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| Sat 7 Mar 09, 8:59 AM Selena UK(DH), 3 yrs  |
Maybe this is an obvious question, maybe not, I'm gonna ask and find out hehe  My pain tolerance used to be fairly high, in my own opinion, then I got with Master and he built it up even higher, until things that used to be really painful were now just pleasantly stingy and fun lol... Anyway, for one reason or another we have just had a period of around 3weeks where we had almost no "play" so no pain or anything. 2 nights ago we did some "playing" just light flogging, spanking, etc. nothing particularly extreme, all stuff that before was just yummy and nice... and I found it really hard, really painful, not nice, not fun, just ouch!! My pain tolerance is lower than ever right now.... My question is has anyone else ever found that after a period of no "play" or pain or whatever their pain tolerance has dropped significantly lower than ever before?? I'm just curious and thinking I can't be the only one lol... S XXX | |
| 7 Mar 09, 9:29 AM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs    |
You're not the only one. So many factors can affect your tolerance level. Frequency, temperature of the room, your menstrual cycle, your head space, your Dom/me...so many things. "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | |
| 7 Mar 09, 9:29 AM Ghedes_Princess UK(SW), 6 yrs   |
I got in a strop a few weeks ago and didn't let anyone play with me for a bit, when I got over being a grumpy cowbag, I discovered that I was whinging and whining (wow I am really selling myself here!  ) at sensations that i would previously have enjoyed.
So I think yes, in answer to your question xxx | |
| 7 Mar 09, 9:31 AM still_a_newbie UK(G), 5 yrs |
No, you're not the only one. I see my Domme about only twice a month so my pain tolerance isn't very high, although it has built up over time. I tend to find that my pain tolernace is pretty low nearing to my period. Is is possible that that's where the problem has come from? s_a_n | |
| 7 Mar 09, 10:14 AM Coryman UK(PO), 8 yrs |
Ahh. You have discovered my secret. If I see my submissive's pain threshold building up so that punishment is moving toward the excessive, I lower the intensity for a time or have a short lay-off and then when we come back to it she feels it all the more. When the body is repeatedly struck it becomes conditioned and the mind becomes conditioned too, so that even the initial sting before endorphins kick in is ignored. Letting my submissive go a little soft for a short while, makes it possible for her not to be able to take a hand spanking without whimpering. A gourmet whose taste for rich and exotic foods becomes sated and slighly blunted, may suddenly re-discover the relish to be found in a cheese and onion sandwich, or a simple stew. Coryman | |
| 7 Mar 09, 12:51 PM biglittlegirl UK(NE), 3 yrs |
O you beast! I was thinking hormones (especially affecting breasts, but thinking on, sometimes it does feel like all your nerve endings are on the outside of your skin). Or maybe even just if mundane life had maybe made you a bit tense. Please don't tell me your nerve endings really are outside your skin ... | |
| 7 Mar 09, 12:54 PM slavej0903 4 yrs |
i'm quite sure that regular pain increases tolerance: one just get used to it and learns how to cope mentally. First time back after a period pain free is extra edgy! | |
| 7 Mar 09, 2:37 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
My tolerance is quite low. I only play intermittently as I am not in a relationship so my tolerance has never built up which can be a bit of a problem but also adds a frisson of excitement when I meet new people. M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | |
| 7 Mar 09, 2:49 PM Goldilocks UK(SE), 5 yrs |
Pain tolerances definitely vary and how high or low it is can be affected be several factors; time, mood, the person you're playing with, the activity, your hormones (EG - where you are in your menstrual cycle if you're a woman) and more! Your power, our pleasure, my pain. | |
| 7 Mar 09, 10:37 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Mood plays a big part. If I'm stressed, my pain tolerance is considerably lower. It's almost as if I'm so full of stress that everything else kind of bounces off me. I'm not able to drift off into headspace so easily, and my pain tolerance suffers as a result. I'm not sure that, for me, frequency of play has much to do with it. I have gone long periods without play in the past, and when I do get to play, my capacity to take pain is no different ... as long as the headspace is there. ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | |
| 9 Mar 09, 11:13 PM iamafls 6 yrs |
I've yet to have a consistent threshold, each session brings some new sensations that Mistress wants to try (sensations... flogger/cane... whatever) and depending on the time of day, my mood, hours of sleep I've had, etc etc... my threshold seems to vary. One time with the cane I begged and cried and couldn't wait for her to stop, the next I didn't want her to stop at all!! |
