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on Sat 11 Apr 09, 11:40 AM to Adverse_Camber's blog.
i have become weary of censoring myself when reading the utter drivel posted by some regarding their own hang ups on age gap relationships.
My relationship experience has been completely Equal Opportunities and i have sampled a wide range of people, in detail, so am able to authoritavely state that, for me, older men win hands down.
Why, you may sob into your bigoted warm milk? Well, for a start, the uber ego that men seem utterly driven by pre 50 has dissipated into a quiet confidence that is extremely attractive. i have observed that this ego begins around 17, escalates and peaks in the 30's and begins to slowly wane after 42.
This ego is mostly accompanied by arrogance and insecurity, two character traits which make any sensible interchange of conversation exceptionally challenging.
And as for physically, well it is not at all guaranteed by age that one will find a gorgeous body concealed beneath the outer garb...and if size really does matter...well age don't affect that 
There was a comment by some mystery coward that two younger women cannot be satisfied by one older man...well surprise, surprise mate, satisfaction, for me, HAS to be on a mental, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical level. There are very, very few people out there who can meet, or exceed, me on all those levels. However, i am ecstatic to share that i have now, after decades of searching, found a man, a Master, who can.
So please, if you are jealous, bigoted, have a problem with poly...whatever it may be...try to be mature enough to not make personal attacks. It ain't big, it ain't clever, it ain't funny...and it is extremely unattractive.
i too once made assumptions about people based on their outer shells...i cannot emphasise enough how brilliant and exciting the world can be if you just open yourself to experiences.
And as a big P.S. yes i have made some deliberate sweeping generalisations for effect...and i have written this all on my ownsome with no prompting...
Be well, l_c
| 11 Apr 09, 11:50 AM MrLion UK(WF), 6 yrs |
Thank you, thats very well written.
Some people are exactly as you say and should get on with their own lives. | |
| 11 Apr 09, 11:50 AM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I tend to agree with you to be honest, though I think its equally bigoted to disregard someone for their youth. My current partner is 16 years older than me and we get on better than I have with anyone my age, but that I think is more to do with the fact that we have chemistry than due to his age. Its important to not get bogged down with the little things, judging someone by their statistics means you may miss out on a lot. "Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things and a good thing never dies" | |
| 11 Apr 09, 12:21 PM JudyInDsGuise UK(E), 8 yrs |
That's all you have to worry about, surely? We've all got our own preferences, and someone having a preference that doesn't match yours does not mean that they're putting you (or your relationship) down.
I think you have to be wary of getting too hung up on this - I'm thinking of a conversation last week that you joined midpoint, where you *assumed* that there was an argument regarding the rights and wrongs of age gaps. Actually, we'd just been discussing our preference as to which way the age gap existed Rant away about bigots if you want, but don't assume that everyone who doesn't want an older partner is one (or that people who are having a pop at Thunder are genuinely having a pop at your relationship). judy
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| 11 Apr 09, 12:44 PM Adverse_Camber UK, 3 yrs |
Thanks judy, was more a generalist rant,with a specific point. i tend not to run on assumptions, and do try not to get "hung up"! My main point is that we should all be able to see who we want without being ridiculed for it... However, as with *most* people i think, any "pop" at either of my people will be taken personally by me and dealt with as such...that is how my personal interpretation of loyalty works! x Have you ever looked fear in the face and said i just don't care? It's only half past the point of no return...the Thunder before the lightning, the breath before the phrase (Pink) | |
| 11 Apr 09, 12:46 PM x_Thunder_x UK(E), 9 yrs      |
yep that'd my wildcat. She may be leashed by me but has a mind of her own - and is perfectly capable of snarling, biting and scratching too xxx
^Thunder^ | |
| 11 Apr 09, 1:25 PM Prunesquallor UK(RG), 6 yrs |
How could I fail to agree?  | |
| 11 Apr 09, 1:32 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Whilst you've made some very worthy observations, I don't think that a lot of people's preferences stem from the age of a person.... if we find their character, personality, appearance and ability to communicate with us to be attractive, there is every chance that their age will be coincidental, will be disregarded and we'll enjoy their company. It doesn't matter what age a person is, if you don't have a good mix of the above with a person, you won't want to get intimate with them. C x "Truth is stranger than fiction." | |
| 11 Apr 09, 1:36 PM Adverse_Camber UK, 3 yrs |
"And as a big P.S. yes i have made some deliberate sweeping generalisations for effect..." Yes i agree xx
Have you ever looked fear in the face and said i just don't care? It's only half past the point of no return...the Thunder before the lightning, the breath before the phrase (Pink) | |
| 11 Apr 09, 1:38 PM Story_of_Ow UK(PO), 3 yrs |
I didn't exactly get the impression you preferred older men when I turned up at your place with my selection of canes and whips. In fact I think it was bloody mean of you to hitch up my wheelchair to the tow bar of that long distance lorry. Took me ages to get back to the home. As for size... Well, I have never had a woman complain. Laugh uncontrollably... yes But, never complain! There's only one thing worse than not getting what you want... and that's getting it! | |
| 11 Apr 09, 1:42 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Problem is those sweeping generalisations can come off as bigoted too, which was just what you didnt want to do
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things and a good thing never dies" |
