Resilience - surviving and thriving (3)

Posted by The_Counsellor on Wed 11 Mar 09, 4:58 PM to The_Counsellor's blog.

“None of us know what life will throw at us, but it's how we 'bounce back' that's important”

Developing Resilience

Resilience - Emotional Resilience is how I name it. I have helped lots of people improve their resilience. There are lots of things you can do to develop it.

How to build your resilience

Be an optimist - See positive side of everything

Have a goal and keep focused on it

Sense of humour and perspective

Appreciate what you have got

Communicate the vision to others

Keep other options in mind

Ask for help

Manage your self talk

Take it personally but not letting it dent your self esteem

Manage high self esteem - focus on achievements & core self worth - remember previous resilience

Think - "How can this work?"

Don't give sanction to pessimists - remind of vision constantly

Cross bridges when you come to them - worrying is negative affirmations

Learn from setbacks

Be persistent

Be opportunistic

Use your support network

Network actively to have support in place

Develop endurance

Make time to think

Take care of Yourself

Edited Wed 11 Mar 09, 5:08 PM by The_Counsellor

Replies

11 Mar 09, 5:21 PM
LadyRed
UK, 9 yrs

Also eat and drink well...play uplifting music.

Do things that make you smile and laugh,

Keep family and friends close and dont be frightend to tell them how you are feeling.

Chocolate and shopping can help lift when down

Honestly, if I wanted your opinion, I would remove the duct tape
"Standing up and being counted is the 1st step in the right direction" by Red.

11 Mar 09, 8:40 PM
Tenderdom2
4 yrs

That was very good, I thought.

I've always wondered how one changes from theory to practice though? For instance, it's good not to worry obviously, but how do you stop it?

11 Mar 09, 9:31 PM
The_Counsellor
UK(WA), 5 yrs

Excellent question. The mind does not understand a "not". The harder you try "not" to, the more your mind focuses on the thing you wish not to do! In principle, therefore, you do some of the other things on the list, and fill your thoughts and feelings with those, crowding out the worry. One of the things I help clients do is craft a thought and feeling state which is the perfect antidote to the "not" in question.

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Edited 11 Mar 09, 9:35 PM by The_Counsellor