me in chastity and it is for Her to decide if i am ever allowed to masturbate or have penetrative sex. I also view, therefore, that it is Her right to enjoy sex with others be they male and /or female and to keep me as Her cuckold if that is what She desires.
In terms of maintaining a long term Mistress / slave relationship involving cuckolding, the key for me would be for my Mistress to keep me assured that She values my submission and service and that, providing that i continue to serve, worship and obey Her to Her total satisfaction, my position as Her long term slave would be secure. |
18 Apr 09, 5:29 PM
lil_Pup
NL, 5 yrs
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mr_Hate wrote:
Hell, you could even do this for something like playing StreetFighter IV -- if your partner enjoys playing it, then never let them play it. Instead just play it with other people, with the cuckold just able to hear you play it in another room. It's the same idea really, just different triggers.
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OMG I have new fantasy !!!!!!! I'm thinking more GTA though. .....Mind now wandering to a line of video game chastity devices How can we grow old when we are not trying *The Delays
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18 Apr 09, 9:32 PM
LovingHusband
3 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
I have an interest in cuckolding (or humiliation). I don't think I could do it with a SO [...] I [...] don't want a SO who can't pleasure me properly.
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Maybe I'm being obtuse, but I am not clear why cuckolding suggests an SO who can't pleasure you properly? LovingHusband
"Anyone who makes someone else doubt the foundations of his morals has not lived in vain." Marguerite Duras.
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18 Apr 09, 10:25 PM
mr_Hate
4 yrs
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LovingHusband wrote:
chartreuse wrote:
I have an interest in cuckolding (or humiliation). I don't think I could do it with a SO [...] I [...] don't want a SO who can't pleasure me properly.
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Maybe I'm being obtuse, but I am not clear why cuckolding suggests an SO who can't pleasure you properly?
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Well, that's part of the point of cuckolding in the original sense; that the cuckolded partner is deemed to not be able to (or worthy of) pleasure their (almost always female) partner properly, and so she will go and get a 'real man' -- ie, one who can pleasure her properly.
The BDSM version has evolved from this, so the domme could decide their cuckolded partner just isn't allowed to pleasure them - and thus plays with this power control instead, so cuckolding doesn't need to be about the humilation of the cuckolded partner's sexual ability anymore. However, you could argue this type of play is more just chastity play mixed with an open sexual relationship, as for some people the power of cuckolding is based on the sexual humiliation of the cuckold. For some people cuckolding is purely about the cream pies, fluffing or being forced to watch/hear for instance.
But terminology is a devil in disguise; as long as other people know what you're talking about, then it really doesn't matter. |
19 Apr 09, 10:51 AM
littlemissanna
UK(NW), 5 yrs
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chartreuse wrote:
I have an interest in cuckolding (or humiliation). I don't think I could do it with a SO - I think it would hurt their feelings too much and I also don't want a SO who can't pleasure me properly - but... I could do it with play-partners.
It's something I would certainly like to do.
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I think mr_Hate's response covered most of the essentials of this, however, I would like to add that I think its not so much the actual inability for a SO to pleasure you, but more the humiliation of implying that they are so inadequate that they cant. Its the power play involved in emasculating a submissive, taking away their potential dominance as a man, removing that last semblance of male pride, that I believe is part of the appeal of cuckolding. Otherwise, I think you just end up with an open relationship where one party is allowed other partners, whilst the other isnt.
As far as I am concerned, the underlying point of cuckolding is to highlight the submission and perhaps 'inferiority' of one half of the couple, whilst focusing on the fulfilment of the dominants desires and their ultimate right to lead the course of the relationship, taking lovers should they wish. |
19 Apr 09, 11:21 AM
HarmCandy
UK, 3 yrs
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Must... resist... misogynistic curses. - Aargh!
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Laylah wrote:
I'm a Female Supremacist Domme, and I cuckold my slave. I keep him in permanent chastity, and the only sex he gets is my strap-on, when I choose to do it. I look for other slaves to add to my stable, and no doubt I'll cuckold them too. I believe there is a cuckold in every submissive, and a submissive in every man.
It hasn't affected our relationship at all, if anything it's made it stronger. We talk about it in great detail both before and after, and I fuck him with my strap-on before I go. In this way, my sex becomes his sex, i.e. he doesn't get fucked unless I do, so eventually he looks forward to my cuckolding him as its the only way he's going to get sex too. I like to encourage him by telling him, when I'm fucking him, what a good boy he is and how much I love and appreciate him, and about my lover and what I'm going to do with him, which really helps to keep him very submissive and understanding of my needs/rights. He also helps me get ready for my dates.
He's come to know his place, and understand that it's a woman's right to have as many lovers as she wants, and now he accepts that, he fully supports me, and loves me even more for it.
My other slaves are not just for sex, for me it is emotional as well as physical. For us, it works, but that's because we're strong anyway. It may not work for everyone, and I believe the reason it may not work is when one or both cling to society's notions of marriage/monogamy.
Having lovers is natural for a woman anyway: we're biologically designed to have sex with more than one man, so it's all perfectly natural. It's only society's rules that dictate the one man/one woman scenario.
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'I only wish my news were happier.
A gloomy start to our first meeting:
your husband's dead and sends you greeting.
Perhaps it might sound better if I said:
Your husband sends you greeting, and he's dead.'
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20 Apr 09, 7:06 AM
littlemissanna
UK(NW), 5 yrs
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bloody men! pain the arse if you ask me  - a sub with misogynistic tendencies...bit of an oxymoron?
HarmCandy wrote:
Must... resist... misogynistic curses. - Aargh!
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Laylah wrote:
I'm a Female Supremacist Domme, and I cuckold my slave. I keep him in permanent chastity, and the only sex he gets is my strap-on, when I choose to do it. I look for other slaves to add to my stable, and no doubt I'll cuckold them too. I believe there is a cuckold in every submissive, and a submissive in every man.
It hasn't affected our relationship at all, if anything it's made it stronger. We talk about it in great detail both before and after, and I fuck him with my strap-on before I go. In this way, my sex becomes his sex, i.e. he doesn't get fucked unless I do, so eventually he looks forward to my cuckolding him as its the only way he's going to get sex too. I like to encourage him by telling him, when I'm fucking him, what a good boy he is and how much I love and appreciate him, and about my lover and what I'm going to do with him, which really helps to keep him very submissive and understanding of my needs/rights. He also helps me get ready for my dates.
He's come to know his place, and understand that it's a woman's right to have as many lovers as she wants, and now he accepts that, he fully supports me, and loves me even more for it.
My other slaves are not just for sex, for me it is emotional as well as physical. For us, it works, but that's because we're strong anyway. It may not work for everyone, and I believe the reason it may not work is when one or both cling to society's notions of marriage/monogamy.
Having lovers is natural for a woman anyway: we're biologically designed to have sex with more than one man, so it's all perfectly natural. It's only society's rules that dictate the one man/one woman scenario.
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