All out of sorts (15)

Argue not with dragons, for thou art crunchy and go well with brie...

K xx

flying high is fun ( suspention that is hee hee )

I try to do the normal things at the moment where I can, as in cooking dinner, making drinks, pampering when I get the chance, but I miss the 'scene's so very much, and its hard when we put time to have some us time that we are both simply pooped and exhausted!

We are endeavoring to get little one into an evening routine, and it's slowly falling in to place. Energy is returning to us both, along with time for each other, but little one doesn't go to bed until 8pm, and we leave his room around 8.45pm, so generally doesn't leave us much time in an evening.

All I do know though is that our love for each other is so very strong that this hard time won't tear us apart, and will bring us together.

So once again, thank you all for your support. I feel so very lucky to have such special and dear friends. I look forward to seeing you all so very soon for my hugs, as I'm missing you and them very much!!

Art xxx

)O( Artemis )O(
There is more to this person than just the submissive. Take time to explore her, and you will learn there is so much that can be taken, but also freely given.

Just wanted to offer my sympathies (although you have already had lots of good advice from people here) and say hang on in there.

You already say that you love each other very much and will work through this, which is great (even though I know it doesn't make anything easier).

Having breaks together e.g. getting someone else to look after the nipper for a while is a good idea, definitely good but ultimately you do want a 'solution' that you can integrate into your life rather than 'time out' from 'day to day life' as the latter is only viable occasionally, whereas in the meantime life goes on.

Something that you can do for your partner on a day to day basis is nice, but needs to be something that doesn't take up too much of your time, for example how about he gets to decide what you wear every day? or even just something small like what jewellery you put on or how you have your hair? That way you can feel his control but it doesn't have to eat into the practicalities of managing your life.

It is also as well to remember that 'service' doesn't always come with a set of irons, a hood and a collar attached. (unfortunately!)

The idea of wearing a big heavy obvious padlocked collar is appealing, but in reality it can be a lot less obtrusive. A two-year-old is not going to pick up on the nuances of what you're wearing around your neck unless it's pretty obvious (and to be honest, some of the fashion jewellery around these days looks more like millstones than necklaces to me, and that's vanilla!). Isn't there any way you can carry on wearing a discreet collar and cuffs? (the Eternity range is very 'normal' looking while still retaining that desirable heavyness)

I can understand feelings of regret and sorrow, but (hope I'm not being insensitive) I'm not sure why you're feeling guilty? It sounds like you have a strong and loving relationship now, which is fantastic - sure things could have gone differently in the past but the important thing is that you are now where you need to be, and perhaps if the journey had been different you wouldn't have ended up here after all.

If there is something bad going on at work it is important to address it; if your manager is someone you can't talk to you should go above their head to the next level or perhaps see a private counsellor (not work-related) if it's more about 'the state of your head' than actual problems at work. Why do you feel like you can't show your actual personality at work? Are people unfriendly? bullying? It's doubtful it would be 'acceptable' to go round at work talking to all and sundry about BDSM but you should be able to 'be yourself'.

Lots of hugs and all the best x

"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

While the situation is far from resolved, your kind words have shown us that we are not alone in this, and the hope that a balance can be struck that works for us all.

Again, many thanks.

Kiv.