Posted by Hybernation
on Mon 9 Mar 09, 8:06 AM to Hybernation's blog.
...People don't usually change. They are what they are. People's personalities are set over a long period of time, the chances of someone changing are rare.
I base decisions I make on that. It's easier to take someone out of your life and say "we just don't match" than to try and change someone. Deal is I probably won't change for anyone so it's not right for me to expect someone to change for me.
| 9 Mar 09, 9:42 AM Lee_Van_Spunkenfrick 3 yrs |
yes and no .... some things will never change ... personality traits formed and cast over many years will be hard to change but not always impossible. maybe it's more a case of if someone wants to change .... how much they are prepared to do to make something work .. i don't know .... for instance .. take someone who has had no luck in their life, bad relationships, one bad thing after another ... they meet the love of their life .. their luck changes ... what was once and has been a miserable person is now a happy charming one .. on the other hand take a happy person and remove all their luck and you get the opposite so .... i suppose it depends on how you want someone to change and why ....
all for one and fuck the rest |
| 9 Mar 09, 1:26 PM rabbot 12 yrs |
People do change over time and in new relationships but those changes may not be what you are looking for, indeed they might be in the 'wrong' direction. 'taste the whip, in love not given lightly, taste the whip now bleed for me' Velvet Underground |
| 9 Mar 09, 6:14 PM Jezzebelle UK, 10 yrs  |
I changed for me not for anyone else. When I realised my adoption was affecting me with no sense of belonging, no blood relatives to glean from I decided to rebuild my self step by step, cool thing is I kinda like myself now! http://www.flickr.com/photos/jezzebelle/ |
