| 11 Mar 09, 7:29 PM Tenderdom2 4 yrs  |
Oooh... poor puss. It's sad that you feel so bad about your weight. Well, a sustained and reasonable weight-loss would probably be good for your health so it's something positive to aim for, but on the other hand I don't think you have much to feel bad about for not achieving it. Some people are just designed to store fat more than others and it's only recently, in biological terms, that food has been so plentiful that this has become a problem - previously in human history it was a definite advantage! I imagine that trying to stick to a diet is a bit like being an alchoholic and trying to stay dry - one drink and it all comes flooding back. It would take incredible willpower to stay on a diet for life, which is what would be needed if you wanted to remain at a lower weight. So you shouldn't be beating yourself up just because you're not making a superhuman effort! Having said that, it never ceases to amaze me what people CAN achieve. (Losing the original 4 stone is more than I could ever do! You seen how much cake I eat?) So you should have some faith in yourself. Also, have you tried hypnotherapy? Some find that very helpful. Anyway, point is, if you lose weight then that's positive and an achievement so you can be proud of yourself. If you don't, then you're at least as good as any skinny person - just rounder! :D | |
| 11 Mar 09, 9:59 PM The_Counsellor UK(WA), 5 yrs  |
Don't hate yourself. The stress of that puts all the wrong hormones in your body and makes weight loss harder! See my post earlier about resilience - a lot of that applies. I would start by loving you. You are a good looking, capable woman, and being able to be honest. Also remember you have lost weight once. You can do it again. The Counsellor Kink Friendly Counselling and Therapy Let me help you to be the best you that you can be Edited 11 Mar 09, 10:00 PM by The_Counsellor | |
| 11 Mar 09, 10:36 PM littlenic 5 yrs |
If it helps at all - my GP didn't even mention diets, but instead offered me a place on a programme that gives me a supervised exercise programme over 12 weeks at a subsidised rate. Although I'm also looking at what I eat - again, it's not excessive, just the wrong stuff - and getting some focus from writing a food diary (and sharing it with my owners!), I'm also finding that as I exercise and feel healthier, my drive to eat is diminishing without me having to do an awful lot about it. And some days I'm hungrier than others, but that's only to be expected. Good luck. Oh. Are we meant to be dressing up? | |
| 12 Mar 09, 2:11 AM submissivelove 3 yrs |
hi hunny......... had to memo you ...im 47 and have always had a difficult realationship with food/weight.....i have found a balence now and while no expert am happy to chat anytime........ kind wishes cazz | |
| 12 Mar 09, 9:48 AM Sunhillow 7 yrs |
Hi hun,
I hope you're able to find some resources which do help change your thinking/approach, as it sounds like you see food as an enemy and probably do have a borderline eating disorder. I'm afraid I can't help on that front but I do know what you mean about disliking your weight. As others have said you carry it well and look great, but I also know that what matters is how you feel about it. I've also decided I need to do something about my weight. It's slowly been creeping up for the past few years and now I'm a size 16. I just turned 51 and it's not going to get better, only worse, and I am sick of looking awful in whatever I wear. I don't over-eat and don't eat sweet things, but probably do eat too much rich food (sauces with wine & cream for example) and drink too much red wine! So I'm going to start an exercise programme, mainly swimming as I can't do impact stuff 'cos of my back. Hopefully I will lose weight and it will help my back problems & arthritis. I can't offer to be your exercise/diet buddy as I live so far away, but I'm always here if you want to talk. You could go and see your GP and be honest about the things you've done in the past, like starving yourself. They may be able to refer you for some help. All the best, you will get there, but it needs to be in a safe & healthy way. Love & hugs, L xx ~ If you must pick the lesser of two evils; choose the one you've never tried before. ~ |
